30 day no contact for the broken hearted - starts here

[Thewizardo]

I will be using this as my own personal no contact diary.

read here first

Please feel free to join in the thread if you are attempting to go no contact with someone. If you've just been dumped, left or had your heart broken.

I'm on day 1 today. So far today I've blocked his FB/what's app/Instagram etc. I text him to ask him to leave me alone as he's texting quite a bit. Only emergency texts only about DD.

Good morning.

Tree, I divorced my ex-h with a baby (he cheated too) and it does get better despite having them around for years to come and I found having a baby was a helpful distraction. If he's already prepared to cheat on her you've had a lucky escape.
I'm feeling optimistic now. I don't wake with dread, I know I'll never let someone treat me so badly again and I'm excited about what my future could be. I realised I don't owe any men anything so I'm free to go and do and meet who I want now and so are we all. They're the ones who are tying themselves down with other people. A male friend of mine admitted he's been married for 20 years to the wrong woman but going to stay another 5. 25 years of life of dissatisfaction seems utter madness to me.

Morning all. No idea where it has come from but I'm feeling better this morning. I'm seeing things a bit more realistically. The ups and downs are hard. Love to hate but this morning feeling neutral but not numb.
Waving/ hope the holiday is going well. I think Hissy a little unfair on you. Doesn't matter how long the relationship has been you were treated badly and are right to reach out for support. I'm pleased you aren't sending that email.
JennyMe you're getting so much stronger and more positive and I love reading your updates, you're an inspiration.
Bye to resilience and thank you! Shame you are leaving us go now.
Welcome Tree, you will find lots of support and strength here.
I'm only just in the state of mind where I can concentrate enough to follow everyone.
Last week I was in utter despair, but now I'm wobbly but ok. I need to build a future.
KOKO

Waving. The same happened to me. He blocked me on whatsapp and Facebook, not phone as yet though. It was a huge shock and felt if been punched. Don't beat yourself up for looking, it's natural.
In a way good. Him blocking me on FB had forced me to move on, so he's done me a favour. I found myself posting stuff (nice stuff) for his benefit and now I can't be bothered with FB!
3 weeks is no time and you've come so far, it's just so hard at times. I'm out and about now sitting in a waiting room and my heart is physically hurting.
KOKO

I also found he had forgotten to block my son on whatsapp which he didn't really use and I found him suddenly on there until 1,2,3 am (I monitored over a few days).. I think there may be someone else but he is miles away and I'll probably never know or see him again. We were pregnant earlier this year planning the future. I'm dumbstruck.

Difficult day today. Tomorrow is supposed to be the day we talk and decide if the trial separation will be permanent. If I'm honest I already have the answer. Do I really want to put myself to the upset of talking to him? I spiked prefer to leave it s it is tbh. Just wished I could stop thinking about it all.

Waving, if the conversation happens it will probably be about how good it was but that realistically it won't work and that we both need to move on. Finding it hard to cope without him in my life. Can't see how any good for either of us will come out of a phone call.

I don't think they can just block us out really quickly, do you? Maybe I'm kidding myself. Im back to feeling a little low now although it's a beautiful day. I will download the app waving.
Silk, I think you need to go with your gut. What are the reasons it won't work? I'm finding it hard to cope without him in my life too. I'm thinking of him all of the time. It's like a death only he is still alive.

I wonder if he is thinking about me at all. Does he miss talking to me as much as I miss him? Does he feel the same emptiness? I just don't know tbh

I guess you never know but I have friend who said before he married he left a girlfriend who he now thinks he should have married and also had another girlfriend after that he then wished he'd never left so despite what some men do they do regret their actions.

Silk, im at a stage where I'm asking myself this daily!
I need some tough love right now fellow NC'ers, I'm two days from four weeks, and I'm fighting the urge to call him. I keep telling myself he probably won't answer and he definitely wouldn't text back, but it's not working, I need help and will power right now.

Flurple, so so hard but don't do it, unless you're prepared to be set back again. We can do it, we all can. I'm heartbroken again tonight. Keep posting.
Waving-it feels good to not feel alone x

Furple, please don't do it ...
I'm meant to have a conversation with my ex tomorrow. And I hope I will have the strength not to take the call (IF he rings)... If I talk to him it will only rip my heart and soul apart all over again. Same is probably true in your case I guess. You are doing so well and have been going NC for longer than I have. Let's try to stick with it shall we?

Posting and reading here has proved very helpful to me.. If you are planning to call him post it here first so someone gets a chance to talk you out of what is potentially a very bad idea. ((Hugs))

Thank you both so much, you're both so right. I didn't expect it to still be hurting and I don't even know what I'd say to him, he probably wouldn't even reply/ answer, I don't know how to get through this phase. I wish I could know how this works out.

Flurple, I'm in a strong moment while you're in a weak one. Been there. I really don't know how it will turn out. Keep strong

I'm so glad you're doing well Apple, I'm going to go to bed early and try and sleep this off, hopefully I'll feel better tomorrow.

Flurple you'll have up days and down. Keep your chin up - sometimes bed is the best idea!

I did that Sunday night- went to bed early in the hope the sleep would get me out of feeling turmoil. You'll feel better tomorrow I'm sure. Remember, we are all doing our best to get through this. Thinking of you flurple

hi Everyone, ow is causing so many problems, hope everyone is getting along ok

I'm off to bed too, with the thought I was never his in the first place. I think I've been used.

Night Apple , sleep,tight everyone