Supposed to be getting married in 10 days

[PixieMiss]

I thought after a number of shite years I had found some happiness but no, of course not.

He just punched me while our 6 month old was watching in his Baby Bjorn. I can't stop crying

Don't know why I'm posting. I just don't want to be alone.

I'm so sorry OP. If he won't let you take your child then call the police. What if your child gets caught in the cross fire next time? It's not worth the risk.

GO do not stay with this man. Do not marry him. All three of mine fell off beds my dh would never dream of punching me.
This is not your fault.

What do you think you can do today?

Are you able to call someone to come and get you and ds? Or do you have a car and you can just go somewhere? Do you have someone in mind?

I think your priority for today is getting away and getting some space.

Of course you can't marry him, he is an unfit criminal husband but deal with that tomorrow. Priority is to get out

I dropped mine down the stairs. After the initial horror and fright DH laughed. It's totally normal. What isnt normal is your fiances response.

Call the police and don't whatever you do marry him

What about my son? He won't me take him
If you mean that he won't let you take him. He doesn't have to let you take him, you just need to do it.

Please don't give up this precious chance to get out of this awful situation.

Please don't marry this man. Tell yourself you are just postponing if cancelling seems scary but then after a while hopefully you'll realise you did the right thing. IME men who hit women don't only do it once.

Oh my goodness my dd rolled off the bed at 8 months and everyone I talked to about it had a similar story - these things do happen to all of us! You are caring 24/7 for a tiny infant but you still have a million other things to do. Accidents do happen. You're not an nfit mother - your partner is emotionally manipulating you into believing this lie so that you won't tell people about him! He punched his sons mother on purpose - that is an unfit parent. Not an accident that happens to all of us.

He knows he has done wrong here by assaulting you. He wants you to let him get away with it and he will continue to abuse and control you in order to keep his secret. Please don't let him get away with this. You must report this to the police and get yourself and your baby somewhere safe. Wait for him to leave so he can't physically hurt or stop you.

You have a chance to get out now before things become even more difficult with a marriage certificate. Nobody is going to take your baby op.

Your safety and baby's safety is priority right now, please get help in real life as well as here

I fell forward off my cousin's cabin bed when I was 1yo and skinned my nose - I lived to tell the tale.

You're not a bad mother. Your "partner" is a terrible person, however, and you have to leave. Don't tell him, just call the police and go.

Make a plan to get out with your son. Keep it secret and escape safely. Then report him to the police - they probably won't be able to do much but you need this first assault on record.

He is emotionally and physically abusive before the wedding - he won't get better after it.

Be strong for your son.

My DD rolled off the bed and hit her head on the pointy end of a table - blood everywhere. My DH cuddled me and brought me flowers with a note saying how good I am doing at being a mum. He did not punch me.

Leave now while you have the chance. You really dont want your DS growing up seeing violence towards women as normal.

What everyone else has said. Call the police now, tell them what's happened and that you are scared of what might happen when he comes back. Ask them to send someone round straight away so you're not on your own. Is this the first time he's behaved like this or does he make a habit of abusing you?

Oh my God, if every baby who ever had an accidental bang or bruise were removed from their mother there'd be nobody living with their child. He will go on to punch your child in the future, no doubt. Fuck the wedding, get out and get rid while you can still just take the baby and walk.

This is NOT your fault op....

All children have accidents and if he is only saying what he said to put you in your place (in his twisted head at least) he thinks saying that will stop you leaving...

Please please don't marry him...

You need to get the police to you before he gets back... And so that you can get your son away from him safely...

The police will help you, please press charges, don't go back... He hit you in front of your child... He is a criminal who thinks that you and your child are his property...

Again, none of this is your fault...

call the police, he assaulted you and has your son. he wont be taking your son anywhere wen the police turn up.

make yourself safe call family and friends.

Ring the local women's refuge they will help you. Pack a bag while he is out. Can you get someone to pick you up?
Two of mine rolled off the bed. Nearly everyone I know has had this happen.

Not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. Very telling that this is the first time and the wedding is in ten days. He thinks he has you trapped now and the mask is slipping. Please don't think, not even for a second, that you in any way have to go through with this wedding. You don't. What's the worst that could happen? You could potentially be embarrassed (though you have no need to be), the alternative is far worse. For you and your baby.

You need to get out. Your son is a tiny baby - there is no way you will be prevented from having custody of him. Minor accidents happen to the children of even the most careful of people.

Please go. Now.a

If you are being abused, it may help to remember this:
You're not alone. One woman in four is abused during her lifetime.
You don't have to deal with this on your own.
The abuse is not your fault.
You cannot change your partner.
Domestic violence is against the law.

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OP are you doing OK? Is he back with the baby?

Call the police now. Leave and take your son with you. Then contact women's aid. Don't let him have unsupervised contact with the baby. x

This is clearly the tip of the iceberg if you think any of this is your fault.
He's abusive, in many ways I'm sure!
So get onto Womens Aid 0808 2000 247.
Definitely call the police and get some real life support around you ASAP.
This could escalate quickly.

By the way - I would bet that 80% of people have panicked because our baby rolled off of the bed.
It happens ALL THE TIME.

Other things will happen too.
Your DC will fall over, will no doubt trap a finger in a door. May well break an arm or a leg. All caused by ACCIDENTS!!!
A roll of the bed is nothing compared to what is to come.
You can't keep them wrapped in cotton wool.
You've done NOTHING wrong.

Are you ok OP?

Repeating what xocariac says above. Especially its not your fault it really really isn't.

There are no excuses for what he did to you. Do not allow him to even try to make you feel responsible.

Oh and your DS falling off the bed ? It happened to me too, just like lots of other posters on this thread. I used to work with an A&E Dr who used to tell distressed Mums that babies are made to bounce. My bouncing boy is 21 now and seems to have come through it.

Your Son has a slight bruise from falling off the bed. The damage from watching his Dad use his Mum as a punchbag, will not fade away so easily.