Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

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I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

sumoweeble Could just have been nerves? Doesn't sound like you were massively impressed though...

I actually received an apology text tonight. And saying he has been thinking of me since. He has asked to see me for a second first date but I'm playing it cool. It is half term now and I have plans with the children each day so he will have to wait!

Sumo, listing things keeps things so one sided, doesn't it Hard to build a conversation around

We'll time and place are confirmed with the lovely Mr Gosport. I don't think he's gonna bail. He seems really up for it.

The 3q year old has messaged lots, lots of sex banter but also asked me for another drink. I'm holding off confirming, till after I've been out Friday.

Arghhhhhh, predictive text!!!

New here - hope you don't mind. Been taking a breather from OLD for a while but dipping my toe in again. Gingerly. Just wanted to share - a bloke replying to my message said ' you sound crazy like me, my friends call me nutter.' Right put me off, made me think of David Brent.

Hurrah re Gosport date, mrsfluff!

I can't see me and Mr Lightswitch together, tbh, Pringle. He seemed quite kind and eager to please but I'd need a lot of physical attraction to put up with all those lists and there was not even the tiniest spark.

Chalk it up to experience Sumo and move on

Nice going MrsFluff, fingers crossed for Friday!

Good for you Debbs, I think that's the way to be, I'm trying!

Garlic - laughed out loud at David Brent, definitely dodged one there

My Mr Interesting is still away, so the Saturday moose burger opportunity came and went, and I think he's gone flaky on me as his frequent, very keen messages have dwindled over the weekend. He did send me one last night saying he'd lost his phone over the weekend...just typing that makes me realise how lame it sounds... but that he's very much looking forward to seeing me when he gets back. I replied very coolly so we'll see.

My only other worry is that I am literally climbing the walls so horny I'm in danger of texting Mr No Strings, who I know I would have an amazing time with but the no strings are easier for him than me

mrsfluff - sisters before misters

I think Joe may have to wait a while longer to get over his horneyness - Mr Gosport sounds nice; I'm looking forward to your date too. Sort of a thread date-by-proxy

I love this topic! Met my husband online. Was on and off the site for 6 -7 years!

I am a what some people would call conservative person. Never had a fling or casual dated ever and took it slowly with consummating the 4 relationships in my life time. In fact first one waited 8 years - married and then ...

Anyway, so met my hubby online, half way across the world, felt attracted and more. He felt the same. Met about 2 months later - I flew!

Consummated relationship in 24 hours - it just felt right. He flew half across the world next time and in a few months of accumulating frequent flyer points in the 100s of thousand he proposed in 5 months and married with 8 months of first in person meeting.

Lesson: have rules, deft have rules. Protected me for meting hubby day :)

If your heart, soul, brain and Gut feel right let it go.....

theartistseye It's nice to hear a success story. Out of interest, how long did it take you to meet your OH through OLD?

Hullllloooooo everyone

Have namechanged to join in with this thread but I'm a long standing MNer and the worlds worst namechanged so will probably start posting under my old soon!

Little intro: single 6 mths, not looking for a relationship but looking for something a bit more than FWB. I've had a v casual man for the last few months but it's started getting a bit unhealthy on my side so I've called that a day today.

Joined tinder two days ago. Some reservations, I feel crap at talking to people over text, I'm much better in person. Also.....I'm a single mum to 4 children and I've got a horrible feeling most men will run for the hills when I tell them. Any ideas how to drop that into the conversation?

Talking to 4 men at the moment and half hoping to get a date for this weekend but no idea if that is realstic or not!

And just got a message back from one of them and he called me bubs and Hun all in one message. Is it being too picky to delete just for that?

Will catch up when I'm sober but back from date - nice guy nowt wrong with him,nice evening but no wow factor. He's only 2 months out of a marriage tho. Waaaaaay too soon for him. Ended up recommending a lawyer for him. Ffs.
Indie Boy texting all night since I got back. Think he doesn't like my dating. Wants to take me away for a weekend. Have told him not unless we stop dating other people. Think I'm in control of this one now

Possibly making no senses. Bit pissed

Fly block on the basis of Hun alone. I block for the use of more than one x. E.g. Hiya Hun xxx how u doing?x

Garlic - who doesn't fancy David Brent............

Theartist - thank you, that's really encouraging. I'm so glad it worked out for you.

Fly - good luck with OLD bubs To be honest, I wouldn't reply to someone who called me hun and bubs in one message and that's from someone who calls everyone Lovely

Only 2 months since he split Sky? Yup, that seems a little too soon. Indie Boy sounds interesting though.

I'd block or not reply on the basis of 'hun' too, and babe, and xxx
sumo you did really well to get through the date, I think I would have started giggling!
Glad you had a good night sky, 2 months does seem quite soon
Does anyone stay friends with the guys they meet that aren't quite 'the one', or does that tend to not happen?
I am really nervous about today, more so than the first time I met him....weird...

Yay so pleased we have another thread....
Well last night was date number 5?
Anyway it was so good again ..we held hands walking to the bus stop (child again) his hands went wandering too (good sign) then I got home and he text saying what do you want us to be..shall we give this a go and see where it leads?
I said yes sounds good ...

2 mths out of a marriage....eek

Good luck Hyg

Why do I feel bad about blocking bubs man? Only exchanged about 10 message!.

Louisa! Yay sounds on the up for you

Louisa Yayyyyy! You met someone within one thread! You go girl

Fly I probably wouldn't block and delete for that but maybe i'm a soft touch? Have you already blocked him? Maybe he's just nervous and new to dating?

And this Does anyone stay friends with the guys they meet that aren't quite 'the one', or does that tend to not happen? - Hy - I met one of my good make friends on there when I tried Tinder 3 years ago. He's lovely. No relationship spark but we're mates, who catch up now and again but talk all the time (Not sure that helps but I see no reason why you can't be friends with an OLD date anyway)

Hi all .. Bit of a learning curve all this .... Mr surgeon, got way too keen ... wanted me to ring him in bed, calling me babes!!! 😳 Went on a date with MrTall, nice guy nice chat but no real spark. Mr mountain bike on holiday, me friend still messaging but getting less. So top of the pile is mr birm, he seems really nice but lives nearly 40 miles away! Is it worth pursing? I don't seem to meet anyone local? 😕

My two most promising matches are a doctor and a teacher. The latter suggested meeting at some point and I must admit, my initial reaction was to panic. I'm now staring at my profile picture to figure out how much it looks like me in real life. The thought of being a disappointment is not a pleasant one...

Taking the plunge and chatting to people online hasn't been so bad. The next step sounds dreadful. Someone give me a pep talk, I think I need one!

Wingletang1 I've also met a nice Mr Far Away. We're both not interesting in travelling, but have started exchanging friendly messages. Shame, I think I would meet him if he was local.

No I haven't blocked him yet

I was with my ex boyfriend who turned out to be a twat for 6 years. He lived 40 miles away. We made it work ... I don't see it as a problem really. What's 40 miles though if they're The One?

Fly - maybe see how 'babes', 'hun' and other cringe compliments he continues to send before deciding for sure?