Dating thread no 112, still searching for a valentine.....

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Hope it's ok for me to start a new thread as the other is full, I have copied and pasted the rules.

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. *edited by MNHQ at OP's request*

Hmmm, yes, fair enough carrie, that does sound as if he's faded a bit over the last few days.....although, if I were you, before giving him up as a lost cause, I'd text him "So, still up for next weekend? How about that place with the fire breathing midgets we were talking about?" and see what he says (men LOVE fire breathing midgets ).

One thing I'm sure of, brittany: Not sure exactly what it is I'm looking for, but I. Will. Never. Be. Living. With. A. Partner. Never never never never. Never!! .

Surely having a boyfriend who has his own life and whom you see a couple of times a week is eminently possible?? (but not with the latest Tinder neurotic, obvs ).

I'm on a date tomorrow with an iron I've had for a week. He seems lovely and we have face timed a few times so feel like I already know who I'm meeting but I will be sticking to the rules after I had a runner 2 weeks ago!

Now for the pre-date nerves!

I don't want to live with anyone either - I get that.

So am I minion been chatting 9 days and spoken on the phone. first date tomorrow night, so the "what shall i wear" angst has begun

minop my autocorrect kindly changed you to a small yellow cartoon character, my apologies

Last I know that feeling. I'm meeting him from work at 6 so can't do too dressy. Plus he's 5"8 I'm 5"7 so no heels. It's either skinny jeans and shirt with just the right amount of cleavage and knee boots no heal or mini skirt, tights, black top no cleavage, same boots. Only problem my teenager told me I look like a warrior in my boots, why do they have to say these things?!?

We've been talking 9 days too. Maybe that's good luck!
I was unsure of face timing at first, iv done phone calls before a date and preferred that than just text but I like the fact I've seen the way he talks, does that sound weird? Like I can see his expressions and makes him more real.

Minop and last I too have a 1st date tomorrow.
He does not (thankfully) live with his Mum. Have been pleasantly surprised how easily we have got on while chatting on the phone. I will call him Mr Norm.

aloha beautiful daters
glad to read things are going well for a lot of you and the mood is generally upbeat
Yes, I can see it has taken its toll on a few, but hey if even the Wise Bant has a wobble, anything and everything is possible

remember you sound such a sweet and sensible person, your down under man is indeed very lucky
love your mr MOD sounds allover the place, whether is also not that into you its anybody guess, bit you come across as such good fun, I am more inclined to think he is just a mess all around ;) Don't send him that shitty msg - if it was me I would bail out with " I really really like you but looks like bad timing. Get back in touch when your life slow down" or else to that effect
lettuce oh the relief (not at mum's)
info stop thinking, start shagging
Carrie how very off-putting when people leave the ping on, I find it re soooo annoying, and cheap. Mute the bloody thing on I date ffs !
mrs and other poster celebrating anniversary with The Younger Men, I raise my glass to you
and to everyone having first dates = Hasta la victoria Siempre =

Inthemood
Such wise words!
Info - more irons needed. Can I ask what your arm tat is of?
Bant - you always have such good advice.
I am unsure if date with Mr Norm will happen Friday evening as I have spent hours in minor injuries and A&E today with a suspected kidney stone.

Inthemood - you are indeed very sweet to say!

With yet another weekend coming up I am hoping for lots of interesting dating stories. My weekends tend to merge into my weeks lately. I work from home (self employed) so I don't stick to regular working hours and this weekend will involve some work.

The only up of the weekend is that Mr Overseas has a little more free time and can chat for longer at at more convenient times. But of course he wants to spend time with his children on the weekend.

I need some non-dating related social events to attend. I am going out for valentines evening with some other single friends though which will be fun.

Whats the Valentines protocol when you don't know someone all that well? I am planning just a silly message - no grand gestures.

Well I'm not meeting mr security on V day but the following Saturday (date 4) we have swanky restaurant and hotel room booked so we plan to celebrate the day along with both our birthdays then

Good things come in 3's??? I do hope so

Good luck minop and last - I hope you dates go well today

Thanks Bernie will update later and look out for one from minop
How about you lettuce? Are you better and going on your date also?
It's freezing out today! Not helping me choose a decent outfit

Finally back from hospital and re-arranged for tomorrow evening. Just need some sleep.
Happy dating and have a good weekend everyone

Ha ha stop thinking, start shagging is pretty sound advice, will try my best!!

My arm tat is part of a full sleeve I'm part way through. Just takes ages, two days in and easily another three to go on it. Will be worth it though, looking cool so far :)

I did have a couple of offers btw. I was offered it on a plate from a married woman. Turned her down. That's not my scene. Could have deffo got it also from a local lass who was coming on strong but I didn't want to date her so I wasn't going to sleep with her either. Also not my scene.

I'll wait, she will be worth it :)

Feeling nervous. Have not had a date since before the summer. Feeling rusty!

Info at least you know what you want...& don't want!

Lots of interesting updates. Hope everyone's weekend goes well.

I think I'm going to tell my '1hr date' from the other day to sling his hook. He's constantly messaging me. If I go on POF he'll spot that I'm online and send a message. Same with WhatsApp. And it's not just one message it's 3 or 4.
This is the guy who said he didn't want a LTR as he'd just come out of a long marriage. He did apologise when I said I felt like I was being stalked. I haven't arranged date2 yet even though he keeps asking. I'm just too busy. And I'm finally going to have a phone call with MrBuilder tonight so I want to see how that goes.

I went to the chippy for tea on the way home and the women in there were saying how 'art' my tattoo was and talking loads about it and telling me to come back in and show them when it's finished. Felt flirty, maybe there is hope for me yet.

Neither my type btw ha ha.

Mr Nurse contacted me again today, he's not been in touch because he was worried about the age of my DCs, he's 10 years older than me so his DCs are 10 years older than mine.

We've had a little chat and I've explained I'm not looking for a husband or father for my DCs and he's gone off to work tonight to have a little think. So we'll see, I've got a few irons from Tinder and one has just suggested meeting up, so maybe we'll have a coffee together.

What are DCs?

DCs Darling Children

My date was great, same height as me and on paper not my type but had a great smile and even better personality. We sat and talked and laughed and had a nice night. He walked me to a taxi and asked me to text him when I got in which I have done.
Kissed at the taxi, think he was disappointed there was no taxi cue to kiss longer. I know I was.
He's already replied. I hope this goes somewhere as i like him.
Hope it's going well for you Last and good flirting practice info. Xx

Great news minop he sounds lovely.
I wonder how last is getting on.

Rescheduled Mr Norm 1st date for tomorrow evening. Unsure, he is a few years older and not tall; however we have got on when phoning. Will just have to wait and see.