OH went out last night and came back at 9am this morning

[Sarahjane1994]

My OH went on a works do last night. He went out at 9pm yesterday and didn't come home till 9am this morning. I was whatsapping him from 6am asking where he was and he was reading the messages but not replying. He came home and has gone straight to bed. I had so much planned for today (we have a 1 year old and he has a 7 year old that I was taking care of all yesterday btw) and now he's sleeping off his hangover and won't speak to me. I opened his xmas present that I saved up for ages for and chucked it on the bed next to him and said 'merry christmas' but he didn't even look he just threw it on the floor.

His 7 year old has gone home now and my 1 year old is having a nap. I keep getting upset and I just know it's going to be the worst christmas ever.

I don't know how to react. It's not the first time he's done this. Ive gone mad at him before and it never works he still does it.
If I go out which is very rare he interrogates me about other men etc. I wouldn't dare stay out, he would literally be accusing me of all sorts now if I pulled a stunt like that.

What are your thoughts on this situation please?

Thanks and happy xmas eve x

Worried about the OP. Are you ok OP?

Hi OP

Just wanted to say hi. I hope you're ok and that 2017 turns out to be a better year for you and your child.

Hi OP just checking in, hope you and your daughter are OK and safe x

Keep checking this thread. Worried :(

I think people have been kind and supportive but perhaps you need a (gentle) kick up the backside. You are subjecting your daughter to abuse but not taking steps to end this relationship. I know you are scared but your daughter will be scared too. Put her first. Give you and her the life you deserve by getting out of there. Imagine not breaking the cycle and in 29 years time, she'll be with some utter scum of a "man"', smashing her bedroom room and grabbing your darling girl by the throat. You're so young. You clearly have intelligence, strength and determination. Do the right thing for you and your daughter.

Agree crashdoll!

Really hope OP has managed to leave with her daughter or atleast call women's aid for some support

Just worried that he may have found this thread

Can mumsnet do anything to check?

mindtrope mumsnet can't do anything as far as I'm aware

I really pray he hasn't seen this. I just hope she realised she needed to get her and her daughter out :(

I'm not sure what mumsnet can do either 😔 Just really hoping that her and her lo are safe

I think she's probably deleted the history from her phone and has given up. Her last posts were trying to minimise his behaviour.

She may be back, at some point. Hopefully she and her daughter will still be safe by then.

There's nothing anyone can do to help her, lots of good advice given but she's got to take the steps to protect herself and her daughter, otherwise the man will injure or kill one or both of them.

Hope you're okay, SarahJane, please be safe. 2017 can be a much better year for you if you take the advice given, otherwise it will be far worse. Good luck.

I just hope she's ok and if mumsnet can do anything, even if they can't tell us, to check she's safe.

OP I do hope your OK.
You need to get out, for your sake and for your daughters.

I doubt you are still reading OP but i have just read this and want to post, it is harsh but you need to read it.

BBC article on domestic violence and families murdered by their partners

Been thinking of you OP x

Thinking of you OP. Almost 500 replies now- all urging you to leave. Hope you manage to escape- for yours and your daughters sakes

Hope you're okay OP, thinking of you. Be safe

Checking in on you OP, hope you and DD are ok.