Supposed to be getting married in 10 days

[PixieMiss]

I thought after a number of shite years I had found some happiness but no, of course not.

He just punched me while our 6 month old was watching in his Baby Bjorn. I can't stop crying

Don't know why I'm posting. I just don't want to be alone.

I'm so sorry. It must be devastating.

Was he wearing your son in the baby bjorn when he hit you, or were you wearing him?

My son rolled off the bed too. It's very common. It was an accident. Don't let him use that accident as an excuse to undermine, threaten or isolate you. His violence was not an accident. It will affect you and devastate your child over time.

Please don't marry him in 10 days time. Don't imprison yourself in this relationship. Leave now, even if it's temporary. If you want to stay with him in the long term, then sort it out from a distance, lay down some conditions and let him know his violence is unacceptable. Give him some chances to sort it out (therapy etc), if he doesn't sort it out, then LTB.

Good luck!

Pack a bag with essentials and hide it in the garden or round the corner, anywhere you can grab it. Then wait for him to get back, and make an excuse to walk baby, go to shops and get out. You can't let this happen ever again, you have a child that needs and deserves to grow up in safety. If you can't do it for you, do it for him. Someone who punches you does NOT love you.

OP call the police. Tell them that he's due back and they can wait for him - then they can arrest him for assault. Then you can tell the Police you don't want him to return to your home. If it is your home you don't have to leave - there will be a DV unit the Police can put you in touch with.

You don't have to put up with this

So sorry you're having to deal with this OP, but the advice you're getting is spot on.

At the next available opportunity, get you and your son out of there. Go to a friend, relative, or the police and stay there.

Please call the police.

If not for you, for your child.

Please get out of this relationship fast.

This is only the beginning. If you stay you are saying to him that his behaviour is acceptable. It's not.

Just phone the police and get him arrested. Take your son and leave.

Just go.

You cannot marry this man and you need to leave him.

Remove yourself from the home and report this to the Police. He assaulted you and he should be arrested.

Do not marry him. He is unfit to marry.

This is not your fault that this happened to you; the fault here is all his. The abuse is not your fault; you did not make him do that to you. He acted here of his own accord.

He cannot stop you from taking your son either; that is an empty threat on his part than many abusive men use to keep their victims in check.

Jesus christ OP, call 999, take the baby out "for a walk", "to the shops", "to see a mate", ANYTHING then just keep walking. You can worry about getting "stuff" later when he is in custody.

This isn't a man you are with, it's a vile excuse for a human being and you owe it to your little boy to get out while you are both still alive. It will only escalate from here.

To add, both my children have fallen off things, had to have stitches, fall over and get covered in bruises. In all instances I wasn't watching just for a split second. That doesn't mean I am abusive and no one has ever even considered it abuse.

GET OUT NOW!

I have a bag and I am at my DMs. I just took my DS, didn't say where I was going but he will guess anyway.

You are all right. I beat myself up so bad over him rolling off the bed but in reality he is fine and has forgotten about it.

I have never seen my "D"P look so angry, he was spitting rage. It was so scary.

What do I do about the wedding? People have bought or hired suits. My grandmother has paid for my dress. His has paid for the venue. What can I say??

OP, I hope you are OK, that you have called family or friends and the police and you and your son have left. Please do not tie yourself legally to this man.
Whatever you decide. I wish you well.

You say you're not going through with it as you've been physically abused. He's a wanker & I cannot think of one reason why you should marry him

They would all rather not turn up than turn up and the marriage to end a few weeks later.

You are so completely in the right that you don't have to worry about other people right now. Cancel the wedding and tell people it was due to domestic violence - that will stop anyone from moaning to you.

Brilliant, you're safe and you've got away.

Can you find the strength to phone the police? Have you told your DM what has happened, all of it? Is she supportive? Can she handle making the cancellation calls on your behalf?

I just spent around £300 getting us to a wedding last week, I would not give a shiny shit about losing that money if one of my friends or family cancelled the wedding because they had been assaulted. Get your mum on to cancelling - and don't hide the reason.

Tell the people close to you exactly what happened - they will understand completely and will be so relieved that you're not going through with it. You do not need to cover up for him or feel embarrassed - this is his mess and he will have to deal with the fallout now.

If you don't want other guests to know the ins and outs, just email them all to say you're sorry for the short notice but the wedding has had to be cancelled.

You will get through this - somebody very close to me has been through something extremely similar where she was assaulted by her then partner in front of her baby. In retrospect when the shock wore off, she said it was the fact that it was done in front of her baby that gave her the strength (and rage!) to push on through and get rid of her arsehole ex.

You say the one thing that will instantly make everyone understand why it has to be called off. You say he was violent. And leave it at that. You don't need to go into details. Nobody (sane) would be crass enough to encourage you to go through with the wedding after that.

The truth is actually the quickest way to get out of the wedding. Nothing else will silence people more.

Cross posted.
So relieved that you are OK and out of the house.
Tell your DM what happened. Tell her to stop the wedding. Let her help you.
Suits can be cancelled, dresses sold on. I bet not one person among your friends or family would want the cost of their clothes to be the reason you married a man who would punch you down in front of your baby.

Another one saying: 'CALL THE POLICE'.

Pack a quick bag (paperwork, your ds birth cert, any passport/bank details, ds cuddly toy)
don't worry about clothes etc you can get those via a Refuge.

If they get there before he gets back tell them everything.
Including the 'rolling off' incident. It happens to most Mums (did me!) and your baby is FINE. They will SEE that. Your baby will NOT be fine with a man who punches his mum in the house. They will SEE that too.

If he gets back before Police, make an excuse and leave.
Call Police back and tell them where you are and that you were too afraid to stay in the house till they got there in case he punches you again.

Tell them the truth. He punched you, you have NOTHNG to be ashamed of.

And please call the police.

I think that in your circumstances, I would ask DM or a sister or other family member or best friend to contact the key people telling them the wedding is cancelled and asking that they pass the message on.

Lie low for as long as you need.

You've made a very wise decision.

A member of my family cancelled her wedding 2 nights before. Best thing she ever did. She lost money and had to put up with some derogatory remarks but what's that compared to what might have been a lifetime of unhappiness?
Forget about the wedding and just concentrate on protecting yourself and your child.

Well done on leaving Pixie...I'm relieved to see you and your child are safe.

You tell people he punched you in front of your child.

No other explanation needed. Not a single other word. This is not your fault and thank your lucky stars he showed his true colours before you married.

Good luck and keep safe and strong.

Call the police.

Announce the wedding is cancelled due to his violence towards you.