Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

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I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

You are right.

I'm sat in the pub......awaiting Mr Gosport!

Pringle - well done for putting yourself out there!

It never rains but it pours. Doctor has just suggested meeting up, so I've suggested a day too. Thanks, Mrsfluff. Hope your day goes well! :)

** date

He is lovely!!!

Oh god curly - be it far from me to be able to offer advice about the tricky business of dating the Younger Element... I'm absolutely making it up as I go along! Would you send him a "how's tricks?" kind of message?

My own policy has been a "don't ask, don't get" kind of thing with my guy and that's been going well so far. It's a big gap, 14 years. But I'm young for my age, and he's kind of old for his. As single said in a previous post, its about the person.
We work in a similar environment, understand each others lives and have a lot in common. I don't think about the age thing all that much.

Yay!! Mrsfluff

Go MrsFluff keep us posted!

upyer sorry didn't make myself clear Mr ma is not the younger man, he is 5 years older but looks great for his age.

The younger man he's asked to meet and I'm stalling because of the 17 year gap , he comes across ok (as in no innuendos, not relating to sex as many of the younger men do ie had a message from one just asked me outright about a booty call.....it's all getting quite boring now yawn ), we haven't covered anything as such as he feels it's better to do that in person.

Hmm I dunno Curly. I have a strong connect with my one, I can safely say it's not all about the sex. which is pretty amazing, but it's the same for him. Late at night and without permission we seem to have found ourselves in some kind of relationship with each other...

I have to say ladies, you are all making me feel less worried about my relationship thing with the Toyboy ... (he's 7 years younger)

5 weeks and I still like him. Although not quite as much as he seems to like me which is very strange for me. Someone actually likes me

I wish I knew what my one felt about me 🤔
He must like me if we're going away for a weekend (to an isolated cottage!) right?? 😳
This dating business makes an idiot of me.

This dating business makes a fool out of us all! The getaway does sound like an obvious sign of interest though, UpYerGansey. ;)

Just bought some new underwear so my boobs are no longer round my waist (OK, slight exaggeration but I'll take any help I can get and now my silhouette is a bit smoother). Also bought a new dress - the shop assistant talked me out of the one I was going to buy and said this one was more flattering and definitely the one to wear on a date.

I really feel like there's been a lot of hand holding going on... Why does going on one silly date seem to require so much moral support?! I am a grown woman!

Hi everyone, good luck MrsFluff sounds like it is going well

I have been reading and following for the last few weeks but not really posted. I have something a bit weird going on in real life with someone that there is a lot of complications with, Mr RealLife. Colleague/distance etc but we both REALLY fancy each other and are close friends and talk for hours every day on whatsapp. I have no idea if anything will come of it- would be quite happy for occasional benefits but not sure what will happen. I sadly don't think at this point anything could work out properly though, although we have discussed our wedding(!!) and all sorts . We talk as if we are in a relationship. I really, really like him. I am due to spend a few nights in a hotel with him soon, and lots of alcohol will be involved.

I have sort of being keeping a bit off the OLD thing due to my over investment in the above bad situation but have a guy that wants something not too serious. I messaged him and he replied straight out that he wasn't after anything to heavy. Which sort of maybe suits me, if I wasn't so invested in Mr RealLife. I don't know whether to message him back and suggest meeting and see how I find him .

Sorry, just getting it off my chest, no idea what to do for the best...

I'm in awe of you all, I really am. How are you getting so many dates?!?

I've matched with about seven people on Tinder, one disappeared mid convo, others haven't messaged and they are so far out of my league I can't message them. One I'd started talking to asked me for a drink tonight, I said yes, then clarified I wasn't only after ONS. You'll never guess what happened next...

I've got an old FWB messaging me, he doesn't know what he wants. If I reply he draws away, if I go cold he's texting and flirting non-stop.

On POF I'm getting messages but there is no one at all I could even remotely fancy.

Good luck everyone on dates, looking forward to the updates. I'm living vicariously through you all! Think I need to start buying some more cats.

Would you go on this date ?
So basically he's 10 years younger than me, wants me to drive down 60 miles to his parents house to stay - separate rooms - we are going clubbing - first date ???
He's alright looking, good job.
Just not very convinced tbh but was meant to be going out with mr I love you but who basically cancelled our dirty weekend away at 5.15pm because he's got to work this weekend - for an investment bank 😕💩

I don't really fancy it but what else am I going to do, kids are at their dads I feel like it might be a laugh, I'm not going to drink, can always drive off if it's shit

AintThatSomething, Mr RealLife sounds a lot like my ex. We were very close, the distance was totally workable and I'm sure he has no idea why I dumped him. However he was so so very selfish and I realised I was far more into him than he was into me. When he found a new job, he couldn't be bothered travelling to see me and it was very one sided. With colleagues, it's at least partly convenient. I hope your Mr RealLife is much nicer than mine!

Ladies, what do you do with phone numbers? Do you give out your real one when asked, or do you use a different SIM? (Jeez. I really am new at this.)

Pisssssedofff I wouldn't. But maybe that's just me.

What did Mr I Love You say when he cancelled? If he works in IB, it's entirely plausible he had to cancel rather than it being a fob off. If he sounded sorry he had no choice, then I would give him another chance rather than playing with Mr Mummy's Boy.

He's has been very quiet all week. I never know whether to message or not, if they don't reply to the first im reluctant to send s second. So that's happened a few times this week where he's read the message at 8am and I've had no reply until bedtime hinting he'd like "photos". Yeah right

Pisssssedofff Is that Mr I Love You asking for photos? You know what, I had an investment banker try to get me to send him photos the other day. Ha. Maybe they all do it. I'm not putting up any more normal photos let alone dirty ones. Anything you share with OLD can end up anywhere on the internet. I'm being cagey as hell at this point with everyone.

Oh god I've Pm'd you if that's ok Pringles. We should have a rogues gallery

Not the same guy this time but yes, we really should!

Well that's something lol

Sorry for late update! My date went really well. He was absolutely brilliant fun and I fancied the pants off him. The feeling seemed mutual......and the kissing was lovely