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Couple swapping

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user1484939839 · 20/01/2017 19:23

Hello

New name, you know....

I am on here a lot but not this topic.

Anyway....

Advice please....

Happily married - typical 2 kids mid 30s etc etc

Friends have suggested quite openly that we swap. We are due to stay at thiers tomorrow night, they live about 100 miles away.

We have a relaxed, chatty, friendly relationship with them. Been on holiday as couples. Not that long standing. No deep and meaningful discussions.

The haven't swapped before and neither have we. My husband and I had vaguely thought about it before kids with another couple but it never happened. This couple just sort of suggested we all try the last time we met up which was for dinner rather than staying over. Holiday means that boobs, bums, wobbly bits, and so on have already been exposed.

I have to admit, I fancy the idea, hubby too, and I texted just now to say ummmmm ok.

Thoughts?

Bad idea?

OP posts:

BeverlyGoldberg · 22/01/2017 21:49

"I'm going to fuck your fucking fanny off you twat" - that one cockacidalmaniac?

Interestingly the actors who played those characters recently got engaged. Aww.

BeverlyGoldberg · 22/01/2017 21:51

Was courgette quiche a euphemism?

wineusuallyhelps · 22/01/2017 21:53

Haven't RTFT but I've seen the chance to use my favourite Inbetweeners quote, so I'm going for it.

"The gash isn't going to fuck itself."

I guess it didn't.

ballsdeep · 22/01/2017 21:59

You had sex twice with another man, then 'warm' sex with your dh?
That makes me gag! I know people swing but ffs I couldn't have sex with another knowing my dh was shagging a woman next door....and then welcome him back into my bed for another go!! Boak

endofacentury · 22/01/2017 22:02

God this is totally grim, and the way the op is acting like she's all cool with it. Yeah ok then... 🤥

Original poster

user1484939839 · 22/01/2017 22:08

I get that people don't approve of swapping/swinging or whatever you want to call it.

But the people who are surprised that couple swapping means that both couples swap partners and then have sex, what on Earth did you think happened?

OP posts:

endofacentury · 22/01/2017 22:11

Did either of you even shower before you had sex with your husband pretty much straight after her...

ballsdeep · 22/01/2017 22:11

I think people are surprised you had sex with your husband straight after!!!

gamerchick · 22/01/2017 22:18

Yeah I have to admit I would struggle to have sex with him with the smell of another woman all over him and visa versa, especially if oral came into it without a face wash. But I'm supposing it comes with the territory, I've never done the swapping thing.

As long as you're all happy.

Underthemoonlight · 22/01/2017 22:24

You basically just had sex with your lovers wife and your dh had sex your lover the fact the same bodily fluid would have been present. 😖

Greenifer · 22/01/2017 22:28

This is slut shaming. Get over yourselves, rude people. No, this is not what most people want from a relationship but neither is there anything inherently wrong with it. It does not sound like anyone was coerced into doing something they did not want to do. It sounds like everyone enjoyed themselves.

OP, this isn't my bag but I am happy for you that you had a good time.

FuckOffDailyMailQuitQuotingMN · 22/01/2017 22:32

but do you think that the sloppy seconds issue is perhaps not at the core of this debate. I have to admit, I didn't see why they were bothered but they asked and it is easy enough to go along with.

You know of all this conversation I find this the most disturbing- that the men wanted to be clear about their expectations of the female vaginas and the cleanliness. Seriously? The men told the women how the women were to clean their vaginas!

And no this is not a "debate" you asked for opinions. People gave them and you took offense and insulted the people whose very opinion you sought.

BeverlyGoldberg · 22/01/2017 22:42

It's just so bizarre that you went off to different rooms and the swapped back. Did your "hubby" have to knock on to make sure you'd finished before he hopped on?

And I agree with the clean vagina debate. Did you stipulate they give their tackle a quick rinse before swapping back?

gunting · 22/01/2017 22:51

Not sure which term is more grim - 'hubby' or 'sloppy seconds'

TiggyD · 22/01/2017 22:54

I don't like the sound of bagpipes but I wouldn't go onto a bagpipe lover's thread to say nobody should play them.

If I can't hear it you can blow what you want and squeeze the bag to your hearts content.

PussInCoutts · 22/01/2017 23:10

I don't get what sloppy seconds means in this context. Surely if the point was to fuck the swappy partners, that would've made your DTD with DH sloppy seconds? What did I miss? I feel like I'm 8

And am terribly missing courgettes. Discovered courgette spiralling this month and now... grrr

Greenifer · 22/01/2017 23:15

I don't like the sound of bagpipes but I wouldn't go onto a bagpipe lover's thread to say nobody should play them.

Exactly this. How rude. They all seem to have enjoyed themselves and wtf is wrong with that? I am horrified at the level of nastiness on this thread. Why do you all care so much? Is it really beyond your level of empathy to see that not everyone's sexuality is exactly the same? If so, I feel very sorry for you all. I personally would not enjoy this scenario. However, there are doubtless things that I like and you don't. It's not wrong for me to enjoy those things in a consensual scenario. It's not wrong for you not to want to do them. Blimey. Really horrified by the unpleasant comments. I couldn't give a fuck about anyone else's kinks as long as they are happy with them. OP, ignore this thread as long as you are happy. That's all that matters.

BillyButtfuck · 22/01/2017 23:22

Puss

Sloppy seconds according to Urban Dictionary:
1)When one man has unprotected sexual intercourse with a woman who's vagina still contains fresh semen from a previous partner.

toldmywraath · 22/01/2017 23:30

I'm with pussinCoutts () and I don't understand the concept of sloppy seconds in this situation.

PussInCoutts · 22/01/2017 23:30

Billy Thanks okay so they did fuck, but the women had to ...wash after... TMI.... curiosity kills the puss--

Livelovebehappy · 22/01/2017 23:30

Can't believe that anyone on this thread actually thinks the OP's post is a genuine one? Sounds to me like it's someone getting off on telling a story about wife swapping and feeding off all your sexual comments.

toldmywraath · 22/01/2017 23:32

And just to be controversial, I think courgettes are way overrated. But perhaps I'm not doing the right things with them.

Ha! Autocorrect suggested way overpriced!!

gunting · 22/01/2017 23:48

Live agreed. Who on earth has time to drive up and down the country, sleep with their husband and his mate a few times and post real time updates? I'm exhausted thinking about it

CaraAspen · 22/01/2017 23:52

But Jay is a deluded yoof...
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CaraAspen · 22/01/2017 23:54

"ballsdeep

I think people are surprised you had sex with your husband straight after!!!"

Dearie me, yes. Urgh

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