Feeling a little bit down in the dumps about my lack of a love life...

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I'm a 35 year old single mum to a five year old DD. Split up with her dad when I found out I was pregnant however it was all a bit complicated as we had occasional 'reunions' until she was about a year old and I said enough and finally cut it all off.

Ex is now happily coupled up with a new girlfriend, which I'm totally OK about. No feelings between us anymore, so not at all complicated.

I've had a couple of short term relationships since then, lasting no more than 6 months.

I find it difficult to meet new men. I've tried OLD but haven't got anywhere with it. Most of the men I meet in RL are married/coupled up. I have had lots of crushes on men, even if they are single I don't think they even know I exist. I am unbelievably horny all of the time.

I just don't think it's going to happen for me. I don't think I'll ever meet someone nice. The type of guys who do express interest are usually weirdos/creeps/in relationships. Am dismayed why I attract these types and not a normal, nice single guy.

I never get asked out. I think I'm OK looking, am reasonably intellegent (have a degree and currently doing an MA), kind, caring etc. I think I'm a nice person. I just don't seem to be able to meet someone who thinks the same.

Don't really know why I'm posting, I guess just to get it off my chest. Feeling a bit down about it all at the moment. This idea that I will be left on the shelf for ever.

Having a rubbish evening at the moment ,film night was ok kids have gone to their rooms sat feeling upset and terribly alone. Would love a beer and some chocolate!

Oh dear roverman 75....All sounds gloomy, but believe me, I know how you feel, as I'm sure my fellow mumsnetters would agree. Attack the fridge. Sure there's something inside. Tomorrow is another day, yet easy to say...Keep Calm and Carry on.

Wish I could attack the ,fridge ,very little in there as it's nearly shopping day .,think ill go to bed ,have a lot to think about.

Are you feeling a little better rover on this delightfully rainy Monday evening? I promise not to tell you off about the phone again - just hope you have the situation resolved, and that either way, you're happy.

Er, Tuesday even.... Fuck, that just about sums up my head state!

Situation has been resolved , had to walk away and go no contact , not happy though , feeling low at the moment

Oh, rover - it will improve. Can you just try a day or so NC to begin with? Just to give yourself a bit of a break? It sounds very messy at the moment and you've been upset by this the last few times you've posted. It's hard but right now, it seems the only option.

I haven't contacted her since Monday morning and have deleted her numbers , it's the not seeing her again that hurts , anyway keeping myself busy with open and parents evenings this week ,might hit me more the weekend.

Well that's progress, and well done -it's not easy. You obviously still have very strong feelings for her; is it absolutely beyond repair? Don't know the full story, except for her teen DS causing problems. Don't contact her tonight - I imagine she still has your contact details so if she wants to, she can get in touch. What can you do to distract yourself?

She can't get hold of me as I've blocked her from this end , I felt I had no choice ,there was no way I could go back cos of her kids , one of mine didn't really like her either , so it's for the best ,even if it will be hard , need to get comfortable on the shelf for a few months !

You will be ok, you just need a little time to process it all. Don't be hard on yourself for feeling low, it sounds as though it's all been a bit intense in the last week or so. I guess it's the bit when the kids go to bed that are the toughest.

All of them being teenagers they don't go to bed that early anyway and I usually go when the last one does,so I'm not left sitting thinking . It's just time to move on I need , not really sure if I want to try with someone new in the future ,I can't seem to ever get a relationship to work, I'm nearly 48 and I've not even been married . it just seems like too much effort . Might just be saying that cos I'm feeling low though.