My daughter has been taken away from me.

[Emmie1201]

It isn't fair, I'm her mum. Mum knows best :( I can't believe they're allowed to do this.

Emmie - what practical steps did Social Services said you needed to take to protect your dd? And have you asked them what you need to do now, to get your dad back and keep her safe?

If you can tell us what they are, maybe people here can advise you on how best to do what you need to do.

She has to be safe, and at home isn't that place.

Jiggle you have got that all wrong

Jiggl

Was there any need for that?

Emmie please listen to what people are saying, even when they sound harsh. If we are picking up that you are in denial to some extent, SS can obviously see that too.

You need to acknowledge that you have to start doing more if you are to get your DD back.

He subsequently gained entry somehow or you let him in

There are some comments on here, but that takes the biscuit.

OP, have you talked to Women's Aid yet?

emmie would you say in a nut shell Dd has been taken into care because her farther hurt her?

Emmie you wrote "she hurt her back". But she didn't hurt her back, did she? Someone else hurt it. See?

Emmie get off mumsnet and ring your social worker now. Apologize for letting it get to this stage, see what steps they would like you to take to make a suitable environment for your dd.
Tell them you see going to get a restraining order against your ex and will log anything he does with the police in future, stick to it!!!.

Be doing something.

I think op did let him in. Not because she wanted to but because of fear.

Please don't let him win op you and your Dd are worth so much more.

Visit your gp and get some counselling for all of this trauma. Make sure your social worker knows your getting help as well.

Oh what a terrible sad situation. OP you need to take the sound advice here and start acting

She has not said she's not going to take it. Hope she doesaid though.

champs I hope so too. This thread is really upsetting.

Emmy, have SS discussed with you how what you need to do to get her back? Can you move to a totally different area where he does not know your location? Would you consider doing that?

As awful as this is, SS HAVE to do what they can to keep your DD safe and away from harm. At the minute, you're unable to do that, so they have to take her while you get sorted.

But if you work with them, doing exactly what they say, and stop protecting him, you should be able to get her back.

Women who experience domestic violence do not act in what we would call rational or behave in a way that we see as normal women who have suffered trauma like the op do not always see what we see. The op initial post has been looked at by mumsnet troll hunting is not helping blaming the op is not helping.

This thread has been confirmed by the mods as genuine.

This thread has been confirmed by the mods as genuine.
No it hasn't. 'the Mods' have made no such claim.

When you are in an abusive relationship your perception of normal behaviour is really skewed.

I was in one for nearly 15 years and felt a real loyalty to my ex, he conditioned me to think the way he wanted me to, I got so used to defending him it was second nature.

Looking back I can see what an idiot I was, when I was in it I couldn't see it at all.

Please stop laying into the op, it's a very complicated situation. Slating her isn't helping anyone.

This "hurt her back" thing - injuries and fluid build up on the spine are incredibly serious. You don't have to break the spine to do terrible damage, including loss of movement and continence and sensation. Had he ever hurt her before?

blaming the op is not helping

But unless the OP is willing to accept her role in her daughter's injury, and the subsequent removal by SS, she has no hope of getting her back.

Emmie so sorry you and your daughter have gone through this, it is awful. Listen to the advice ss give you and work with them; it's the only way for this sorry state of affairs to improve.