Woman's aid - need advice please

[ReallyNeedSomeHelpAsap]

Don't really want to go into detail as it will out me but has anyone ever rung woman's aid once you've walked out the house to leave that day, I need advice on what to expect when I do it myself. I have no family or friends to go to it will be me and my child with a tiny amount of stuff. I have no money or i.d (I wasn't allowed to get a passport ect) please any info on what expect would really help

[PreemptiveSalvageEngineer]

Stay strong. And stay on the police - this shouldn't be happening!

[seventhgonickname]

Are you OK

[ReallyNeedSomeHelpAsap]

Triggers are everywhere I'm coping though healing well !! I'm back on at the police I'm doing another report of him breaching bail so hopefully this time they will so their jobs, courts been put off another month an they want me to appear behind a screen to give evidence. I don't think I can cope with that to be honest I don't wanna go anywhere near him again he's still calling and texting I'm so fed up he keeps getting numbers an knows when I've made reports it all feels corrupt

[1potato2potato3potato4]

Tell them if you're not happy to attend with a screen in place. Be upfront and say you're too scared to be in the same place as him, it will negatively impact your anxiety and you will not do it.
They need to give you other options, they can't/won't make you do it if you're not happy to.

[1potato2potato3potato4]

You should have a designated DV officer, an officer dealing with the case? Don't be shy in contacting them! He shouldn't be contacting you, he's breaching his bail. Don't reply, report it every time, ring 101 if you can't get through to the officer.
Have you got a witness care officer too?

[ReallyNeedSomeHelpAsap]

I have been reporting it every time an never reply its just how the system works here its hard to get them to keep him in.
I've been contacting my officer constantly too even he's disgusted that the judge didn't keep him In! I'll keep trying

[1potato2potato3potato4]

You're doing all the right things. I've only read your thread tonight but honestly, you've done amazingly well.
Ultimately, keeping on contacting you like this won't work in his favour. And he's shown he has a complete disregard for any conditions put in place so that won't help him either.
Have you any idea where he could be getting your number from? How careful are you about who you give it out to? You might need to whittle it down a bit, family/friends could you say you're only available via email and are getting rid of your phone for the foreseeable due to the texts and calls from him.

[whitehandledkitchenknife]

Without reading back through the full thread, I can't remember….have you changed your number Really? When I was subjected to some rather nasty verbal abuse from a family member, I called my provider and they changed my number as we spoke. I simply said that I had received abusive calls/texts (from family member). It was very quick and easy. You then have complete control of who you give the new number to.
Keep strong.

[chocoholic89]

Not read through posts but yeah they will give you help. A place to sleep and counciling x

[PreemptiveSalvageEngineer]

... its just how the system works here its hard to get them to keep him in.

I just caught that. Where is "here", then? UK?

[seventhgonickname]

Glad you are OK.Hope the bail is revoked soon.
Do you have somewhere to stay now.
Talk to someone about your fear if being in court with him as he is still hounding you with messages which noone is stopping you would be to scared to be in the same room.This cannot be new to them and they should have a way if dealing with it.

[ReallyNeedSomeHelpAsap]

Hi everyone sorry had to shut down everything again its been confirmed I have to appear in court at the end of the month to give evidence against him, honestly I'm shitting a brick my anxiety is back 100X worse and they will only screen me off from him. He's on the run and they haven't found him yet but atleast he's stopped contacting me... I don't know how I'm going to cope with this

[ConkerTriumphant]

You'll cope. One step at a time. You're doing it already. You're coping.

[whitehandledkitchenknife]

What a pathetic little man. Where does he think he's going to hide forever? I'm so sorry that you're so anxious ready. As pp said, let them know how you feel. In the meantime, try saying to yourself "What's the worst that can happen in the court room?" He won't be able to see you. He won't be able to get at you. You will be safe. You will be kept safe. Have you got someone who will go with you on the day? And look after you when it's over?
Keep strong. He is a bad man. You are a good woman. You will get through this. You will survive. You've come a long way and are doing so well.

[ConkerTriumphant]

How are things, Really?