Trying to find our soul-mate. It's dating thread 108

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

prizey I've never heard of bumble. I'm off to google it right now

Roo Block who? 32 messages guy or Owl-guy?

Roo its an app on the phone, same swiping method as Tinder, only difference is women have to message matches first. It's like an upmarket Tinder. I like it.
Tex 32 messages?? I would block that one too.

32 messages !!!!!

What a dick, you must be so keen to meet him now not

Off to look at bumble.

tex 32 messages guy! sounds like a right weirdo.

Oh I'm SO jumping ship but might hang on a bit longer
I haven't had such a love-hate relationship with anything since my ex. Ok Cupid is SHIT unless Owl-guy returns

Hotwaterbottle1 snap....I'm in the same position as you.

Oh are you curly? It's horrible. I guess I checked out of the marriage nearly 2 years ago and he is still burying head. I've just got this strong feeling I want to keep seeing this guy.

Hotwaterbottle and Curly I think if your Ex is the type to kick off about you meeting someone else they will do it regardless of when it happened. My Ex moved the OW in the night after him left the family home, but still kicked off 18 months later when he thought I was seeing someone ( I wasn't). I am bracing myself for when he discovers (4 years on) that I am dating.

Morning all! 32 messages? Huge red flag, block obvs. Well saw ex last night, got on really well and he stayed at mine. He's still as lovely as ever but left early this morning to go see his kids and I feel a bit deflated now. I don't know if we're in a relationship of FWB or if it was just a one off. Too much 🍷Was drunk to make a clear decision! Oh well at least he was a real human being.

Since OLD is not working for so many of us I do wonder what the future of dating will be ( not read that article yet )? Maybe women will get so fed up with it that they'll just leave the sites so it'll just be sad men desperately chasing the few ones that are left on there...

Hi Destiny
Hope you're ok. Funny that you're saying 'at least he's a real human being'
I'm starting to think none of the guys on 'ok stupid' are real. And maybe your theory is already accurate to an extent... I'm going to jump ship today.
Got a relatively average message from owl-guy this morning not biting on my accidental too-flirty-bait so I told him I might vanish soon because of too many crazy cats & gave him my email for future correspondence
We'll see... But even though I am having pretty much no success O.L.D I might just hang on a bit longer......

I'm good thanks. Bit hungover tho! Just don't want to get hurt again. Loving 'OKStupid', such a great name for it! I can't believe the fuckwits on there and the moronic/dull/vulgar messages I get on there.

Sarah Beany created that ' My single friend' dating site ages ago which seemed like a good idea. I don't know if it's still going?

Maybe we need to bring back old fashioned matchmakers!

Hello! I've been lurking for a few weeks and joined OkCupid the night before last - my first OLD profile ever - after a 10-year marriage/relationship. My goodness, what an eye opener! Slightly overwhelming. It feels really rude but I just cannot reply to all of the messages (and most of them are dull anyway). There's one who I noticed before he messaged me (let's call him CityBoy), so I am talking to him with a view to meet if it gets to that stage... As I get braver I will try Bumble and Tinder to avoid all the unwelcome messages, and then send the first messages myself when I get really brave!

Has anyone tried speed-dating? That appeals to me I think.

I joined ok stupid today.
What's with the Americans msg me ? No !

One possible so far out of the idiots but he is 10 years younger than me apparently. He is in the same town as me though.
He might come in handy occasionally

Tinder is so quiet today.
They must all be at home with their wives I guess

quarter

I haven't found tinder to be that bad. The messages I have had have all been nice and I just unmatch myself with anyone I decide no to.

Mrsametown lives about a 3 min walk from me.

I've had men from America, India and the Middle East message me on OKStupid! Absolutely no idea why...

The foreign ones on OKStupid perplex me too, why do they bother??

What do you all mean jumping ship? Throwing the OLD towel in?

Tinder is down has been all day, outage.report/tinder also complaints on Tinder's twitter feed. Lots of people have lost all their matches - I think I have too which is annoying because I was speaking with some hotties for once, on a Saturday as well.....nice work Tinder!

I think the best thing about online dating is.... This thread

prizey

Was tinder working last night?

How dare it be broken ! I am bored !

tex

Agreed

Not sure Top I didn't try it last night. Its had lots of problems over the last month, server issues or something. Bumble still working though.

tex I agree too

So he might not have been ignoring me last night?

Oh well, never mind.

did he not have your number? are you messaging through Tinder, then definitely yes this could have been the issue!

Just messaging through tinder.

I'll have to wait and see I guess.