Only person that isn't invited is me ...

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Me and my best friend have been friends for 14 years.
About 6 years she introduced me to a friend of hers from work and since then me and about 7 other girls have gone on nights out and concerts etc.
One of the girls (we will call her lucy ) is getting married.
My friend invited me on the hen night and we went away for two nights.
I bought her a present and paid towards her hotel and travel etc.
It's the wedding Sunday and I haven't been invited..now I expected not to be invited to the ceremony but I thought she would of invited me to the reception.
I'm the only one not going.
My friend keeps telling me how excited she is and how the girls are all staying in a hotel.
I feel stupid for even going on the hen night (only one from the hen night not going)
The reception everyone has to pay for their own drinks anyway so it's not like they would have to pay for meal or anything.
I just think it's a bit mean I guess and I feel like they must not even like me.
Am I being stupid?

These 8 people I classed as friends and have got to know each of them well enough over 6 years.

Ok, in light of this changing new information, why don't you just broach this with your good friend the bride?

No I'm deffo not invited.
Bride hasn't messaged and friend told me that she couldn't believe I hadn't even made the reception /night time cut.

But then it looks like she's angling for an invitation and puts the bride in an awkward position - tempting though that may be, it's not the OP's day. surely the friend would know if OP was invited and hadn't received the invitation?

What changing info? I told you from the start we socialised as friends.'
I said we weren't exactly "best friends" but after 6 years I thought I could use the title of friend.

Your friend is shit stirring, probably because she is getting a reaction.

Just paste on a smile, tell her that you hope she has a good time and then get on with your life!

Plus the girls have booked into a hotel for the night after the wedding.
They are talking about it on a Facebook group chat ..which I'm not a part of.
Deffo no oversight ..I'm just not welcome

Presumably your friend told you about the Facebook chat?

Just ignore her. She's saying it because it must be fairly obvious how strongly you are reacting

Yeah she did tell me,just like she sent me a pic of her dress then sent a pic of the hotel they were staying at asking did I like it etc
Then a pic of her wedding shoes etc

Btw I haven't even let on to my friend I care.
I said I hope she has a great day and how lovely the brides dress was.

Have you any idea why this has happened OP, any slight reason you can think of?

She's doing it because she can see it winds you up. You don't think you have let on to her but she presumably knows you would be hurt and she's doing it deliberately.

Reacting like this is just going to make her worse and you feel more crap.

It's not worth the head space - seriously, move on with your life!

Your friend is not a friend, stop blaming the bride.

Friend invited you to a hen do. Not the bride.

Friend has told you to tag along to an evening do. Who does that??? It's bride's decision.

(Is it just me or did anyone laugh at saying all they've done is Moan and Lisa is thick. Mona Lisa. Okkkkkay... just me then

OP, is your friend one of those people who boosts her own ego by making others feel bad? I've watched someone I know do it for years and she's so sweet and caring on the surface.

I think it's just all came to a head.
I always feel like the butt of all the jokes.
How skinny is Louise,oh you always get dressed up don't you Louise,been spending more money Louise,why do you get so dressed up Louise.
Are you going to eat all that Louise,tell me why you never put weight on blah blah.
It always feels like it's me its all aimed it

Then add not being invited makes me think do they bitch about me when I'm not there

OP I understand why you are upset. From what you are saying the bride asked for you to be invited to the hen night knowing you contributed etc and has been showing you pics of her dress and hotel etc. I would be very pissed off too.

But if I were you I would put it behind me and from what you say the other girls are lovely and have not left you out so I wouldn't jeopardise lots of friendships just because one person has been a bit two faced to you. Plan something nice for the weekend of the wedding and just chalk it down to experience.

Of course they do - that's what happens with people like that. Walk away from them - no big drama, just be less available.

It doesn't actually sound like they like you very much then from your last post. Find some better friends!

Sounds like play ground bullying to me, and all bullying is based on jealousy.

It's actually my good friend who says all of that not the rest of the girls.
I think she does it as she has low self esteem and putting me down makes her look good