But what you can't see right now is that the proof doesn't matter; the trust is already gone. Even if he didn't go and shag someone else, he still went looking, still exchanged messages, still created an account and he still lied about it. Proof or no proof you will spend night after night lying in bed whilst he sleeps next to you, looking at him in the dark and wondering if today was the day that he reactivated his account. Every time he is in a bad mood, or distant, or late home, or just 'off', you'll wonder if there is more to it and if it means he is messaging sex workers behind your back.
Is this what you want for the rest of your life? You'll kill your happiness, your confidence and your self-esteem by constantly analysing and second-guessing everything.
Superbly put, Mr. Dacres.
Mary, I think counselling is a great idea - but only for you as an individual client to have someone to talk to for YOU. No harm to think about talking to a solicitor to ascertain your financial position in all potential outcomes either.
If he wants to get counselling then he's free to go look for one for himself. He seems eminently capable of researching local service providers and does not need to share yours. Though I'd be biting my tongue to avoid bitchily asking if he would book four counsellors and not turn up for any sessions of those either.