Post separation xmas survival thread?

[Bitlessbahhumbug]

First Christmas separated, my ex is being very lovely (better than him being horrible I know) and every time I see him or talk to him to sort out dc presents etc I still go through doubts about having left. My brain is starting to function better and catches up fairly fast these days to remind me of the shit!

Therapy is helping with a lot.
I'm currently looking for motivational/pull yourself together/move on type things to read or listen to, to survive the holidays and not make any stupid decisions.

Anyway, does anybody want a space to vent or just fill time on some of the lonelier days? I'm feeling quite good at the moment but I'm often up and down.

Bitless hope you have a good night!

Wish I could bloody drink tonight if all nights I could do with being drunk.

Am 25 weeks yesterday, he's due in April, so something to look forward to!

NYE is the most arbitrary of celebrations.

I vote we ignore it and nominate, oh, I don't know, the 9th April as a random night to celebrate.

I second that boundaries...I'd rather go to bed & have an early night!

Actually I'd rather take a sleeping pill on the 23rd Dec & wake up on the 1st Jan! That would be lovely

Treated myself to new pyjamas today. Have been in bed for some time!

I will be doing just that, Wynter

But..in the spirit of celebrating the small things, I hope you enjoy being out with your family even if it's like wading through treacle sometimes

bitless new PJs deffo needs to go on the happiness thread.

That is one of my favourite things

Fresh sheets too.

Ooh I want new pjs!

Getting back into work is hard BitLess but great for your mh and confidence in tbe long run. I love most of the time my job and couldn't be with out it now, but it was scary starting after 7 years at home.

Sorry Wynter had somehow missed your upduffedness. You'll make a lovely home for the 2 of you once he's here. Having family close helps.

YES to fresh linen!!!

Ohh look at the time! Fire works then bed!!

Guys!! It's official! We survived it!

It's a BRAND NEW YEAR.....congratulations to everyone who's made it out the other side!

New year, new beginnings.

I put my hands together & pray it's better than last year, last year was a fucking train wreck!

Good luck to everyone for this year, I genuinely hope it brings you all happiness (soft for Mumsnet but stuff it! My baby is coming this year!! )

Woooop.

(Although still deeply cynical about the random nature of NYE)

Bit of a cynical woohoo from me too.

But it's so great that you have found a bit of hope for next year Wynter.

Bank I'm really interested that you had a 7 year gap before working again. I want to ask lots of questions but you might not want to discuss . Are you doing what you did before?

Hope everyone else on the thread is getting through the holiday ok.

Boundaries, ok, so instead of poor me I'm so pathetic buying new PJs and spending Nye in bed, new PJs are thought of as a nice thing.... Ok might visit your thread later. I was a bit wary of all the happiness!

Bit finding the joy in the small. It's powerful stuff!

I went back to work after 7 years off too. Now been back in work for 10 years

Starting 2017 (Sunday) off knackered (kept awake by son and his friends till late) but appreciating the benefits of being teetotal

Oh that's encouraging faffalotty. Feels impossible to me just now.

I only started off on 20 hours/week - so it fitted in with school hours.

There had been big changes between when I stopped and started, in terms of computers/internet. But it didn't take long to pick it up.
And I found that the skills I had learned from being a parent came in very handy (patience, time management, multi-tasking)

Bitless that's very good advice from faffalotty - you can really sell skills learned from parenting.

If you'd like any CV help or otherwise, please PM me. I do recruitment as part of my role and I'd be more than happy to have a look for you!

Hi both.

Thank you very much for the replies. I spent my time in one big public sector department so only know one approach to job applications. And I can't imagine examples that are 7+ years out of date will get me far. Haven't ever even had a CV! Any input very welcome so I may take you up on that peppa if that's ok. It may take me a week or so though to get together some material for a CV.

I'm thinking I need to try find some volunteer work just to get out in the world a bit first.

Bitless it was partly because I emigrated after dc1 was born. But my situation is a bit unique and identifying. I'm not doing what I did before kids but didn't have a career before them and now do.

A lot of mothers have career breaks when their children are young.

Urgh have done sfa today. I find it hard to get motivated when it's just me.

I'm still in yesterday's PJs. Which are less lovely and fresh than they were yesterday.

How are you today bitterness? If you want to wear your pajamas for two days then good on you!

I'm glad we had this thread. I got lots of support and made it through the last two weeks. I'm so glad life is back to normal this week

Hi. Another tough day as DC didn't want to come back again. Going to have to work a bit on things. Really looking forward to getting back into a routine.

And yes, it's done isn't it. Holiday season over! Others in the same boat does help. I'm grateful for the various posts.

Hope things pick up for you (and everyone else( this year.

(Oh, and I have showed and dressed today! )

Didn't want to come back? Sorry if I've missed this earlier in thread lovely. That sounds tough.