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Help I've gone crazy & sent too many texts...

284 replies

MemorySoup · 29/12/2016 11:55

And am now wanting to 'amend' the situation by sending more texts. I am sitting on my hands and am determined not to but - aargh - why have I become this needy wreck?

Am seeing someone but v early days. He keeps saying he likes me but messages are getting briefer and less frequent. I think this is because I am appearing needy. And the sad thing is I probably am .. I am aware of this and trying to change, but it's really hard when you have such fragile self esteem.

I sent a few messages last night saying I was disappointed not to have heard from him after seeing him earlier.

I had mentioned the other day that it really cheered me up getting messages (sad I know) and he said he wanted to make me happy and was looking forward to getting to know me, I was nice, liked spending time with me etc etc.

In the cold light of day me texting last night was all wrong, so wrong. I have predictably heard nothing since 10pm last night when I apologised and said I was just feeling a bit down.

Please come and tell me what to do (or not to do) now and how not to be such a total abject failure when it comes to dating & self esteem. I feel like such an idiot.

OP posts:
Runbikeswim · 10/01/2017 15:28

Ohyesiam I wish there was a like button for your post

Micferc · 01/06/2018 13:05

Hi MemorySoup. I read your story today on mumsnet and see this was posted by you in 2016. Whatever happen to this relationship. Could you resist not texting back? Did he text you again? Etc. I am quite curious cause I am finding myself in the same situation. Pls let me know.😉

AnnabelC · 01/06/2018 21:02

Just be yourself. If he doesn’t like it. It’s his loss. I don’t get the needy thing. It’s just us being human. It’s his lack of reassurance. Men say we are needy when we just need to communicate more. Then they can say it’s our fault and keep us on the back foot. Control. If he really likes you it won’t worry him.

Haffiana · 01/06/2018 22:56

This is going to fill up with people who cannot take the time to read a thread before rushing in with their 2ps worth, even though they are years late...

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 01/06/2018 23:48

Indeed, Haffiana but I wonder how MemorySoup is getting on? I hope that she's happy and fulfilled now. :)

Biblioness · 23/09/2019 07:58

This is me right now!!!

Biblioness · 23/09/2019 07:59

I could be saying exactly what you are.. How did it pan out in the end??

LynnAlsoNeedy · 15/02/2024 21:11

Today’s Date Feb 15 2024🤔: Hi. I’ve just found your thread which I know is a few years old but want to ask what happened with this guy. I also have sent too many texts but he has replied. But to me, it takes too long for him to do so. That’s when I start pulling my hair out thinking he’s gone off me, I’m annoying him with my texts, he’s bored or too busy. Arrrrgh!!!! I’m sure you know (or did know) what I go through.

verycurlyindeed · 15/02/2024 21:40

I reckon double down and send him a totally insane gif of Joe Pesci, or just hundreds of pusheen stickers. I hate these men who don’t reply, they deserve all the unhinged unicorn emojis in the world.

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