Online Dating ... and this is a thread for while we are waiting! Dating thread 109

[loobyloo1234]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

PIssssedofff I am not sure if he actually is married or just saying it, certainly didn't mention it at all when we met a year ago in July 2015.

anyway doesn't make me feel any better...

Oh Looby, good luck, I can imagine how you must feel x

Lastnick, it's hard to say, but I like to think I'd be OK with it. Was it a long time ago and do you feel he's being honest? End of the day though, how you feel is how you feel and there is no right or wrong way.

Pissssed- squeal!!!! How exciting

I feel awful Feel bad telling you guys before I've even told him but I need to let it out ...

I've really tried to give it time in case the attraction grew. But it hasn't. Does anyone think I should do this over text rather than face to face? Feel like I owe it to him to at least say it in real life why do I have a awful feeling in my gut, hate being nice

I don't know what to advise Looby, in person will be hard, but clear. A message could lead to it dragging out? I'd honestly say, whichever is easier for you x

oh right just to be aware - if someone tells you they are married or any other lies or sounds too good to be true then research research research. Google is your friend.

Date with Mr Wildcard tonight. Suddenly super nervous!

I would text it!!

Do you all research all men? Like should I be googling Mr Shy

I googled Mr Shy as I developed severe paranoia suddenly. He's not on Facebook (that he told me) and I googled his phone number and email, only one thing came up - a hobby that I know about. He doesn't seem to have an online presence but then I don't have social media except Facebook and he only got snapchat when I did to mess about with
I'm hoping this is a good thing??

I research all men can't stop myself.

Looby can you do a slow let-down over messages, then suggest a meeting as friends to discuss everything? He'll then have chance to take it in, and may not want to meet in person.

Pringle good luck with wildcard.

It had not crossed my mind to do it. I think I am a trusting twat!

Good luck with dates everyone!

I just put mr toyboy but great sex's phone number into Facebook - not on FB apparently - guess what he's on FB ffs

Argh!!!

It's a stupid stupid little lie but honestly it just chips away at any faith you have in human beings. I'm a good person why do I attract this shit ?

That's would piss me off. I mean it might be he doesn't use it but wouldn't you just say that?

Actually think it's cool nowadays to have facebook but deny you do and be friends with no one

He changed his profile pic on the 2nd of this month. First date with me 5th October, liked girl he's photographed with in the summer all coupled up on the 11th October, she's young skinny quite pretty.

Looks like I'm transitional woman

I won't obviously mention my fbi level snooping that I learnt due to cheating husband but am really cross tbh

I'm sorry. That's fucking annoying
What will you do now?

I'm not going to do anything, I honestly don't think im cut out for all this though. If Mr Aussie lets me down I'm becoming a nun without all the god stuff and with good shoes 😁

Pissss that is so annoying. I'm def investigating all potential dates now without feeling guilty anymore.

I wonder how many others he's stringing along?!

Could you try to comment on the photo, something like "I assumed you were single before dating?".

Ive sent him a friend request 😂😂😂
I do think he is single but it's a stupid little lie. And if he can pull girls like her, wtf is he doing with me, that's what's made me angry tbh

PissssedOff I like your style! I would wait till he accepts the request and then just silently block him. Nothing else required. What a dick.
Looby I'd just text tbh - if you meet him, he'll think it's a date. If it was me, that would just be monumentally awkward
Wow he sounded like an exhausting nutter! Think you're well shot!

I'm still in an increasingly awkward FWB with Indie Boy. We text all day every day, he tells me how gorgeous I am etc etc, and we meet up when we can. He doesn't like the idea of me dating, and tells me when he's drunk but I've told him he can't have it all ways - FWB means he doesn't have exclusive rights !
I also may have been asked out in RL I honestly don't know now if it's a friend thing or a date thing!!
It's a guy who I've known as an acquaintance for years and years. He teaches my DS one of his hobbies. We've never met up or gone out with friends etc - just keep bumping into each other.
He's suddenly messaged me on FB and asked how I'm doing, and asked if I fancy a catch up next Friday night in town, as he's coming up my way. Is this a date or not???!!!

It sounds like a date sky. Can you text and ask for dress code the night before? (that may be super lame, but its what I'd do!)

I'm starting to feel grubby about having 3 irons. How do I decide which to ditch, and how do you do it?

Baklava I'd use process of elimination. Do any of the three make you nervous or feel insecure at all? Then, have either of them acted as though this is temporary or they'll take months to feel 'secure'. Finally, do you look at any of them and think you may at some point find them unnatractive sexually, i.e. you're willing yourself on to give them a chance, but chemistry not there?