"Accidentally" slept with my boss (face palm)

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I don't know what to do. I work in a smallish team and we all get on really well. I was at university with my immediate boss about 10 years ago, we knew each other, but not all that well and I hadn't seen him until I started this job last year. I have just come out of a 5 year relationship and he has been single for the last year or so since his engagement broke up. We were working late to meet a dealine last night and were joking around, I have no idea what came over us but we were both being a little flirty and we ended up kissing. I went back to his apartment and we ended up in bed together. I never do this! Now I'm really worried about seeing him at work on Monday. Should I just act like it never happened or try and speak with him about it? I feel like a total idiot, and can't believe I did this.

Hope you are ok. How long are you signed off for?

OutragedKoala it clearly says in the OP "he has been single for the last year or so since his engagement broke up." so why are you saying he's married?

No apology for calling the OP a "ho"?

Millions of women sleep with men they don't know (I've had one night stands with randoms good fun it was too) and OP was in the position not only of knowing this man through work but also was at uni with him so she does know him Outragedkoala!

So therefore are you calling me and other women ho's (classy choice of word too!) simply because at some point we've slept with men we hardly know?!

memyself I've reported *outragedkoala's abusive posts and suggest you do the same. Wonder if she's a Virgin or married to the first man she slept with (after 6 months natch)?!

outragedKoala is clearly HoneyG

some humble pie for koala and some for the OP! Xx

...ummm...that all escalated quickly. For those concerned the hospital just turfed me out, they monitored me for about 8 hours and sent me home with a little sheet about concussions, lovely boss stayed until my brother (who is a nurse) finished work and came to stay over. All is well. Thought I would feel a little better than I do, so I'm probably going to take a few more days off. Thanks for all the warm fuzzies, and to those who talked me off the ledge after my initial dalliance you're all awesome

P.S The shagging was indeed most enjoyable

"Ho" made me laugh. 1997 indeed.

Get well soon OP! Concussion sucks. I've always been allowed to go home with someone (I hate hospitals) but sleeping can be weird afterwards, I wake up a lot and am all disorientated. Maybe prepare for that just incase?

Lovely thread.

Sounds like the start of a lovely relationship.

Hope you feel better soon.

at 'ho' ffs koala grow up. Two adults having consensual sex what a disgrace. Fml I can't believe people think like this.

OP definitely take as much time as you need

You threw up on him and he still likes you - he's a keeper. Bit of a whirlwind week for you. Time to sit on the couch and take stock.

Apart from the assault (and the whole "Ho" thing- wtf? Unless that was meant to be repeated twice in an effort to be seasonal ) this is such a heartwarming thread!

Hope you're recovering well. He sounds lovely btw

Stay in control. Decide if this is something you want to pursue further, or if it was in fact, a one off. Either way, you set the boundaries and let him know.

I get deleted for calling a poster who referred to the OP as a ho, a fucking nasty piece of work?

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck.

Fwiw OP It sounds like the begining of something great, either a fabulous fling or long term lurve!

Ignore the bitter jealous one, enjoy it!

Oh and get well soon

Anyone else notice how the OP was supposed to be shamed but blokey was called erm? Oh yeah, he was'nt called anything.

...it's a mans world? Society likes to shame us a little, and from my initial dithering you can see it works, but as silly as it sounds, it's been really good for me to hear words of encouragement from strong women. Not to be underestimated, and after my initial shame/embarrassment I'm surprisingly comfortable with what happened. So both MN and lovely boss have sort of normalised the whole thing for me if that makes any sense. Me and lovely boss get on really well as friends/colleagues, and I'm excited to see where things go next, but even if it's nowhere beyond here I've decided I'm not going to have regrets about it and I think he feels the same. We're going to be chill about it (which isn't my default setting if you hadn't noticed lol)

I hope you heal quickly OP, barring that bit it's such a heartwarming story.

I had the same issue with a boss I didn't know too well. I went out on a night out, ended up going back to the office on the Friday night and we slept together.

I casually dropped him a text before Monday morning to break the ice! It was still awkward on Monday but not half as bad as it would of been.

A lovely thread to read on a shit day. Thanks OP.
Hope your relationship continues to go well.

What a great thread. Love it.
Enjoy every minute, OP, esp when assailant is handed custodial sentence, and ex boss is standing beside you to give you a hug. Ex only cos you've been moved due to relationship.
I would recommend a fancy pair of shoes to replace the pukey ones for Christmas perhaps?

How's it going with your boss bf? OP?

Yes! An update is needed!!!