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My Dh died this morning and I don't know how to go on

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JuanPotatoTwo · 27/02/2017 19:18

But I will because I have to, because I have 4 incredible dc he loved.

I'm so so sad, didn't see it coming this time. Been lots of occasions in the past when we thought we'd lose him but he fought back and pulled through. Too much for him this time. One month today we would have been married 24 years.

Being self indulgent posting but I'm trying to put on brave front for dc even though 3 of them are adult and trying to be brave for me. We all loved him so much.

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Catzpyjamas · 27/02/2017 21:33

JuanPotatoTwo, sending you and your DCs huge hugs and much love Flowers

SavageBeauty73 · 27/02/2017 21:34

I'm so sorry. Sending love to you and your family.

OhTheRoses · 27/02/2017 21:34

I've read lots of your posts over lots of years but I'm hopeless at remembering who writes what.

I feel I know you as a passing chum. I am so sorry my old friend. Flowers

CaptainHammer · 27/02/2017 21:34

So sorry for your loss Flowers

berylfreak · 27/02/2017 21:36

I'm so sorry. You are not being self-indulgent at all. Take one day at a time, one hour, one minute if needed. I am sure you have lots of people who will be there for you. Take care x

Creampastry · 27/02/2017 21:36

Thinking of you xx

HellonHeels · 27/02/2017 21:36

I'm so sorry about your husband Flowers

His work in this life is completed and he has left a beautiful legacy in the family you made together. I had a smile at "The Mumsnet" xxxx

ArseHasFallenApart · 27/02/2017 21:37

Best wishes Juan Flowers

OhYouBadBadKitten · 27/02/2017 21:37

mn will move this over if you ask them to.

pishedoff · 27/02/2017 21:38

Thinking of you and your family Juan Flowers

Hassled · 27/02/2017 21:39

I'm so sorry. The level of shock must be horrendous. But it sounds like he knew he was very much loved.

PickAChew · 27/02/2017 21:41

So sorry for your loss, Juan. It sounds like he'll leave a big hole in your lives in so many ways x

If you want this thread moved to somewhere more permanent, it would be a good idea to report your OP to MNHQ asking if they can move it for you. There is a bereavement topic in the body and soul section alongside relationships, if you feel that would be more appropriate.

MammaTJ · 27/02/2017 21:42

So so sorry for your loss. I know nothing I will say right now will make it hurt less but I have to just say that anyway, because I care.

I love that he called us 'The mumsnet', I hope he knows 'the mumsnet' is here for you, and I hope you do too!

He sounds lovely. Thank goodness you have the support of your children, who have been brought up so well by you two lovely people!

Do you want to tell us more about him?

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JakeBallardswife · 27/02/2017 21:44

So sorry to hear this, loving ' the mumsnet'. My thoughts are with you. Flowers

laurzj82 · 27/02/2017 21:44

So so sorry for your loss Flowers

You're husband sounds like a wonderful man. I also Grin at the mumsnet!

Big unmumsnetty hugs

Margie32 · 27/02/2017 21:47

I also smiled at "The Mumsnet" and shed a tear at the cup of tea left on the side.

Much love to you and your DCs Juan, may you find comfort in each other and may your lovely DH rest in peace.

SquinkiesRule · 27/02/2017 21:48

So sorry for your loss Juan. Very sad news.

Fruitboxjury · 27/02/2017 21:48

I'm so sorry for your loss Juan Flowers, he will be immensely proud of his wonderful wife and mother to his beloved children

DramaAlpaca · 27/02/2017 21:49

Juan I've just seen this.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

My condolences to you and your DC, many unMumsnetty hugs to you.

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wtffgs · 27/02/2017 21:50

I am so sorry for your heartbreaking loss Flowers

PacificDogwod · 27/02/2017 21:50

So sorry for your loss, Juan Thanks
Please accept my heartfelt condolences - the love you have for him shines out of every post of yours.

DragonNoodleCake · 27/02/2017 21:51

Love and hugs for you Flowers

50ShadesOfEarlGrey · 27/02/2017 21:52

What a wonderful outpouring of love for you, from The mumsnet. Love to your children too. It doesn't matter if it's expected or not, nor what age the person is, it is a difficult time for those left behind, but you and your children will all be there for each other.

It sounds like your husband was a great man who left you with a store of wonderful memories to call on for when you are ready.
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NoelHeadbands · 27/02/2017 21:53

He sounds like a lovely man. I'm so sorry for your loss x

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 27/02/2017 21:55

I'm so very sorry Juan Flowers

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