Dating thread 111- just waiting...

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.

Might have been me - I often refer to the age/2 + 7 formula in my head. Although in reality, I then add on a few years and still feel like a cradle snatcher at the thought. I don't think I've ever actually dated anyone younger than me before...

Exactly - focus on that priority

I had a massive crush, not really in love

When you think about it, women often live longer then men so it would make sense to have a younger man rather than a older one ( I'm trying to take myself around ).

The last friend of mine to get married married a much younger bloke and they are ridiculously happy. And the life expectancy point is valid, I think.

oops, that was in reply to WavingNotDrowning

hiiiii pringles, glad you are posting, don't you go and disappear again, lady I m going to need you as I get back into it

just to be clear I wasn't thinking about LTR with a 27 yr
my bottom line is 35 I think...

I think if you are both happy and both have some life experience behind you, then age shouldn't be such an issue. It was for me to start with and I can't believe I nearly missed out on being this happy, just because I was so hung up the age difference

The Paris ratio was just supposed to be about a man's 'ideal' of what his girlfriend should be, by the way. It wasn't about women, and it wasn't about ethical judgements. So a 12 year old boy fantasises about 13 year old girls (true, from my experience) and a 20'year old man can date a 17 year old girl, because he has a car and can buy beer legally.

A 20 year old woman dating a 17 year old boy is a bit icky, for some reason.

Somewhat sexist, possibly, but the study was done on men and boys, not women. So as a guideline it's not valid.

That said, go for your life.

Good luck on your date Friday HellsbellsE18 - let us know how it goes - and welcome to the thread

Bant - age. Hmm. It seems to bother me more than it bothers the guys that I seem to attract. I am quite young at heart, and I think I look younger than my age based on what other people tell me. So that helps. I wouldn't want a noticeable age difference though either way. Older men just do not seem to go near me on OLD. Which is annoying I guess? But I'm used to it now

I now have a date with Mr MOD, we seem to have clicked via messaging ( I know I know ), he seems lovely, we share a hobby of photography and we have been sharing each other's work, we have the same eye for photos and we have some almost identical pictures. We are meeting up next Thursday with our cameras. I think even if we don't feel a spark we will be friends. Only problem is the distance, one of my rules this time was to find someone local and yet again I'm talking to someone who lives over an hour away.

Mr Boatman also wants to meet me next week, I don't know how I'm going to fit everything in.

I must still focussed on my date for Sunday.

How do people manage to juggle things.? I promised myself I would only date one at a time but I'm worried I might miss out on mr perfect whilst going on a date with mr not so perfect.

its said 3 is the perfect number

soooo, arranged date with MrP, never mentioned before, he is from the fall-winter 16 collection. Forgot about him but actually he is smart and fun and no a dirty breather

Anyone else had problems with Match taking money out of their account after they've cancelled?

I think lots of people have had problems with match and other dating sites taking money, there was something about it on tv last week

Thanks Love. Sorted now. Slight inconvenience in having to obtain a new bank card but hey ho. The girl at Match accused me of having a slippery finger when scrolling the app. Wasn't sure whether to feel insulted or stick my chest out and smile. I went with the latter.

Always pay with Paypal and if that happen, report to them (Paypal) and they will protect your unauthorised transaction

I think with match you can cancel without explicitly stopping your subscription. And the route of clicks you have to follow to cancel is deliberately misleading.

They pissed me off with that, finding out I'd paid for another three months when I thought I'd stopped.

I mean refund

Very tentatively sticking my head around the door...to say Hi!

I used to read this thread a lot when it started, which was around four years ago! Boy, have I learnt a lot about myself and what I would tolerate from a man these days...

I'm currently in this unusual position where I'm not sure whether I want to do the online dating thing again, or whether I'm ready to...or even whether I have the time to (launching a new business) so for the time being I will do nothing.

But I will live vicariously through you all in the meantime.

Wishing you all happy dating vibes.

Just about to go on my date with mrlocal feeling very nervous ... He's just rang me to check all ok, he does sound really nice! Here goes......

Good luck with your dat Wing, look forward to hearing about it later x

Good luck Wingle!

Hello everyone...
I've been reading this thread for a week or so now and thought I'd join in!!
I started OLD recently after a painful breakup last year. Set up a date for tomorrow night with a guy I've been messaging for just over a week. Anyway, tonight he has just stopped texting...using whatsapp so I know he's been online, he's just not reading my message!!
So disappointed as it was my Friday night planned and now I've got a night in alone to look forward to.
Urgh, why do people do this?

Please be kind - been dating this guy since early December. Has been going well. Asked him last Sunday if he was seeing anyone else and he said no. He did say he had checked some messages on the website (GSM) but he hadn't replied. Felt good thought things were OK. Went onto the site today to hide my profile. He is still on there and was last on there four days ago - ie after the time he confirmed he wasn't dating anyone else and said that in the past he had read some messages. I am supposed to be seeing him tomorrow and now I just want to cancel. I know there are lots of possible reasons why he is online but really the most obvious reason is likely to be the correct one - he is still shopping around. Not good at tricky conversations and just want to hide...

Hope you had a lovely date Wingle

Pixie unfortunately the disappearing act happens often. I know for me personally, I was guilty of talking to up to 10 men at a time no shame on Whatsapp and would naturally stop talking to the ones I found less interesting...

Possibly, if you have been seeing a guy since December and he is still logging into the dating app, then his actions are showing you he is still seeing what's out there, and he isn't that in to you. I would drop off all contact personally, but I'm a bitch like that. Trust your gut instinct on it...