Supposed to be getting married in 10 days

[PixieMiss]

I thought after a number of shite years I had found some happiness but no, of course not.

He just punched me while our 6 month old was watching in his Baby Bjorn. I can't stop crying

Don't know why I'm posting. I just don't want to be alone.

[livinglooney8]

What a great mum you are, well done. You have put you and your child's safety before your partner's angry feelings. Wishing you well. You are a tower of promise - an amazing life awaits. Take courage & seize this chance.

[SandyY2K]

Well done and sending lots of strength your way. I honestly think you should keep your mum at a distance. That's not something I usually say to anyone, because I value family - but your mum doesn't have your best interest at heart.

[MrsDilligaf]

Pixie

I am not surprised you're feeling rough ((gentle hug & )

I can promise you that your life will be immeasurably better without him in it, but these early days and weeks are shit.

When I left my ex because of his violence my "D"F said of me..."well she is quite difficult to live with" I'm not difficult to live with (although I'm not sure my DH would always agree with me), but my F is used to my DM fawning about - I'm nothing like her. I can understand how hurtful it is for your family to be lacking in empathy.

You're going to go through a whole range of emotions, be angry, stay angry for a little while, and remember that the most important thing is that you and your DS will be golden without him. He is a weak, weak man. He is nothing but a coward, a bully and a twatting wankbadger.

[imother]

How are you today?

[TheLastRoseOfSummer]

Mine rolled off the bed too.

Everyone else is right.

Well done and stay strong

[ScarlettSahara]

Stay strong Pixie - you absolutely can do this. Agree with the advice you have been given - don't give him the opportunity to hit you again. He has shown his true colours.

You and your DS should be your priority now. BTW my DD fell off the bed at 9 months too - she rolled over while I was distracted. Her fall was broken by a bulky nappy. I felt awful but DH was very philosophical about it. She was fine. These things just happen.

[galaxygirl45]

For what it's worth, Pixie, I'm really really proud of you and what you've done. You've got a lot of support and remember that when times get tough.

[ddrmum]

Hi Pixie! Hope all goes well with 101. My experience with the police was really good, they had a great DV unit and do the freedom programme when you're feeling stronger. It makes sense of so much. Be totally honest with the police & stress the need for yourself & your DC to be safe.

[Dinah85]

Well done Pixie. Stay strong. As someone who went back to a boyfriend as it was just the once....well he held off another year but a leaopard can't change his spots and I felt a lot more trapped as we had a home together by then. Definately log it with the police, you need that record if he tries to get custody, and keeping your child safe I'm sure is priority one. He never hit you...until he did. A lot of woman have told themselves their partner would never hurt their child.... until they do. Best of luck to you

[MorrisZapp]

Just to say. A friend of ours cancelled his wedding with a months notice. No abuse, no bad behaviour on either side. He just realised it wasn't what he wanted.

His friends and family were all supportive, nobody cared about lost deposits or unrefundable suit hire. Those things are utterly irrelevant. No reasonable person expects somebody else to get married out of personal obligation to them.

[Atenco]

Yeap, I forgot to say that I'm another one who had more than one accident with my baby, duh! She's a fine mother herself now.

You're a strong woman and we are here for you.

[MycatsaPirate]

Christ, your mother sounds lovely

Please do call the police. And change the locks on your house.

Get his stuff out and keep him out.

Clearly he thinks if he's nice to you for a day or two you will take him back. Don't believe The Script.

He will be sorry
He may cry
When you don't accept this he will blame you
You made him do it
If you just be more careful in the future it won't happen again
He will get therapy (he won't)
He won't let you have your son (he has no choice in that)
He will kill himself
He has no reason to live without you.

Blah. Blah. Blah. Ignore him.

[MollyHopps]

Keep going pixie get it logged and start packing his shit to leave outside the front door.

As for your mother I am quite disgusted by her attitude towards this situation!

[amusedbush]

Well done on sending the email and for logging the incident. You are absolutely doing the right thing.

[Justaboy]

PixieMiss Poor you and for that matter your mother too. She must have had some odd things go on in her life to have those attitudes. Well done too for having the guts to call101 least its on record what happened that's the main thing.

Just out of some odd curiosity have you been in contact with his mum and or dad at all to see what he/she has to say about her sons behaviours?

Don't worry about the nipper. I've dropped each of my 3 DD's whist on nappy changing and bum polishing duties ! all of them are fine older women healthy now and none the worse for their experiences!

[Squeegle]

Well done. You are being really strong. Have you got a friend who can support you as your mum is obviously going to encourage you to stick with him.
I think you know that someone who can hit you like this is not going to get any more reasonable. He is dangerous to you and will use your DS to control you. So definitely report him and tell the police that you are in fear of him as you are calling off the wedding. I guess there will be someone along who can tell you what the police can do to protect you - I think they have special domestic violence units.

[ohfourfoxache]

Pixie you are so, so doing the right thing.

I know that logging this feels like the most enormous, daunting thing in the world. You need to actually speak to someone, rather than "talk" to us on your computer or send emails.

But you know what? You can do this. You've already taken the biggest step - you have decided that you're not going to take any more. You've sent those emails and you walked out with your wonderful ds. He is so lucky- he has such a strong mummy who will protect him.

You can do this Pixie. You're stronger and braver than you think.

[BadTasteFlump]

Well done OP. You know you're doing the right thing - be proud that you're such a fab mum

[Butteredparsn1ps]

Good Luck Pixie how dare your partner treat you and your DS this way?

Your Mum's attitude is sadly not unusual, but I believe it's a view that will change over time, but only because brave ladies like you have the courage to stand up for yourselves.

Go to the police, for you and your DS. And do it knowing you are helping other women too.

[hellsbellsmelons]

You are doing so well with all of this.
You ache because the adrenalin has now depleted.
Make sure you look after yourself.
Keep yourself hydrated and your sugar levels up because shock could hit you soon.
Keep going and keep strong!

[VanellopeVonSchweetz99]

Go Pixie! We are all cheering for you here. I'm so, so happy you are safe and will be calling 101. Please keep posting. Please change the locks.
Do you have any supportive friends close to you? Whereabouts are you in the UK?

[MatildaTheCat]

Just sending support. What an absolute shame your mother is so messed up she thinks punching someone,meet alone the woman you are about to marry, is OK.

Well done for sending the email. Now call 101. Making the whole thing real will get you the RL support you need. And plenty on here if you are short in RL.

Keep hanging on. Really well done.

[ThreeSheetsToTheWind]

Just read this. You poor thing. You have been so strong, well done.

Thank goodness you have the house. Please ring 101 as soon as you can and keep your doors locked. (((hugs)))

[Liiinoo]

You are being amazing. I hope you get better support from other friends and family than your mum is giving you.

[PGPsabitch]

Good luck op. You are doing the right and best thing. I've seen my friend make the mistake of not cancelling and four years of abuse, which got worse, she finally made the break. She bitterly regrets not making it before but thankfully has done now.

It's good not to cover up or sugar the truth. He was violent, this is his fault and to be honest about that stops any lies or minimising he may try.

Your mother...is nc not an option? She sounds toxic and no support for you at all.

Good luck with 101.