FindingNewMo - Part V

[MoKoKo]

Latest one...

Ah there you are, I think I lost you for a while. How are things?

Great to see you're still going strong Mo

Loving the name change and LURVEEEEE the title of this thread .

How are things?

When is he due back in the summer?

is this like Harry Potter series , part five things get tougher but in the end Voldemort will die!

Love new name, course sounds really positive too can only help give you more skills to get through July!

Hiya, yes still here! I don't know about the strong part though. Mini dips and wobbles aplenty, but busy enough to distract from all of that. Enjoying the last few weeks before the shit hits the fan! So not much in the way of news really.

I've had CBT and it really helped me.

No set date yet but end of July-ish.
Not heard back from bloody mediator either...but I've not been thinking about that for a while.
Akire...I hope you are right that by the end of this something will have bloody changed!
Heard lots of positive things about CBT, good to know Phoenix that it helped you.

Glad I've found you again Mo. Great title for the thread

Yo Mo, found you! Great name for the latest and maybe last thread? Not that I want to see the back of you of course, just that I look forward to a positive resolution in the not too distant future, oh how the wine will flow. KOKO

Yay! Love your name!

I've heard good things about CBT from everyone I know who's ever used it/had it (and that's a lot of people, over the last 20 odd years). Good luck with it.

Great, well done. We will KOKO with you...

Hello Mo.

Glad to hear you sounding so light and fluffy these days.

You're bound to have highs and lows, let's hope the highs are overtaking the lows x

Still with you Mo and yay to CBT
I highly recommend it!

Go mo!

Go MO!

How did the CBT go ?

CBT is tonight

Good luck. I was warned that I'd feel much worse before I felt much better

It was that I felt all my problems and weaknesses were laid bare and only after they were identified could the work start on how to change and cope better with them. Until then, I felt even more defenceless and weak than I did before.

I'm so glad I was warned of this before hand as I stuck with it through that dark time and things improved.

I'm glad you're getting CBT quickly, I had to wait over 8 months for mine to start

Thanks for the warning Joy. I do feel a bit like that, like I'm brushing all the fear/anxiety/stress under the carpet and I know I will have to confront and deal with it eventually and it won't be pretty. It's not my fault it's not being dealt with now and I wish it were as I just want to move on. But very conscious of it bubbling beneath the surface.

I honestly thought I'd break but I'd written a letter to myself predicting it and giving myself supportive words.

I was so close to not going back and trying to bury it all again to cope. I'm so glad I didn't but it's the hardest thing I've ever done.

Good on you Joy. Good luck Mo; Joy's strategy of writing a letter to herself sounds good.

Hi Mo,

Long time lurker, first time poster on your threads. I have been following your story from the beginning and just wanted to say a big massive 'WELL DONE' for surviving your journey so far. You seem an entire world away from the person who first came and posted 'is this right?' all that time ago.

I have nothing but well wishes for you and your children, and I hope the final part of your journey into your new life of freedom from what you have been subjected to is as stress-free as possible. Your ex is a tool of the highest order, and does not deserve anything from you but contempt.

lots of love xx

Thank you, Sendthenextonein! I don't know if I'm going to be any stronger when I actually have to face him at the next hurdle, but all I do know is I am totally happy with my life without him in it and that should probably be one of the things I need to keep hold of.

It's hard though when nostalgia creeps in, as I have so many reminders of good times, holidays, trips etc all around me - especially with people talking about the summer now/ It's tough to think we'll never have another family holiday again.

Bit of a contradiction, saying those things, one after the other, I know. It doesn't really make sense.

You will have another family holiday Mo, just not with him. Holidays where nobody is moaning it's too late for the kids to be up, not fully engaging in the fun, hurrying people along. A new kind of family.