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Confused about breakup want him back :(

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Gracey1231 · 29/08/2016 00:22

First post lol!

6 weeks ago my boyfriend of 11 months and I had a huuuuge argument, where I said something nasty just to hurt him, I have done this before and said I'd stop but as usual it flew out. Anyway, we didn't speak for a week to cool down and he eventually text me like I don't want to end it I love you blah blah blah, on numerous occasions we arranged to see eachother again and he said to me he just wants his own space at the minute, he is scared his feelings have changed towards me, he doesn't feel the same as he did, he feels bad about us because after the arguments and this massive bad one has taken his toll on him.

He left me on Friday (26/08/16) officially and said he had to let me go because he isn't ready to see me yet and can't keep me waiting any longer as it's cruel. Me being a total girl was pleading etc and I said how can I get you back and he said it's too late, I asked him after that if it's forever that we aren't together and he said "I don't know" and that he doesn't want me to just disappear and still wants to talk. I spoke to his mum about us splitting up and she said to me that he said he needs to see if his bad feelings change and doesn't want me hanging on to a maybe, and that he hopes we can stay friends and talk still but is unsure whether he is ready to be with me right now but still has feelings for me.

I messaged him the night he left like "do you still love me" and he read it but didn't reply, I changed my whatsapp photo as it was us two and as soon as I did he messaged me saying "I'll keep our picture just I don't think being together isn't a good idea at the moment" but he doesn't want to be with another girl.

He asked for space and I pushed him like begging to see him etc instead of playing it cool and taking it slowly. Apparently he still has feelings for me. He still has me and him as his whatsapp photo and has been online since just not messaged me.

I love him to pieces and I'm changing my ways, I took him for granted and I really want him back haha :(

Gonna try not to contact him and let him message me first because me "spamming" him with texts caused us to bicker abit in the relationship anyway.

What are my chances of getting him back? And will no contact work maybe make him think of the good instead of the bad, (he still has feelings for me) whilst I sort myself out and become less needy and strong.

I'm gonna not text him until he texts me but I'll send him a birthday card next week, just a simple one.

Help me :( Is it too late?

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QueenLizIII · 30/08/2016 19:20

It may just confirm to you that everyone is going to tell you the same.

thestamp · 30/08/2016 19:52

I miss him very much and I love him dearly, I want to be back together with him.

Lovey, people feel this way about heroin when they are trying to kick an addiction. That feeling is not a sign that he is good for you. It's just a sign that you're attached to him. It doesn't mean he's any good.

He's a criminal, he assaulted you. You need to stop talking to him, stay away from him, and wait until these feelings pass. Or you are going to end up being beaten half to death all over again, but this time by him.

Please, you are going to cause such dreadful pain for yourself if you keep trying to get this man back...

Gracey1231 · 30/08/2016 20:06

I don't think I want to talk to him anymore. It's causing too much pain

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TheLastRoseOfSummer · 30/08/2016 20:46

That's where you need to get to. And now you can begin to move forward.

I do still think you need to continue with your counselling so that you can address some of the issues you clearly have and make sure that your current relationship patterns aren't repeated, but you need to do so without this man in your life, however hard it feels at the moment and however much it hurts.

Gracey1231 · 31/08/2016 00:11

Thank you everyone. I have an ear infection now anyway and I think that's my body telling me to forget this guy. I'll try. If I fail, I'll come back to be shouted at haha

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