Anyone else happy to stay single forever

[Gorgeoussunset]

I am divorced and have been single for 5 years now. I genuinely do not hate men and have many male friends and some family. But unlike some of my female friends I don't want to be in a relationship. I don't have any need for a man in my life, and don't see that changing. I'm a bit surprised to feel like this, but not regretful. Some of my friends claim to understand but then go on about meeting the right person etc. Wonder if anyone else feels this way?

[Unicornsandrainbows3]

Single for 5+ years now and wouldn't have it any other way!

[LineyReborn]

Hi sixteen, I've replied to you. The content is need to know basis only! I really have found your own posts very illuminating. The whole thread indeed is an education.

[PeppermintPasty]

I was born to be single. It's glorious.

I would like sex with Norman Reedus and/or Richard Armitage on tap whenever required, but hey, can't have it all.

[singleandfabulous]

noego I wish i knew how to meet decent men. I live in the back of beyond and there ate so few men here as they tend to go to the cities to chase younger women

A quick browse online shows an overwhelming number of unappealing men (and i like all sorts generally).

[Gorgeoussunset]

I suppose society is always changing, but my DD for example will live in a world where she can choose whether or not to have a man in her life, and she will not be forced to live with the father of any future children. It will be interesting to see how men adapt to this new world as presumably the number of women prepared to put up with misconduct at all costs will shrink, gradually and perhaps even to zero.

[noego]

SAF......met the latest in Aldi. discussing Olive Oil. You never know when :o). I'd be happy to discuss further off line if you won't to PM me.

[Shiningexample]

A quick browse online shows an overwhelming number of unappealing men
the DOSBODS
deluded old scrapped blokes on dating sites

I think it's taking men a while to fully grasp the reality that many women cant see any benefit to hitching themselves to a man

the old tropes, the sad old maid vs the happy batchelor
just not true at all

and the notion that men in their 40's and 50's are appealing to women 10-15 years their junior....just dream on you wont get a second glance, unless you are paying for her time, either pay as you go or taking a younger bride from an economically disadvantaged country.
Sure you fell in love, the lure of a British passport had absolutely nothing to do with it

[Newbrummie]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[noego]

I really do despair at the cynicism portrayed on this site sometimes.

[Lorelei76]

Ach, in fairness I do know a couple of gorgeous 50 something guys dating younger women
I immediately made friends with one of them when we were chatting at a wedding and he said his nine year marriage was the most miserable time of his life!

He's a good bloke too, he doesn't live near but he's always offered to help with various crises.

Interesting thing is though, now I don't make new male friends. It was fine ten years ago but I don't seem to meet any guys who just want friendship any more. In fact friendship is pretty underrated and I don't know why?

[citybumpkin]

My gorgeous DP is in his 50s and I'm 10-15 years younger. I don't think he is paying for my time... goes off to check bank account.

[amammabear]

I'm sort of the opposite. I can't imagine anyone ever loving me and it hurts x I wish I could change my feelings

[Lorelei76]

Also I think there's criticism of women and men who choose to stay single
We are told we are commitment phobes etc
What is that about? Someone at work told me her local vicar had been lamenting about singletons, I burst out laughing and she looked offended.
I'm guessing the vicar is more worried about the effect on church donations than anything else though..? I don't know much about religion but that did strike me.

[MercuryInRetrograde]

I;ve been happier alone for nearly a decade and it never attracted anybody. Lately I feel so ready to connect. I would really like to and have tried but despite meeting a lot of men online, the only ones I felt I clicked with didn't follow up with a second date. Weird. I met somebody last night and I thought we'd clicked. Haven't heard a thing today. Oh well, I'll forget about dating now 'til the new year. The ones I like never like me back. So it is just constant mis-match

[MercuryInRetrograde]

Wow. Lorelei76, that would be really annoying to have to sit and listen to that crap! I have tried to meet somebody. I have tried not trying to meet somebody. I'm not avoidant or anxious or needy, my life isn't empty. I don't commit the crime of gluttony or sloth. My body is a temple! If I'd had to sit and listen to a vicar lament the lifestyle choice of single people I would have felt angry. I don't usually feel anger when I think of being single. I am just so used to it. I really tried this year, 2016, this was the year I tried.

[MercuryInRetrograde]

interesting study showing that people can't believe that singles can be happy

I am happy but I've been on my own for a long time now, and I would like to tryhave a relationship.

[Lorelei76]

To be fair the lady was just sharing something the vicar said. But she does seem to live in quite an insular way tbh, she did tell me once she didn't know any single women my age who weren't unhappy.

She's also surprised when colleagues in their 30s go clubbing and once asked me if nightclubs were dangerous. She's my age too. I get that everyone lives differently so it's probably good we all chat and get different perspectives.

Sixteen, absolutely, the financial issue is key. But when I was little my mum had single friends who didn't want a man around and I think the perception of single by choice has got worse; so do they, but they were closer to a period of major change.

In fact it seems bizarre for anyone, male or female, to feel that society finds them weird for not wanting marriage or kids. In 2016!

[MercuryInRetrograde]

oh yes, I meant that it was odd that the vicar said that. The vicar was a goady fucker

[Shiningexample]

lo and behold there is an absolute Grand Canyon in which space the red pill and MGTOW have set up camp

I think that over the longer term people will adjust and new arrangements for romantic and sexual expression will evolve in which all genders and orientations can find fulfillment

we are in an interregnum, we will find our feet in a while :)

sorry to hear of your struggles Six

[Shiningexample]

her local vicar had been lamenting about singletons
marriage and religion...a pincer movement to effect social control

[Lorelei76]

Shining, I know where my feet are

[Shiningexample]

so do I :o
perhaps I shoulda said that men will recognise that they have feet of clay after all