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This is a sure way to start an argument!!

189 replies

WhoGivesAFlying · 27/07/2016 22:21

I go to try an arrange something for us to do at the weekend (or anything) for when his kids are here so they aren't bored out their brain again and when I try to get a straight answer he says "I don't want an argument" Angry Angry like I fucking do? Just say yes or no! Make one decision for once in your life ffs! He want to leave everything to me (even opening his mail) but when I need an answer I'm "harassing" him! Arrrrrrrrrrr!

OP posts:
ilovelamp82 · 29/07/2016 08:03

Are you ok OP?

Doublemint · 29/07/2016 08:52

???? Hopefully she's just waiting for him to leave for work and will then update X

TentPegsAndWetWipes · 29/07/2016 11:31

Hope you are okay OP

redexpat · 29/07/2016 15:25

Hope you're ok op x

Doublemint · 29/07/2016 17:54

Has anyone else been checking this thread all day trying not to freak out??!?

Supercali3228 · 29/07/2016 18:10

Yes :-(
Thinking of you OP and let us know if you can how you are.
Xxx

nicenewdusters · 29/07/2016 18:11

Yes Doublemint. Have been out all day and only been able to check a couple of times, so worried each time there's no update from the OP.

tipsytrifle · 29/07/2016 18:23

You're in clear and present danger of your life. I hope that you're waking up, even of it took alcohol to make you talk, that this is the horror of your situation. You should get out asap. Women's Aid as a first stop. Then police. Get out, get out, get out.

He is spinning you a yarn based on the script of "it's you not me, never me" making all this happen. Get out.

TentPegsAndWetWipes · 29/07/2016 20:40

Still no news?

ilovelamp82 · 30/07/2016 00:31

Please come back and let us know if you're ok?

LadyStoicIsBack · 30/07/2016 03:25

OP Please, I don't want to pressure you but like others have been checking thread as was and am concerned for you - please let us know you're ok?

Or if not ok then how we can help as we will, we really will Flowers

Please be ok x

ChanelNo314 · 30/07/2016 15:09

I hope you're ok.

Abuse goes in cycle. The build up. The explosion. The calm phase.

The danger is that in the calm phase, where you are kind of grateful and on a weird kind of temporary high (from the relief of knowing that it'll be a while before you get abused again) you feel too much relief to ACT.

So I suspect that the OP has slunk back in to anaesthetised autopilot. OP, it won't be long before this temporary relief goes and you're walking on eggshells again. And the cycles get shorter and shorter........

xxxxx

I think this thread penetrated though right?? Not being able to ''face the thread'' is kind of evidence that it's sinking in.................

Supercali3228 · 30/07/2016 16:55

Gosh I hope you're right Chanel. Hey OP just come by here and send a quick post even if it's just to say hi..so we know you're ok. Xx

ChanelNo314 · 30/07/2016 18:26

I did a few threads likr this in 2007

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