I met a guy at the start of December and we were talking every night on the phone and we then met up for a date the next weekend. He ended up staying at mine for a few days and even met my mum and brother in that time. He then came down the day before Christmas eve to visit. After this his mum invited me for Boxing Day dinner with the family which was lovely and we all got on great. From Boxing Day until Monday past, we were with each other everyday and things were great. We are officially in a relationship (on Facebook too), have said I love you (he said it first), met each other's families, have them on Facebook and I'm so happy and he said he is too. He started acting distant on Monday before I left. He was meant to be coming down to mine for a few days but then he said he had work so he couldn't. He's also had an extremely sore back and ear for the last week too so I can understand his mood not being great. He text me on Tuesday afternoon to say he has been drifting in and out of sleep because of the painkillers and he hopes I'm well and he loves me. That's the last I've heard from him. He hasn't been as active on Facebook as much either. I've sent two whatsapp messages and a snapchat and neither have even been read. I had to change my number and the two whatsapp messages were just to tell him and then I text him to ask how he was. I also tried to ring him last night because he was using my Netflix and I couldn't watch anything while he was. I don't know why he's being like this and I know I'm probably overthinking but I just wanted someone else's opinion.
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Is he being distant or am I just overthinking?
shenry25 · 05/01/2017 11:47
OP the honeymoon period should last longer than what 6 weeks? 
Fair play you've come back and responded to what we've all been saying, but you have an answer for everything negative being said.
If you've already messaged his more before over things then I'm actually a little surprised you havnt.
Give him the benefit of the doubt if that's what you really want to do, but don't be surprised if this happens often.
I'd be fucking miffed if my boyfriend who I didn't know that we'll wasn't responding to my messages but taking advantage of my Netflix account.
If he spends so much money buying and treating you to things he can bloody pay £5.99 a month for his own Netflix
You cannot be sure that this isn't something he tends to do.
I've had this happen to me but it wasn't a relationship although we were very close, he'd come back months and months later, I got fed up of one minute us spending every hour of the day in contact and then the next he'd " have a sore throat" and do the exact same your boyfriend is doing to you...
I had enough of it in the end, wished him the best and ditched him. And that was someone who in a sense I did love.
If someone cares that much about you you don't ignore for 2 days etc, and he's obviously not thought of it in that way otherwise he'd have replied apologising for not being in contact
Who knows? We could ALL be wrong and you be right, but I can only see this going one way ...
My initial feeling on this is that he love bombed you for Christmas. A strategy to have a lot of fun for a short time frame. In short, he used you for a happy holiday. Sorry 
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So he wouldn't be alone over the holidays.
Or, perhaps he was tired of every holiday being a broken record of everyone asking him about getting a girlfriend and settling down.
Or he may have done this to make his mum happy for the holidays.
Yes, he paid for everything. That would lessen his guilt for dumping you considerably. But the sincerity factor- talk is cheap (especially: I love you). If it seems too good to be true, then it probably isn't true. He may be just a good actor. 4 weeks, 6 weeks in is way way way too early to tell.
Have you said "no" to anything since you met him?
I agree to changing Netflix password. If he profusely apologizes for preventing you from using it, then there may be a glimmer of hope. But if he guilt trips you with a pity party about his issues...not a good sign. He will be presuming way too much perhaps you are presuming quite a bit yourself .
He should have atleast text you to ask if he could use your Netflix account 
Is 'change the password' the new 'cancel the cheque'?
Fgs, change the frigging password, OP! Then come back and tell us you've done it. And listen to what everyone is telling you on here, they're speaking sense 
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I think you and only one poster said they don't look at their phone
For your sake, I hope it works out and we're all wrong, but 5 pages of the majority of posters are all saying the same thing, that surely must say something?
You're going to excuse everything so, just change your password and patiently ( ) wait for him to contact you
It's coming across to me that you're desperate for this to work, sounds to me it's fizzing out before its even had chance to begin. It's always fun at first, 6 weeks in and being ignore, Ill or not shouldn't be the case right now. You've even admitted takes 30 seconds to send a text just to say he's ok, or he'll be in contact soon etc.
Put it this way, it would take longer for him to input your password into Netflix and pick something to watch than it would be for a quick message to let you know how he is.
Your choice OP! Wish you well
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