"Accidentally" slept with my boss (face palm)

[HaveILostMyMind]

I don't know what to do. I work in a smallish team and we all get on really well. I was at university with my immediate boss about 10 years ago, we knew each other, but not all that well and I hadn't seen him until I started this job last year. I have just come out of a 5 year relationship and he has been single for the last year or so since his engagement broke up. We were working late to meet a dealine last night and were joking around, I have no idea what came over us but we were both being a little flirty and we ended up kissing. I went back to his apartment and we ended up in bed together. I never do this! Now I'm really worried about seeing him at work on Monday. Should I just act like it never happened or try and speak with him about it? I feel like a total idiot, and can't believe I did this.

Think what Jinxx said sounds good.

At risk of sounding like an amateur psychiatrist, I think you need to decide how you feel and why you did it before talking to your boss.

Is it possible you feel lonely after coming out of a long relationship and he was someone familiar offering you some affection and attention?
Do you wish it had never happened and want to go back to a working relationship or do you have feelings for this man?

Decide what you want first and go from there.

(I'm quite rubbish at relationships though so you may not want to follow my advice .)

Hmm I think something more will come of this!

What was the tone of the note on the Post-it?

If you leave it, it will be FOREVER awkward. You need to deal with it, one way or another.

It will be the elephant in the room. I agree, you need to think about what you want and then talk about it with him.

I agree with pp, work out if you want to take it any further first, then text.

Personally, if you didn't give any consideration to the morning after you are an idiot. Decide what your feelings are, tell him, and be a decent human being.

He may not have texted you because you left and doesn't know where he stands either? What did your post it note say?

Sleeping with the boss is a really bad idea.

Do you like like him? Do you think he likes likes you? Would you like anything to come from this or things to just go back to how they were?

He just text to say he had an away game today and left without his phone. He's just home and wants to know if I've eaten yet. I don't really know how I feel, he's really lovely and we get on really well but I've not considered anything else because I was in a relationship, and I completely agree that sleeping with the boss is a bad idea. I was in the middle of composing my breezy message and now he's just texting me like a normal person and I want to respond like a normal person would but I'm having a little meltdown

He wants to know if you want to go out and eat him, do you?

Fuck, EAT WITH HIM! Not eat him.

Awww he likes you!

You think he's lovely and get on well so you're half way there. Was the sex good?! But you need to sit down and talk through the professional complication before proceeding. And you need to work out if you want to proceed before that!

So have you eaten?

Go....talk to him....and maybe just mention that you don't know the etiquette for one night stands as you've never had one before.

And see how it goes?

I flirted with my boss, then we dated and I slept with him, then we lived together, then we got married.
I'd worked for him for a decade with no indication of any attraction on either side before we got together.
He is still my boss.
It was a very good thing :)

Go for dinner with him, sleep with him again and then you don't have to worry about it being a ONS

HaveILostMyMind and her hopefully hot boss sitting in the tree, K I S S I N G

Have no advice sorry, hope all goes well

Eat with him, sleep with him, no longer a ONS and problem solved!

Don't eat him.

He wants to know if you want to go out and eat him, do you?

Chortle - I love typos.

chasingsquirrels, pleased it all worked out for you.

But, sleeping with the boss is generally seen as a bad idea.

and slightly tacky
But that's my personal opinion and not very helpful.

But, what's done is done. I second meeting up with him and working out ways of minimizing any damage to your future working relationship.
Who knows, you might find a relationship does develop out of it and the whole thing works out fine in the end.

You're single, you've already slept with him once...my first question would be, was it good? Would you like to do it again?

I'd go for dinner anyway, if only to clear the air.

Or do eat him, it'll break the ice