NoCapes thread 2 - No cape necessary

[NoCapes]

Can't believe we've filled up a whole thread
But I'm still not ready to be without you all yet ...

Lynn I ordered all my favourites from the takeaway Friday, still didn't want it except the wine

Thank you Bill I can't cave now, it'll make this past week pointless and it was so so fucking hard I don't want to go back
I'll just cuddle the dog instead

Stick with it capes. You will get cuddles again, with someone who doesn't put you at the end of a long list.

It's natural to want comforting when you're going through this. And your DP should be the one to give that to you when your feeling down and so tired. But he's the reason you need a hug.

If you do give in you're going to be right back here at some point in the future. Unless he has some sort of 'WTF was I playing at' moment. But even if he does, that will pass. And he'll be back to normal soon enough.

You really must eat. Get into the habit again. Little & often. You're not being daft to want a cuddle. It's natural. Would your lovely mum giving you a hug help?

I understand Capes. You do need energy though.as PP said.

Ah Capes, just de-lurking again to say you're doing brilliantly.
But if you need some 'space', even from this fred, then take it. Don't feel you have to update if you don't want to.
Glad DS is on the mend 😊

Hey NoCapes I completely understand where you're coming from. I remember feeling do lonely and so starved for affection, but as a PP said, the affection from your XP comes at a cost.

There will be someone out there who gives you guilt-free, unconditional affection. Your XP is just who you equate with affection because you haven't know anything else in a long time...

Try sorting out a family film night and cuddle up under blankets with hot chocolates with the DC.

Have a virtual hug from me

Wishing you continued peace and calm capes

I get the not fancying anything to eat...I had this and it was weird for me because I normally eat like a horse. It's stress and you've recognised that so you have to try and force something down-even if it's little and often...smoothie or something? Otherwise your body will feel like it's even more stressed as its starving and the whole cycle will get worse.
And I get the needing a cuddle. I still get days where im lonely and miss exp now... But the rubbish yours has put you through isn't worth it.and those days get fewer and farther between as time goes on.i promise.
Here's a very unmumsnetty hug from me...

Just wanted to offer my support and say how strong you've been. You are remarkable. Do take care and I will continue to follow your journey X

Just in case you don't see it on my thread NoCapes I did it. I left him. It's not all done yet, I'm sure he still thinks he can talk me round. But I took that first step and now I'm going to go pack his bag.

Thank you for showing me it can be done

Wow Skyye good for you!
You both deserve happiness x

skyyequake well done! How are you feeling? Xxx

Wow, Skyy. sorry I haven't posted on your threat, only so many hours in a day!
Courage. You know it is for the best...

I'm feeling ok... It's still a bit surreal... I've packed up all of his clothes as well as some other stuff. Three bags worth!

I even did a NoCapes and went and pulled out all his dirty washing and packed that too

I don't know what's going to happen when he comes back. I'm running on adrenaline at the moment. I have to walk down to the supermarket in a minute to get bread and milk... I doubt he'll be there/see me but I know I'm going to be on edge.

skyyequake is there a link to your thread? I can't find it. Hope you're ok, it's nerve wracking at first, but you will get there! Xxx

I can't remember if I linked to it on this thread or not ??

Here it is if not

Thanks, I'm off for a read. Hope you're ok xxx

i have skycapes thread up but I dont know how to link it 😳 Sorry. If someone wants to talk me through it Ill try but it's probably quicker to search yourself

Sorry sky can't even get your name right! I've amalgamated you with no capes

Haha I noticed that Lynn I thought it was quite funny

Thanks Lynn, I read it all, and Skyye I'm in awe of you, well done!!!

Capes - you are doing grand.
Sky - wow well done.

All these strong glorious women - kicking out the shite. Wonderful.

sky well done!!!

I'll come on to your thread in a bit, just at Mama Capes' with lots of people, I have to be sociable -

We have our first official " doing a Capes " bloody brilliant! Hope you're ok today Capes xx

Nocapes stay strong and maybe change your EXDP contact picture to this to remind you...