Post separation xmas survival thread?

[Bitlessbahhumbug]

First Christmas separated, my ex is being very lovely (better than him being horrible I know) and every time I see him or talk to him to sort out dc presents etc I still go through doubts about having left. My brain is starting to function better and catches up fairly fast these days to remind me of the shit!

Therapy is helping with a lot.
I'm currently looking for motivational/pull yourself together/move on type things to read or listen to, to survive the holidays and not make any stupid decisions.

Anyway, does anybody want a space to vent or just fill time on some of the lonelier days? I'm feeling quite good at the moment but I'm often up and down.

I bought new bedding and a new picture for my room today, so I stop looking at it and thinking of him!

He didn't ever live here, he just made his own mark & I want to get rid of it!

So many ups and downs but I feel they are getting less and less as the days pass

MORE LINEN PORN!!

Good stuff, Wynter

I've binned the old one, it was grubby anyway.

It's now just MY bed!

Down to a single bed for 6 months in April when baby comes along! No bloody room for a cot and king size bed!

On/off DP is now XP - gave him an ultimatum and he walked. Help please! Am expecting our baby in June, what do I do? Ignore and wait for him to get in touch about baby?

Oh gosh Peppa that's rough. Take some time for yourself right now. Catch your breath and collect your thoughts for now. Don't waste your energy running after him.

Well I hung the curtains in my new bedroom today 😆 The carpet goes down in a few days then I can make it a proper cosy home.

Here's to the silly season being over and all of us surviving.

Belated Happy New Year everyone. Hope 2017 is better for everyone. I am certainly glad to see the back of 2016. Have a feeling 2017 is going to be a tough one too but hopefully I will be in a better place than I was last year to deal with it all. I survived my week without DC. Not going to lie - it was awful and quite a lot of tears some days. DCs seem to have had a good time with STBXH and his family. I am grateful for that even if I am slightly miffed that it sounds like he has tried to 'buy' them based on the description of the very many Christmas presents he got them (this is the same man that I have had to fight to get maintenance and supposedly can't afford to help me pay for basics for the DC ). Apparently there were too many to remember what they all were. The ones they could remember I was a bit about. Can't imagine him coming up with that idea let alone going into a shop to buy it. Suspect he may have had help from OW.
Even managed to have a decent New Years Eve with them. Just the 3 of us. First time they have been allowed (& wanted to) stay up until midnight. Both were excited. Did make me realise that is another 'first' STBXH has missed out on - his loss!
Sorry to hear your latest update peppa

Pippa, do not contact him!

If you do, he'll treat everything as on his terms, I have ignored my ex since he walked on the 21st November, me and him have not spoken since.

I am due in April however he won't be informed by me, only CMS & his family.

I will not do the running around, he can, if he doesn't then fine by me!

Please don't waste your energy chasing after him, make him come to you.

Peppa not Pippa

Ohhhh Peppa...how you feeling about that?

Well in a moment of madness fit of rageI called him and said he was making a mistake and I may also have called him a nob

He agreed with the first part so we are meeting next week with a counsellor.

Part of me is relieved though when we break up as I lose a lot of stress he brings but he is also determined to try (in his own baffling way) to be there for the baby so it looks like I am stuck with him in some capacity so I might as well try and get what I want out of it. It's a very confusing time.

Doing the 100 happy days thread is really helping as when I look back, I'm happy because of things that probably wouldn't happen if we were still in a relationship so that's good from my point of view.

You have such a great attitude Peppe.

That 100 happy days is v powerful. I'm actively looking for the happy