Dating thread 114 - come and join us!

[WavingNotDrowning]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

I guess for a FWB situation the driving isn't a problem but around here if one of you doesn't have a car it can be a real ball ache always being the driver if you're doing, say, an hour each way. In terms of age, I tend to look 5 years older or younger. That's just preference but i guess for FWB could relax that but can't imagine someone 10 years younger interested in a guy that much older, especially as there will be lots of fitter guys nearer them (why see someone 10 years older from 40 miles away if you have the whole of Bristol on your doorstep?

Info that's shocking. What did he do? How did Match respond?

Hi GloucestershireGuy - I think you might have to be a wee bit of a detective. I have a FWB scenario at the moment, but I couldn't put 'casual sex' on my profile cos I live in a small village and some of the parents from school use the site I use!

I've said stuff about being physically affectionate & how independent I am with a very busy life! I think it might be a bit subtle but I've seemed to attract men with the same set of expectations. Also with OKC you can answer the questions about sex privately so it will still match you with people looking for casual sex even if from your profile that might not be explicit.

I've mailed them but no reply yet. He changed my email address to his in the end so I have no way of claiming it back. Tbh it's not subscribed so I'm not too bothered but I'll pursue it out of principle.

I hope some people took screenshots of his profile that I changed it too ha ha before he will have changed it back.

Info crazy people out there. His motives can't be good.

Their hope is to hijack subscribed accounts and they get the functionality for free. Not sure why he wanted mine back though given its not a paid account.

Hmm. Well, missMarketing has gone quiet. Slow to reply, and distracted.

I'll not overthink it. Unfortunately I'm used to this. Everyone can be flaky In the world of online dating..

Hope she picks up Bant as she sounded so promising.

I'm currently messaging someone who goes against a lot of my own rules. Sheer intrigue above all else.

Intrigue is good, info. Someone can tick all your boxes on paper, but be nice, and attractive, but very dull in real life.

Someone who makes you want to find out more about them, that's the most important thing

Gloucestershireguy, I date guys ten years older than me, yes I probably could get a fitter younger guy but I find older men are less childish, more considerate and better in bed .

Getting frustrated with Tinder, I get like 8 matches a day but no one messages me other than the odd 'hi' or 'I like your photo', got a match today with a really fit looking man, love his profile, share interests but a bit younger than what I usually go for, I have being the first to message so I wait .....and I wait......and wait sone more, no one ever messages me .

God OLD is full of twats. Had a guy message,me from the U.S., saying it was love at first sight. I wasn't interested but chatted to him. After a day, he's now deleted his profile! Why do men do this ?????

Lovemusic33 Don't you have to sign in with your Facebook for Tinder? I haven't used it bcs I don't want any connection between Facebook and OLD - STBXH'S family and colleagues are friends on there.
Destinysdaughter
Why do people do anything!!

My daughter broke her arm recently and the adults have not been anywhere near as considerate to her as children.

allthem - Facebook doesn't show anything about you being on tinder. It's quite safe and secure like that.

Phone just made a noise and said I'd got a match on Tinder. Had a look. Absolutely 100% not seen her profile before or swiped right on it. So how come it says we've matched? Is this the equivalent of fake profiles on Match to keep you interested?

She may have changed her profile pictures since you swiped?

She'd have had to change her entire person, let alone update her pics. I have a pretty photographic memory but aside from that I haven't right swiped many people but i definitely haven't right swiped anyone of this woman's size or whose profile text goes on about how much time she spends at church and finding someone with religious belief is essential...

GloucestershireGuy, maybe it's divine intervention are you going to message her?
My current iron is not the usual man I'd message: covered in tattoos and no hair. But he's fun to talk to.
Info I did the same as you on Saturday, amazing the difference it's made.

"i definitely haven't right swiped anyone of this woman's size or whose profile text goes on about how much time she spends at church and finding someone with religious belief is essential..."

I may be way off beam here....but if that's what they're using for fake profiles......it's not the best hook, is it?

No, probably not. Very odd, though, definitely didn't swipe this woman. If I'm being matched with people I'm not swiping, makes you wonder if the reverse might also be happening, is there are people i have matched with that I'm not notified about

MrsPussinBoots - you are chatting to Info :)

I am a bit worried my weird sense of humour may have blown things with Mr pizza who I am supposed to be having a 3rd date with this week.
He is really funny and light hearted and so I have really relaxed and enjoyed chatting to him. But I am a bit worried that maybe I overstepped the mark a couple of times - it is genuinely me trying to be funny but then I send and read back and think "that could be taken the wrong way!" and could have been mildly offended by it.
I guess that's the trouble with texting, there's no tone of voice or way to judge how they have reacted. I hope I haven't blown it though!

I have had matches come up that I'm sure I haven't swiped on ( not my type).

Ha ha it's not me. I kinda have no hair in that I just shaved it off, but it's there :)

POF has gone crazy. Getting loads of views and meet me and all sorts. I can't believe it. All that time I thought I was just horrid or something and now suddenly it's like a switch has been flicked and I'm Mr Popular. It's awesome!!

For me, it's Bumble. I think women hunt on Mondays..

I always have '99+' next to the 'meet me' thing and over 20 'notifications' but none of it seems to mean anything.