Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

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I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

You probably did the right thing evil. Where he's that fixed in his ideas it would only end in tears. I'm sure mine will too, but what the hell. The ride is too good to get off right now, and I don't want any more children.

If anyone wants to chat about dating much younger men, I'm right here . And god yes I'd love to know what goes on in that head.... Going away together weekend after next. Am in equal parts terrified and counting down the minutes.

up - what hurts the most is that fact I think he does want kids but is scared of them. Oh, I wish I went to his house and yelled at him.

On another note, I'm talking to mr. Photo he seems nice. It's all at the early stages yet.

Teacher wants to meet and has put ball firmly in my court. Now I need to suggest a date and time.

This is effectively a sex interview isn't it? Even if you're after a very long term thing and there's no way you're going to jump into bed with them, you are effectively meeting up to decide whether the other person looks like someone you would ever sleep with or not.

And the panic is back...

Ah pringle 😂 just see it as a meeting to see if he's someone you'd like to spend some time with. Cart:Horse etc

UpYerGansey I am one of life's over thinkers. Can you tell? Must. Pull. Self. Together.

I do that too pringle - I'm notorious for it. Exhibit A: one of the reasons I broke up with lovely guy was because I was v worried about what his family would think of me. I had not met his family nor had the subject been raised 🙄
So now I'm trying to live more in the moment, and enjoy it for what it is.

Hello everyone. I haven't been on here since the 107 thread. How's everyone doing? and where are all the usual posters (DestinysDaughter/WavingnotDrowning/PrizyPrize/DrSeth)? Let's hope they're happily coupled up.

Noonoomummy I had a 7 year relationship with someone who was 12 years my junior and we're still friends now so age doesn't have to be a barier. Plus, I've been seeing someone I like to call Audidriver for several months now who's 14 years younger than me so don't let it put you off. It's the person not the age. It depends where they are in life, their maturity and what they want from life that matters.

TessMcNess Give the younger ones a chance. If nothing else they're fun and a lot less jaded than the older ones.

Well I told my Mr 31 that I wouldn't be seeing him again, as I couldn't get past the age difference. Also he has no filter when it comes to sex/talking about sex. He seemed quite sad about it, but has been in touch again, to ask if I'd be interested in just meeting for sex! See previous comment about no filter

It looks like tomorrow's date is still on - why am I so worried he'll cancel. I'm so hoping I like him as much as I think I will, even if he does live 2 hours away! Hoping he likes me too

As for blokes doing a runner after messaging loads - I don't get it either?!? I certainly don't get why they xx check your profiles out again, a few days later!!

Not a man, but I get it. If you're messaging 3 or 4 people (irons?) at any one time, it' hard to keep track... So I check back inot the profile to try to remember why I messaged them/stopped messaging them

TBF, half the time I read it, see that they're not looking for a relationship, and think, oh yes, now I remember!

Am a bit worried that freuesntly checking out profiles marks me as a stalker, whereas it's just not really paying attention!

Also, if I click on the wrong bit of the inbox on POF, it takes you to the profile too...

Mr Far Away deleted his profile. I hope he's OK, he sounded like he'd suddenly had enough. It just reinforces how fleeting the contacts we make through OLD are - they can withdraw without any notice...

I've just realised that I've been doing what men have done to me. I was happily, if slightly guiltily, messaging Mr 31, when I knew really that I probably wouldn't see him again. Or if I did, it would only be for moose burgers In fairness, he was quite happy with just the thought of moose burgers!!

Well im really happy to hear that it's possible to date a younger guy. For a while at least. Waving back at you all!

So, overthinking it is probably my problem too. Im just pretty certain that, long-term, it cant go anywhere - they'll want kids, a family, someone they can introduce to their friends/ family. But if it's possible to enjoy a short term thing, that's good enough for me right now.

(A recent graduate tho... ? That means he must be like 21. I'm 44!!!!! No. Just no. Thank goodness there are so many attractive thirty something guys out there And I might have to get back in touch with that gorgeous, gorgeous 35 year old that I moose burgered a few times then deleted...)

Ok so after all my moaning the other day how tinder/POF were just rubbish and no one I would be interesting in even responding to I have got myself I iron (mr Wales) he seems nice and we have been chatting for few days now and he has suggested going for a drink (will have to be next week though as I'm busy until Tuesday)

Fly I also have 4 kids and worry if that's going to scare people off and yes a few it has but lots it hasn't! I make sure I drop in the kids very early so if they want to run then can before I waste to much time on them

Oh and as for the Hun/bubs etc I also hate it and stop talking to people on that basis... my Wales called me hen earlier but given that he is Welsh I will let that go

This thread is so fast moving in rubbish at keeping up with who's who and what's going on

Second date with Mr LD is go tomorrow night!!!

Welsh that's great news and sound promising. 1.5 hours is totally do able if you like each other you will find a way

Well so much fotlr me not having contact with Mr 31...........we've just...sorry for over share......had phone sex

MrsFluff! how do you even do that?? No, I don't want details, but good for you!

We've done it twice now! I can't tell my bestie, as she thinks I'm not in contact with him. It's rather fun

So just got back from my date with mr birm, I'd had a manic day at work, then sorting the kids, to be honest I wasnt in the mood for a 1 hour drive to meet a man I'd never met!! But I did go, he was actually better looking than the photos, and very sweet and def shy .... Not even a kiss on the cheek! But a couple of mesgs since arriving home and he's keen!! . The thing is he's never married, no kids so is on a completely dif planet to me in many ways. I'm going to have another date, see if I get something going if only flirting!!!! But I feel a bit guilty because my other iron .... I've been talking to mr mountain bike for 3 weeks, had op so can't drive hence no date .... He's away this week ..... But I seriously fancy him!! I mean rip your clothes off fancy!! I've decided Im not going to contact him, see if he contacts me when he gets back! ....... but then I feel guilty about mr birm?

Wingle, it sounds like it went well. I'm glad you're planning to see him again.

Wait and see if you hear from Mr Mountain Bike and them go from there?

I'm with you on the feeling guilty though, I don't think it sits right with me, chatting to a few different guys, it makes me to anxious

Up Yer & Pringle I was worried about what people would say about me and my younger man too (the last one not the current one) but couldn't have been nicer. His friends all said he was lucky, their girlfriends were really nice too and his brother was great about it as he himself was with someone five years older. One thing that was weird though was that I looked remarkably similar to his aunt who also shared my name but apart from that it was fine.

I haven't told anyone about current younger man because it's not the same and isn't going anywhere. We don't have a relationship as such, just fantastic sex and we're both happy with that.

MrsFuff I've always wanted to do that but not sure how. I think I'd have to fake it!

Wingletang1 don't feel guilty. They do it too. Just keep a spreadsheet if you get confused.

Welshmaenad Good luck tonight!

Single - love the spreadsheet idea! That's made me chuckle. How to do phonesex? Just talk filthy dirty and enjoy it (I'm never going to heaven am I?)

Mr Gosport has just messaged to let me know traffic is bad and so he's running late, he wanted me to know so I can delay setting off - polite and definitely not cancelling!!!!

I've suggested a day for meeting Teacher.

Regardless of whether he can make it, I've now officially put myself out there and I am a little bit proud of myself for taking that step. :)

I'm also going out to two events this weekend (one with absolute strangers, think like a Meet Up) and you never know. The more new things you do/new people you meet, well, the more opportunities are out there.

Yes this thread moves at lightening speed and I do read all your posts but can be tricky keeping up. So refreshing to have you all here, in a good way of course because I'd love for you all to meet someone wonderful.
Upyer I want to take you up on your offer of advice of dating (much) younger men please.
I really would like a second date with Mr ma. We had a first date a couple of weeks ago, seemed keen. He lives an hour away. He has his daughter every other weekend and also helps his dm out, she's not very well at all. We have messaged earlier this week (|I signed off by saying if he fancies a catch up then give me a call) but considering it's half term don't want to chase. Sooo shall I touch base again early next week or leave it???