Yay! A new thread 
I hesitated a tiny bit before sharing this with you all but I think it's worth writing down the positive experiences when we've all been through really unpleasant situations with extremely unpleasant men. 
This is not an OLD experience. One of my closest friends suggested a few weeks ago that one of her exes should help me out with the photography needed for a project of mine destined for a British magazine. Early August this man spent the day with me; far longer than the photos required and there was a strong chemistry between us but nothing happened. I went on holiday, he worked on my pictures, we exchanged emails but everything was above board.
Today he returned for a second session (lots of work involved). And there he admitted to me that he had found me attractive the first time he'd met me over a year ago (I couldn't recall that at all) and that he would really, really want to have a relationship with me but obviously his ex / my friend made things complicated. He hugged me (for a very long time), told me he felt so happy with me and I said to him that I couldn't do anything with him because my friend was very important to me. He agreed with me and proceeded to do four hours' work (free) with grace and kindness.
Maybe this all sounds mundane and boring to some of you but the thought which resounded in my head today was 'at LAST, here's a man who has the courage to be honest with me AND who respects my decision not to engage without becoming in the slightest grumpy.
I thanked him for his honesty and for the work he'd carried out.
I've despaired like Destiny and so many other lovely women here over the past few weeks. I've experienced the lack of courage and integrity of a good number of men towards me and wondered what on earth I was doing wrong. There are some good ones out there, ladies. I really hope you don't mind me sharing this with you. My desire is to help you all BELIEVE.
And here I am, again, alone. But at least I've behaved decently and done the right thing.