I think I will ask my big advice one now about a situation not in OLD. Would love some advice on this from anyone with an opinion and anyone who cares to read it!!
So I've worked with a lass for over ten years, we get on well. We've always had a bit of a connection I think, always understood each other I reckon. Over the past couple of years I started to really like her and it started to bother me a bit. From the sense that I felt I needed to do something about it. We work in the same building and same business so it's technically possible not to see each other all day, just adding that in there.
We both tend to finish about 6pm and we end up sat chatting together for over an hour after work a lot. This is a common occurrence so it made me think she liked me too and that it was worth asking. I bottled asking a few times so decided to message her and ask her out. It was that or nothing really. She replied to say she was flattered but wouldn't go out with anyone from work because people either interfere or it's awful when it goes wrong. She's a sensible girl so I can get this point of view, the cynical side of me saw it as an easier way to say no without making it about me personally.
So, that was probably about six months ago but we still chat after work and it was after 8pm one night a couple of weeks ago. This is where I get confused and don't understand.
Why would anyone sit with someone in the office until that time a few times a week if they weren't interested? Yes she's a friend but I have much better friends that I wouldn't sit in the office with on an evening.
If someone asked you out and you said no, would you spend that time with them knowing that they're after you in that way?
I doubt I'd ever ask her out again because she's said no before and because I don't want to make an idiot out of myself. It took everything I had to do it the first time around.
Should I back away? Should I just take it as what it is? Should I ask her again? It's hard for me to fathom out what it's all about!