My ex is back in contact

[Bigfluffybear]

Hello long time lurker but decided to post for advice. Please be nice to me!

If you really feel the need you could reply with a very superficial reply, being civil but not giving any information away. Say that you're well.

But....be aware that that could be opening a door to who knows what. Maybe you feel curious? The other thing is that you don't need to reply straightaway. Leave it for a week and see how you feel then. You haven't been in touch this long, a few more days won't make a difference.

Racoon i never really expected him to leave her but i wanted a relationship i could go public with and that obvs wasnt with him.

He isn't worth a reply. Blick. No e on.

Why yuk racoon?

You exposed your child to a seedy affair and played happy families that's yuk OP
Conduct yourself in whatever way you want but to drag your son in to it is pretty vile.

Block. Move on. For the sake of your self worth and sanity.

I was young

I was young

Poor excuse.

How on earth did he go on holiday with you and your child while he was married? What lie did he tell her? Poor poor woman. Utterly cruel of both of you. Perhaps you deserve each other

He must have told her he was away for business it was common in that field. I don't feel good about it raccoon

Yeah sure that's why you are so eager to get in touch with a lying cheat.

Look OP you are not young now
You know the way the world works. If you think all you deserve is a cheating scumbag then go for it.

Block

You know what will happen, the two of you will get together and everything will be wonderful...

Until he cheats on you with someone younger that is...

Maybe we've both grown up and I'm still young thanks

Your still you g but from past experience those men never change. Seriously. Block and delete. Or do t take our advice and message him back. Your choice.

He was married. You were young and a student on placement in his workplace. He used you for sex with no intention of leaving his wife.
^ THIS X100.
People don't change. They come out or hide. They don't change.
He is trying you now to see if you are stupid enough to take the burden of his old age again. And I am sure he has tried quite a few YOUNGER women before you which makes me ask what makes you think he won't cheat if you become his "the one" like his wife was all these years ago?

Hedda I'm not a cruel person I made a mistake and should have pushed for him to leave her but at the time I didn't have the confidence to do that.

Your still young* that was supposed to say

Also a married man won't most of the time leave his wife x-post

You might still be young, he's still a cheat

Racoon i never really expected him to leave her but i wanted a relationship i could go public with and that obvs wasnt with him.

What??? Are you slightly unhinged OP?
I would love to see AnyFucker take that line and dissect it.

Some people grow up. I have and I wouldn't go with a married man now.

I'm not unhinged valentine

You sound like you've already made your mind up and just want us to say, yeah go for it.

Or you're a goady fucker and know how much cheating spouses and blasé other women riles mumsnet posters.

So, whatever, do what you want, you're a grown up.

If he's real, he's a shit. If he isn't real, you're a shit.

HTH.

Then how do you explain this?