Help me respond (or not) to this message

[TellMeHowToLiveMyLife]

Just had a friend request on Facebook from a woman I didn't recognise. I saw we had a lot of friends in common from my hometown so thought was maybe someone from my school I'd forgotten about. After I accepted I had a nose through pics I realise its the wife of my first boyfriend.

A few minutes after I accept I receive this message from her "Hi TellMe, this is going to sound odd but I'm married to "Dave" who I believe you used to date? Just found some old photos of him and wondering if you can remember and let me know exactly when you broke up? Ps I'm quite normal really!"

"Dave" and I broke up properly about 9 years ago but were then shagging each other prob onc a month or so until I got together with my now dh 8 years ago. Having scrolled through this woman's profile she posted a message a few months ago saying "Happy anniversary Dave -2 kids, 5 years of marriage and 10 years of fun". That suggests to me there was some serious cross over between our relationships. Or maybe they've just known each other 10 years?

Argh, I really don't want to reply if it's going to cause a shit storm. She can see i've read the message so I need to reply don't I? Can I pretend I dont remember?

it's none of my business but I'm still keen to know what she replies, if she replies.

I don't think the OP is mean to block her now, the reason the woman friend requested her no longer exists as she has the dates now. The OP hasn't been vague and has given the woman all she has to offer her: the facts. There is now no reason for them to be connected on Facebook. What happens next is nothing to do with the OP

You've blocked her again after unblocking her?
How odd. Facebook won't let you do that . You can only reblock after 48hrs have passed.

Yes whattocallbabyboy, you are right. You can't block within 48 hours of unblocking.

I think you've done the right thing too

You can block and unblock as much as you like on Messenger. Only if you fully block on FB do you need to wait 48hrs before you can re-block

You can block on messenger as many times as you want!

I think blocking now is ok. I mean, how much "colluding" are you doing by telling the truth??

It's perfectly acceptable to want to stay out of this car crash now, you've told the truth and done your part.

This poor woman KNOWS..She just needed confirmation.
She's had 8-10 years to stalk he's ex on Facebook an hasn't..
It's obvious she has found photographs putting Dave with you at the same time as their early relationship.
Must be awful to find something like that I would feel the whole marriage was tainted.

Something similar happened to me.
My DP had told me when we met he had split from he's ex a few months back after a horrible relationship.
We started dating straight away.
However fast forward two years on holiday in Spain, he went to the shops and I was bored and fiddling with our passports look at all the stamps (they used to give you stamps years ago and I loved seeing all the different countries in them)
Low and behold he had a stamp dated for three days before we met.
He had come home from holiday with he's ex three proxy days before we met and he had met her twice after we were together to sort out the final stages of relationship, like phone contracts, giving belonging back etc and one more because she was distraug and threaten suicide if he didn't meet her)
I knew none of this until it a came out.
I felt really betrayed.
I could see the shock on he's face at being found out, he said he didn't think I'd go anywhere near him had he mentioned he'd literally just landed from holiday with ex and hasn't even unpack yet.
Was a awful time, so goodness knows how this lady feels as this is much worse.