Couple swapping

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Hello

New name, you know....

I am on here a lot but not this topic.

Anyway....

Advice please....

Happily married - typical 2 kids mid 30s etc etc

Friends have suggested quite openly that we swap. We are due to stay at thiers tomorrow night, they live about 100 miles away.

We have a relaxed, chatty, friendly relationship with them. Been on holiday as couples. Not that long standing. No deep and meaningful discussions.

The haven't swapped before and neither have we. My husband and I had vaguely thought about it before kids with another couple but it never happened. This couple just sort of suggested we all try the last time we met up which was for dinner rather than staying over. Holiday means that boobs, bums, wobbly bits, and so on have already been exposed.

I have to admit, I fancy the idea, hubby too, and I texted just now to say ummmmm ok.

Thoughts?

Bad idea?

SH

Surely a courgette is more mushy than a butternut squash?

Yes I think you are probably right in the raw state that the squash is firmer.

but cooked butternut turns mushy whereas courgette has more body to it. Must have something to do with the starch content. I'd think the butternut squash has more sugar in it. But perhaps I shall experiment as I've never spiralised anything so may be talking out my arse.

Crikey....that got me thinking about marrows. They are like big courgettes but you don't see them much these days. Me mam and dad used to grow them on the allotment and then stuff them with mince and potatoes and bake them. Very filling if I remember correctly, and used to make my uncle break wind.

Oh please, just because I don't do the nauseating DH/DS/DD thing doesn't mean that I have never heard of Mumsnet. The rest of the world thinks that is really weird you know. Husband, son, daughter is normal.

Well we are doing it.

Really regret asking here. Not sure what I was thinking. Moment of madness.

And I have made a courgette quiche.

I'm going against the grain here op, I say go for it. If you've both agreed it's something you both want and you're comfortable with your friends I wouldn't worry about others opinions. Some of the comments attacking your morals and parenting were frankly fucking outrageous. I wouldn't personally, but don't judge what you and your husband consent to. Hope you have fun.

Ooh good luck. Hope the 200 mile round trip is worth it, and don't forget to update us.

The 'DH' thing on MN is absolutely fine and not nauseating. Hubby on the other hand-bleurgh.

Anyway there's always the Sex Topic next time.

'And I have made a courgette quiche.'

But OP I think it was more the fact you claim to be 'on here a lot' but didn't even bother to change your name from user123. If you really had been on here a lot you'd know how everyone feels about and responds to the majority of 'user's.

Courgette quiche? Couldn't you be more adventurous with it

Nowt wrong with 'hubby' but on here you're belittled and berated if you dare to do what you're comfortable with and aren't assimilated into the MN clique of accepted communication.

I use DH2b but would use hubby, DH, Man, Husband..soon.

Anyway are you going to do this then?

If I was going to someone's house and they suggested swapping, I would assume it was a joke, not an invitation

Imagine if it was just a joke and OP and her DH whip their clothes off after the dessert course and are sitting waiting expectantly in the nip...

My toes curled just writing that

I expect that you are all so up for it, a bit of wine, and....hey...not much food will get eaten tonight.

The sad bit is in the morning. When you look at each across the brunch table. Knowing, just knowing that it only goes as far as exchanging bodily fluids. As the courgette quiche with just a thin 12 degree wedge missing is slowly, oh so slowly, passed back across the kitchen table wrapped in foil.

To bring back home. As they keep their Beef Wellington.

To enjoy later.

Without you.

DH is far more annoying to type than an actual word. I don't like it either.

Have you got a sitter for the kids?

Do report back..

Right. I'll add courgette to the things to grow with the DDs this year (onion, garlic, purple carrots, orange carrots so far). I had a huge crop 3 years ago, ended up leaving them out the front with a 'free to a good home' sign.

DH is 'annoying' to type?

How is 'DH' annoying to type? It's literally two letters.

Place marking to see how it goes... are you & dh taking the courgette quiche with you?

Have fun OP!

Ignore the boring pearl-clutchers. They spend so much time here disapproving of others because it makes themselves feel better about their mundane lives.

Middle aged is 30-60, over 60 is old.
I find that comforting, that I have been middle aged for aaages, so its not something to dread.
I wondered why no courgettes in Mozzas today! I bought a cabbage instead.

'Pearl clutchers' and 'mundane' on a swingers thread.

'Middle aged is 30-60, over 60 is old.'
No. Just no.

Also, a cabbage is a poor substitute for a courgette.

I'd just like to say I write husband or hubby, I find the whole "dear" or "darling" husband rather nauseating, don't call him that in real i life, not gonna pretend or start on line. 😂

User2837474748338744747484636262525 is not a "new name"

No one on MN ever signs off with their initials.

Especially if they are going to swing.

Post on the sex topic or have you not been here 90 days so has to swing in chat?

I don't get the nauseating thing. DH just means husband on MN, i don't even give the 'dear' thing a thought and DH is quicker to type. Everyone knows what you mean.

Non MN emojis make me a bit though.