"My Husband/WifeWould Never Have An Affair"

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Is it just me but, there seems to be so many 'breakup + ow/om' posts at the moment? Been reading them today and getting angrier and angrier on their behalf and feel so much empathy for them (and very impressed with how mature they're being!)

Got me thinking about how sure some married people are that their partner wouldn't/isn't having an affair. Seeing these posts about these affairs that come out of the blue how on earth can anyone say that? Do you say that about your spouse? And if so what makes you feel you can say that with any confidence?

Less and less people are marrying year on year and yet more and more of those who do marry are getting divorced.

I thought divorce stats were at a stable rate in recent years?

I said never. I remember clearly a friend correcting me telling me that you can never say that. I argued the point to extinction. Then my dh that I had been with for 19 years since teens had an emotional affair and walked out on me and our 4 children. We were the couple everyone including me believed to be rock solid. A few years on he can't believe what he did. He goes as far as not remembering a lot of the horrible things he put us through while having the affair. My friend was kind enough to never say told you so. My cousin, a strong family man, faithful to a fault then told me about his own affair that I or anyone else except his wife had known about. Lost all faith after that. Sorry to all of you that have been through this life crushing experience.