Just found out he's having an affair..

[3yearsnosleep]

Saw the texts and emails. He's going round in the morning apparently 'to make her blush'. She's his mates wife. What do I do???? Feel sick and have 2 little ones to look after.

Yeah they are. He's staying at theirs. They've texted and emailed me. Don't think anyone knows what to say though really, the damage is done and the outcome is clear.

Wow, there is no way in hell my mil would take in either of her sons after that. Nor would I tbh.

Take care if yourself OP

I suspect PILs have taken him in for now because they love him unconditionally, as you do if you're a parent, and because they still want to see their grandchildren who they love. But they must be terribly disappointed in and angry with him.

I can't imagine the other couple/family are doing any better. Did they have small ones as well? The husband must be devastated.

What a mess.

So sorry, OP.

Please try to go on the holiday you booked, with your mum or a friend. You need to get away for a while, and why should you and dc miss out because of his shit behaviour. ( you could maybe change the locks so the sod can't get in when you are away! ) just a thought. Take care of yourself

So sorry you are going through this OP but it sounds like you are coping brilliantly - am sure it doesn't feel like it sometimes.

Agree with PP - absolutely do not allow him access to the DC in your home, it's very confusing and will blur boundaries for all of you.

Also, yes, just go on holiday without him, it shouldn't cost too much to just change his name to that of a relative or friend. You will see that you really don't need him, cheating knobber.

Thinking of you op. Glad your mum is there.

The plan to tell your dd that daddy is living elsewhere is a good one.
Please do put some boundaries in place - you may feel like you want to keep everything as normal as possible for dd, but you need to have your own private space too. Having him in your home will be confusing for dd, as well as you not having somewhere you can just be you too.

How are you OP?

Hope you're ok OP? X