I want to come at this from a different perspective. At the moment there are lots of responses on this thread from posters who have been in abusive relationships and who have, quite rightly IMO, seen the warning signs in the OP's posts.
But I wonder whether the OP is looking at this from a different angle, an angle which says to her that wanting to please your partner is normal. An angle which makes wanting to be desired by him and only him and therefore not wanting to be seen by other men is somehow attractive, and normal. And so because these things are so normal to the OP, she's wondering why everyone else doesn't think the same. After all, she loves her BF and he loves her, she's sure of that. So if this is the normal for her in relationships then perhaps she genuinely can't see how other people wouldn't want to live like that.
If the OP has grown up in a particularly conservative culture for instance, then it stands to reason that she has potentially been conditioned from an early age to believe that women should respect their men, and that not covering up is somehow a disrespectful thing to do.
The thing is though, that there's a difference between feeling that you want to do something I.e. That you don't feel inclined to wear revealing clothes when out, and feeling that you have to not wear revealing clothes when out because it might make someone else unhappy.
Similarly you might feel that you want to stay in touch with your partner, but there's a difference between that and feeling that if you don't contact him on the hour every hour you are somehow making him unhappy.
I would want my DP to think I looked nice when we go out together. And I might ask him which outfit he prefers on a particular occasion. Although actually my DP would feel guilty even about telling me which one he preferred, even if I'd asked his opinion. [grin[ but if my DP started telling me that I shouldn't wear a particular outfit because certain bits of me were for him and only him to see we would start to disagree somewhat.
Similarly my DP likes me to call him if I've been out at night and am on my way home. Not because he's possessive and needs to hear from me at every given moment, but because I have to travel home by train on my own late at night and he wants to know that I'm safe, and because sometimes coming home late at night on my own involves having to navigate an unknown area with just a sat nav and a guide dog, so he wants to know that I'm ok, and on occasion he's told me to just get a cab and he'll pay.
That's not possessive, that's just looking out for someone. If however he started to text increasingly if he hadn't heard from me every hour while I was out, then alarm bells would be ringing for me.
Ultimately it's as someone said up thread. If you're not uncomfortable with the arrangement, then it's not an issue, is it? But if you need to ask if you're the only one who feels that you're having to justify a relationship, then you're already asking questions in your head, and hoping that the answers that are echoing back are wrong.