Ohb You said about your ds sobbing when he realised you wouldn't be with him if/when he sees his dad. I know you don't want to see your ex, but I think it's entirely reasonable for you to be with him for the first few visits. He's basically a stranger. This is another good reason for it to be in a contact centre. Could your dp go along in your place (big ask I know) or a family member/close friend ? Of course ex will object. But tough, ds's needs come first, and remember, he's prepared to do "anything" to see his son apparently!
Purple what a horrible situation for you all. Again, it's no consolation but imagine as a parent only being able to bribe your dc to be with you. He knows that you heard every word. The big man in court and the unwanted dad at the door, what an idiot.
Thank you for the good wishes Natsku with Mr HJM. Saw him when I was out driving locally today. He waived to thank me for stopping for him. He wouldn't have recognised the car I was driving. Just as well because I was still wearing my hat in the car so probably looked a bit strange!
I think he'll be chatty Lilac, we can both talk the hind legs off a donkey, that's one of the things I like about him ! He's got a lovely accent, from a part of the world where talking is a national pastime 
. Yes, his interests/hobbies will of course all be shared by me ! Even if he likes sacrificing chickens under a full moon, I'll say "Oh, me too!" My worst fear is that he comes along, does the job, all very nice, then bye Dusters. Still, let's not jump the gun.....
Good luck for Monday Chrystal What a nasty tactic to go for an emergency hearing so that not all the evidence can be produced. The sw sounds like a good 'un though, and with ds age etc you are hopefully feeling reasonably positive.