Meeting old flame for first time in 20 years

[shopaholic]

Feeling really excited and miserable at the same time. Contacted 1st ever boyfriend (2 year relationship) on FR and have now arranged to meet up in 2 weeks. He is married too and has been responding to my emails enthusiastically (was originally just lunch now seems to be sacrificing his whole day for me). Problem is I v unhappy with DH at the moment and feel confused. Old boyfriend mega successful barrister, rich, good looking etc.DH bit of a loser, bitter, angry and bad tempered. Should I meet OB or not?

Yes we are going to keep in touch and I'm very pleased about that. I do feel slightly guilty about it though

Are you there Jampot?

What is the reason that you want to keep in touch? There must be a reason that you are feeling guilty. Is it because you still fancy him and feel you are doing something wrong because of your husband and his pregnant wife? Sorry to have to mention it again but the alarm bells are ringing when you say that you are going to keep in touch. Does his wife know that you met and plan to meet up again? Is this his first child that he is having here because it could well be that the reason that he wants to see you again is to keep alive the 'old' him as it can be a scary time for fathers to be and some of them end up doing stupid things as a result.

glad it went well for you.

There's all sorts of ways you can keep in touch of course. Keep it light and friendly. Good if you can tell your dh (casually)that you are in contact with this person as well. And tell your old flame that you have told your dh as well.

HI shopaholic

how are things now?

I think the thread called "passionate affair with old boyfriend" a bit further down the page gives you your answer. I'd post a link if I wasn't so c@#p at doing them!

ok thanks