What kind of men use prostitutes?

[Snugglepalace]

Dh has an outside job which involves spending time on various roads within towns and villages.
A couple of weeks ago he was working on a street in our local town. An everyday street with semi detached homes.
After a day or so Dh and his work colleagues noticed one particular house had a lot of 'visitors'. All the visitors were well dressed men arriving in nice cars. It averaged around 4 men per hour!
At lunchtime a car pulled up (the driver had pizzas) and the door was opened,there was an older woman in the hallway and several younger looking women loitering in the hallway also.
Dh and workmates are convinced it was a brothel. Over the weeks that they were working there they would glare at the men going in and said some of them looked very embarrassed once they realised they had been noticed, one even parked in a nearby supermarket and tried to get in the back way.
I know these things go on but what got me was the thought that surely, several, if not most of these men must have (oblivious?!) partners etc.

[TheSparrowhawk]

There is no way any sane person would ever recommend to her daughter a job in which rape is a daily occupational hazard. If you would recommend that life to your daughter Ford, then you are an unhinged monster.

[Offred]

To me it doesn't matter how many sex workers enjoy the money or the work.

The selling and purchase of sex undermines the very concept of consent. I also have issues with the very gendered nature of it and the connection to sexism.

[SparklyUnicornPoo]

NotThe aren't you worried about the safety side? I mean these men obviously have no respect for women, some of them must be violent/abusive? Plus the risks of STD's, obviously not all prostitutes have STD's, maybe not even most, but some will and men using prostitutes probably aren't just using one prostitute?

You might have chosen that lifestyle but there are indoor sex workers that haven't, doesn't that bother you?

[loobyloo1234]

I think this is the attitude that underpins those who use and condone sex work

It's not condoning it by saying single men go as they can't get laid elsewhere. It's just facts

Pimps are the absolute worst for me. Getting girls hooked on god knows what, so that they become so reliant on the money to pay for the drugs, there is no way out unless they are taken off the streets by organisations and so on?

It's a very sad world for some girls Ford - and I'm sure you know that even if you don't want to admit it yourself

[Myrobalanna]

I have never heard from a man that he uses prostitutes. The only one I know about is my stepfather (my mother told me he used to) and he's a c**t.
I seriously hope nobody I know does - I know, I know, yeah yeah most men do it or half of men do it, or whatever....god I wouldn't be able to speak to anyone who told me he did this!

[DianaMemorialJam]

I think 'scum' is the word you're looking for

[NotTheFordType]

Yes Looby, I would say the majority of clients are married/partnered but I do get a lot of single guys as well. Sometimes it's because they are lacking confidence in their attractiveness. For others it's that they are afraid of emotional intimacy so prefer to keep it a transactional relationship.

[Offred]

It's not condoning it by saying single men go as they can't get laid elsewhere. It's just facts

Well exactly, men who feel entitled to get sexual services from women.

Never bothered to think what women do when they 'can't get laid'? Or why there aren't loads of men in brothels, escort agencies and street prostitutes servicing women who are unhappy with the sex they 'get' from their husbands/men in general?

[TheSparrowhawk]

Ford - this is a genuine question - why do you think women generally don't use male prostitutes?

[AQuietMind]

I think some posters have been quite rude to NotTheFordType, The op asked a question and Ford simply answered in a factual manner about something she clearly knows about.

[Offred]

And FWIW on an individual level I am glad that ford is making good money AND enjoying the work.

It wouldn't change my opinion of sex work in general if ALL sex workers felt the way Ford does.

[TheSparrowhawk]

Yes because when someone comes online saying something that goes against all evidence collected by actual real women, we should just say 'oh well yes women being bought for sex is fine, thanks for telling us.'

Ford said she would be happy for her daughter to be a prostitute. That's a mother supposedly saying she's happy for her daughter to face the prospect of someone violently sexually assaulting her on a daily basis. Does that sound like someone who's sincere to you?

[whoputthecatout]

If it's work, as NotTheFordType says, why is it not advertised in the job centres?

[ShoutOutToMyEx]

If a single man can't find a woman who wants to have consensual, non coercive sex with him, I think he just shouldn't have sex, to be honest.

No one has a right to 'get laid'.

[bikingintherain]

I'll preface this by saying I haven't RTFT, I will go back this afternoon when I have time. But what you describe in you OP contain signs of trafficking. If I were you DH, I would report it to the police.

[NotTheFordType]

As I've said repeatedly - yes some girls want to leave the industry and hate the job. Again, I've helped people do that. But the fact that they don't like it and want to leave doesn't mean I have to stop doing a job I enjoy, and my engagement in sex work has no effect on them.

Sparkly - I have a pretty tight screening process before agreeing to see a new client. The vast majority of clients I see are polite, respectful and pleasant. I make it clear what services I offer before the booking. Anyone who tries any porn star rubbish (deep throat for eg) gets told to pack it in. If they don't then I ask them to leave. I've never felt threatened.

STIs - I get checked once a month for everything. I use condoms, without exception - I don't personally know any sex workers who don't. There are still risks even with condoms of course but every job has its risks.

[loobyloo1234]

Offred - read Ford's PP about why single men go to her. I know it doesn't fit your narrative but not all men that go to see a prositute do it because they feel entitled

[Offred]

Eh looby - where do you read that?

[NotTheFordType]

Sparrow to answer your genuine question, I don't know why women generally don't buy sex. I'm sure there are a lot of reasons. Some women do, of course.

Would you like me to prove I'm a sex worker?

[TheSparrowhawk]

'Sparkly - I have a pretty tight screening process before agreeing to see a new client.'

Hahaha. So what do you do, ask for references? A full medical history?

[ArcheryAnnie]

loobyloo that's the very definition of feeling "entitled", though. He can't be arsed to chat up a woman? He thinks he's still entitled to sex, so buys it. Doesn't think he's attractive to women? He's still thinks he's entitled to sex, so buys it. Ad nauseum.

[AssassinatedBeauty]

Of course these single men feel entitled. They feel they deserve sex, and so they feel entitled to buy access to a women's body. If they didn't feel entitled to use women's bodies for sex then they'd reconcile themselves to not having sex.

NotThe you said "my engagement in sex work has no effect on them." I think this is a very naive attitude tbh.

[TheSparrowhawk]

'Sparrow to answer your genuine question, I don't know why women generally don't buy sex. I'm sure there are a lot of reasons. '

You know full well why women don't buy sex. You absolutely know.

[NotTheFordType]

Whoput - self employed positions generally aren't advertised in job centres.

[CravingNutella]

Erm men who want no strings sex with beautiful looking women.