Woman's aid - need advice please

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Don't really want to go into detail as it will out me but has anyone ever rung woman's aid once you've walked out the house to leave that day, I need advice on what to expect when I do it myself. I have no family or friends to go to it will be me and my child with a tiny amount of stuff. I have no money or i.d (I wasn't allowed to get a passport ect) please any info on what expect would really help

I'm so glad you are safe too , you've been on my mind . Keep strong

I am so pleased you are safe and away from that horrible man. I am so sorry you had to go through it again but you are away now. Stay safe stay strong and enjoy the new life that you have given yourself. Xx

Oh well done OP Mixed update - awful that he strangled you, hope you're OK? But very very glad you are safe and will be giving a statement.

SO glad you're safe! Keep being so! Cut contact and don't be persuaded if he pleads. You've been so much on my mind really. Happy for you and your lil one. We're still here and wishing you on xxxx

Great that you are away from him. Please take all the help and advice that you can get. Family, friends dv charities, police.
My friend did All this and is now in a peaceful happy house where she only answers to herself and says its bliss! Good luck op!

balence well said! I'm in a happy home now also. And as you say, I answer only to myself. It's bliss really, it really is! Takes a bit of getting used to at first, but if you cut contact with him, that's what you are looking forward to. Contact with the part of your family that you trust and are helpful and a happy life. I'm still in touch with women I met I'm my refuge and we would all say the same.

Glad you're safe now OP. Stay strong you can do this x

Wow what an incredibly strong woman you are OP, good luck - hope all goes well!

Trust Women's Aid, they will help you and protect you.
They don't advertise what happens in detail once a woman contacts them to protect that process. I know it must be very scary for you, but try to focus on the fact that these people are very experienced in helping women in your position.
Wait until you have spoken to Women's Aid before telling anyone anything about your plans - they will be able to advise you on a safe way to contact loved ones. The same goes for documents, etc - there are processes for recovering/replacing them.
Just focus on staying calm and what you need to do to get away safely.
I would recommend going to your local police station and asking them to contact Women's Aid from there. You won't be under any obligation to make a statement to the police but they will protect you while contact is made and arrangements are put in place.
Good luck

So So proud of you. I think you are amazing! Well done you

Well done for getting out. So admire you.

Its been bloody hard he hasn't left me alone since I got out, constant texts an phone calls. He's doing my head but I'm finally free honestly nothing feels as good as this, I bought myself 2 tops today without having to ask permission I almost cried in the shop. I never really realised how much power he had until yesterday.
I finally got through to WA and have been appointed a caseworker to help me so I'm over the moon I can finally get on with MY life

I really can't thank you all enough you've saved my life

Please block his number . If he calls on another number and you answer by mistake, hang up .

Well done On the tops - what are they like ? #styleandbeautyboard

And Btw it's YOU who have saved your own life . All we did here was offer a bit of moral support to you when you knew the time was right.

You are a

Ah, you are doing great. You saved your own life, not all these lovely people on this thread (although we are all standing strong behind you). Be proud, it takes a brave person to do what you have done.

Is it possible to throw away the sim so you don't get any more calls and texts? I agree with what others have said about completely cutting contact. There is no need for him to be able to get hold of you now.

Enjoy your freedom (and your new tops!).

I agree, please change your number if you can or block him at the very least.

Well done, you have done a very brave thing

Bloody hell! You're doing well! Two tops! I know how good that feels! Absolutely made up for you really! So brilliant! Keep hold of that feeling, you star!!!
He is going to pester you, he is going to try and wear you down. Don't you let him! Don't reply. Don't. Don't even read his messages,. Like I said earlier in the thread, no news from him and no news about him. That's the way to go for now. So, happy to hear you so upbeat love! Well done!

OP, well done, we are so proud of you! Stay strong. You have started a new life.

Or buy a new sim card and only put the other one in when you NEED to contact him - WRT children or similar. If someone else can read through his texts for you, filter out any emotional blackmail and tell you any factual information you need to know, so much the better! (Though do save anything nasty or threatening, the police might want to see it :( )

You don't need to accommodate him any more. You are FREE from all that now! It takes time I know, small steps, but you are doing so well.

So happy for you, pity you didn't get away unhurt but you and your child are away now and that's all that matters! Keep us updated!

Fantastic to read that you are okay and have also managed to leave. Please think about continuing with the refuge plan. You will get support from women's aid and also, the period after leaving can be the most dangerous. You can also report him for harassment if he is phoning, texting, or harassing you in other ways. Stay safe. It isn't over but he has done the best thing possible to validate your resolve to leave and empower you in knowing it is absolutely the best thing for long term happiness. Well done! Take care. x

Well check you out with your 2 new tops that's brilliant.

Please do consider changing your number. You could communicate by email if you need to. I find its easier to be detached on email and also I check email far less than texts so it puts that extra bit of distance there.

I also agree with pp it was all YOU, we were all just echoing your thoughts and wishes. You did this, nobody else.

You have been amazing through all of this and thoroughly deserve every amazing thing that happens in your life now, you've put up with enough shit, time to start living again

So glad you are out and safe. The best thing I did once I'd left was to change my number and not give it to anyone who might give it to him. If you ring your provider and explain your situation (never be ashamed to tell businesses you have accounts with as they've mostly been really sympathetic and helpful to me) then they should be able to change it for you. If he then starts contacting you through someone else instruct them to only tell you factual things that you will need to know.

Grab a notebook and start writing about what's happened, or use this thread, as it will help if/when you have doubts to read your own words back.

You can do this