Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Lilac - I've read your posts before, does this mean it's all off? (sorry can't remember Mr's name) If that's what you've decided good on you, shit now I know. I'm only on pof so can't comment on any other site but they all seem pretty hit and miss from others comments on this thread. We are the eternal optimists I think

Hello all. I'm not having a date tonight!! Mr Tall still wouldn't make plans, so I suggested a place send asked for a time...........nothing! He read it but didn't reply. So I messaged him this morning, politely and said he obviously wasn't up for meeting, which was puzzling given his previous interest and good luck. He came back instantly with a sorry and excuses and a vague 'can do next week ', but no actual date. I've told him it takes 20 seconds to send a message explaining, rather than leaving someone hanging like that!!! Guess what!? No response So, another one bites the dust.

Mr Gosport however, continues to be fabulous. Messages lots, asks about me, my day etc. Flirty but clean - not once has he asked me my favourite position or sent a cock shot!! I soooo want to meet him!!!

Oh Mrs, what is wrong with these men???

Hope things work out with Mr Gosport instead. Aren't you glad you kept your options open now ?

Can I get some advice ladies or men ..
So tonight is date 4 with mr Geordie ..I live in a 1 bed flat and currently have my uncle staying as he has split with his wife .
After bowling shall I invite mr Geordie in ..il make sure my uncle stays in his room.
I just want some alone time with him..and maybe a bit fool around on the couch.
Shall I invite him in?

Louisa I think you put couch instead of bed?

I definitely think no harm inviting him in, but i would definitely do it somewhere your uncle isn't likely to wander around

I was thinking it would be kind of fun ha ha
The thrill of maybe getting caught,we wouldn't have to get totally naked just remove certain things ..can't believe I've just typed that.
I think I need to take initiative with this guy tho..

I'm feeling so disillusioned at the moment.

I don't know whether to come off old or throw all my energy at it. I can't see myself meeting anyone in real life and I'd love to have another relationship.

Don't give up (motheroreily) you never know who you might meet next.
Throw all of your energy at it or at least 50% ..what do you have to loose

The uncle thing would be a bit weird, in my opinion! Not very conducive to some relaxing sexy time

I know that's what I'm thinking ha ha
He has split with his wife so can't really ask him to leave and mr Geordie still lives with his mum.
He has a car tho ..so if things got desperate

Forme - I haven't a clue! Lol, yes I am! He's messaging again now. I think I will ask if he's serious about meeting and that of he is, he can do the running! I know my worth, I'm bloody good fun and I don't need a pen pal- we're either looking to meet.....or we're not!! If that scares him off? Well, he's no trim certainly not the sort for me!!

Mother - I know how you feel. I really miss male company and definitely want a relationship - just not sure I will meet someone to have it with!

Louisa- I'm not sure..............but I know what I'd probably do

I'd be terrified of an uncle walking in on proceedings Louisa !!! How long will you be hosting him?

Till he finds somewhere new to go..just got in from work and he is passed out asleep drunk in bed(one reason my aunt kicked him out)
I'm a soft touch ..I said a few weeks but I'm worried he won't make any effort to leave.

Forme yes I was on here few months ago, went out with a man I met first day on POF so left this thread. Thought I may have cracked it! Then it turns out he's working away regularly for years and I realised I couldn't have a very part-time relationship.

I've met one potential on OkCupid, works in similar area to me. He texted lots yesterday but then completely stopped. Looked at maybe 100 or so profiles on OKCupid and POF, but keep seeing things that put me off. Distraction from narcissistic, manipulative exH is what I really want.

I'm now curious how Louise is going to get around Uncle in house - is he drunk enough to stay asleep?

The car it is then, Louisa.

What do you ladies make of guys who view your profile/photos multiple times a day, including guys that you are messaging? Once or twice I'd understand, but it seems rather creepy to me, and puts me off meeting them a bit.

can anyone give me some tips for dating late 30s. I'm finding it a minefield.

I'm late 30s, it has highs and lows as with any ages? I'm trying POF and OKCupid.

I'm trying to be more selective and look for men with reliable income / careers. I would like a nice, fun person too, but don't want to pay for everything.

Happy what characteristics would you most like to find in a man?

I won't consider anyone who lives with parents or in shared accommodation. They don't need to be rich, just solvent and able to pay their own way. I'm nearly 40, with a decent job and a mortgage- I sort of want the male equivalent.

qualities in a man.......own hair teeth lol can you tell how desperate I'm getting..... I guess someone independent who can take care of himself,reasonable income and just a nice person basically.
I don't like grey hair on a man or someone overweight but I don't think I have unreasonable demands.
on POf at moment but having no luck with it.

My Mr Gosport is probably not quite what I'd go for physically, but I love messaging him. He makes me roar with laughter and feel good about myself. He chats about stuff, work, life etc. I'm so hoping I fancy him in the flesh, because I fancy the him I know in writing.

Hi everyone.

Been reading the threads with interest, need your harsh words to help me now please.

Met someone on POF last year, predictably ghosted me after delicious mooseburgers were served. Then when I met someone else he was full of declarations of how amazing I was but I had got over him.

Now 9 months later I'm sadly back on POF and he hunted me down relentlessly with lovely words that I hadn't had with my previous guy, so just as predictably we met again, went out, had mooseburgers and now the ten texts a day full of lovelyness have deceased to two abrupt texts - he never starts the conversations and just stops texting.

On top of that he said I was 'plumper' than his last partner, had never asked what my job is and doesn't even know the names of DS and DD.

Yet here I am, sad because he's not texted for six hours.

I know I deserve better, but absolutely no one on POF floats my boat at all, so I want to stick with him, even though he's as flaky as Hell.

Please fellow OLDers - talk sense into me!

Tessellation- I'm going to be tough with you, sorry!! Why are you settling for so little!! You are honestly worth more - think of yourself as a prize!! Every time you see him, you'll just chip away at your self-esteem. You need to block him and move on. Stay and chat with us

Hello ..no sex ha ha
But he came in and we cuddled on the sofa and chatted,kissed etc
It was lovely..he is such a nice guy and he deffo isn't just after sex ..phew
I'm waiting for some quality to show but nothing bad so far ...
Date number 5 next week ...

Lol, I'm not sure how Tess became Tessellation, without me noticing!!