Only person that isn't invited is me ...

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Me and my best friend have been friends for 14 years.
About 6 years she introduced me to a friend of hers from work and since then me and about 7 other girls have gone on nights out and concerts etc.
One of the girls (we will call her lucy ) is getting married.
My friend invited me on the hen night and we went away for two nights.
I bought her a present and paid towards her hotel and travel etc.
It's the wedding Sunday and I haven't been invited..now I expected not to be invited to the ceremony but I thought she would of invited me to the reception.
I'm the only one not going.
My friend keeps telling me how excited she is and how the girls are all staying in a hotel.
I feel stupid for even going on the hen night (only one from the hen night not going)
The reception everyone has to pay for their own drinks anyway so it's not like they would have to pay for meal or anything.
I just think it's a bit mean I guess and I feel like they must not even like me.
Am I being stupid?

Look you aren't going to listen to anyone, judging by your increasingly PA comments. That's fine, just don't let it stress you, the only one that will be messed up is you.

I wondered if there were other things going on as well - your reaction really is totally disproportionate.

My point is I assumed we were friends ...clearly we aren't

I have dumped friends for less. Over the years I have found that if "friends" feel they can get away with shitty behaviour once then it gives them a free pass to do the same only worse again.

If that means I have no friends for a while then so be it. But I am part of about 6 different groups. With maybe 1 or 2 people I am very close to.

Well then walk away from the group rather than behaving like a sulky child about it!

Yeah someone who I regarded as a friend is getting married and out of all my so called friends I'm the only one not worthy of a invitation..

Ok Op Yeah you're right - they are all a bunch of cunts and they are doing it to be spiteful because you are the only person anyone thinks about

I did feel some sympathy at the beginning but you are way way overreacting and now sulking

Well if it isn't spiteful I don't know what it is

It is not sulky behaviour it is self protection. The relationship has changed and it can never be the same again. The message she isn't worthy/ wanted has been spelt out loud and clear. As others have said the op if left up to the bride wouldn't have been invited to the hen night. It was only because the bride didn't organise it did she end up going. With everyones expectation that she was invited to the wedding

Wow can't believe what a hard time you are getting!! I get totally where you are coming from and I would be gutted in your situation. Those posters who say it's a non issue must have bloody thick skin!

Do you actually like the couple?

Erm you do know the world doesn't revolve around you and that you aren't actually entitled to an invitation don't you?

Or do you think that all they have to think about is you and being mean to you and excluding you etc

Seriously, if you are like this in RL then it's no fucking wonder you haven't been invited!

I don't have thick skin, I am just mature enough to understand that I'm not entitled to be invited anywhere.

And as for self protection I understand that but it comes across as being like a sulky child.

"They were quick enough asking me to book the hotel and train tickets on my credit card "

That wasn't the bride though, was it?

Some people just aren't getting it..
We all socialise 8 of us together every weekend bar the odd 1.
These 8 people I classed as friends and have got to know each of them well enough over 6 years.
Out of the 8 people I'm the only person not going to the wedding..how else am I expected to feel but sad/stupid?
How am I meant to carry on like normal with these people when it's clear as day i wasn't welcome.
Yes I do like the couple ..obviously or I wouldn't give a shit.
If I didn't like the bride I wouldn't be hurt.

I don't think I'm "entitled" to anything but I think in this situation I'm "entitled" to be hurt and upset.

Well, I understand why you are hurt. I would be too. And I also know I am not entitled to be invited anywhere.

You are entitled to feel how you feel. Doesn't mean it's reasonable or proportional to the situation though.

Thankyou ..im pleased someone understands where I'm coming from.

You have kind of got more defensive to the people who are trying to help - are you like this in RL?

We had friends who hadn't received their invite to our wedding. I mentioned to another friend that we hadn't had an RSVP and had they heard anything from X and X, about if they were coming. We then found out X and X were perplexed that they hadn't received an invite. We came to the conclusion that the royal mail was to blame and all was fine on the day.

Maybe it's worth checking that this hasn't happened to you?