to think DP should get himself up in the morning?

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He sets about 3 alarm his phone but turns them all off and goes back to sleep until I come up and say it's 8 / ten past whatever. He then blames me for him being in a rush, calls me rude/ignorant etc. My daughterlikes to be early for school so we leave at 8.25/8.30 but he adds stress to it all by holding us up and sometimes (like this morning) smoking in the car which DD hates (she knows it's illegal too!)

I've told him I will stop talking to him in the morning as its just upsetting. I don't see why I should be spoken to like that. He says he ddoesn't know why I'm like it as though I'm the rude one.

Ring them back and check whether the right person or team is dealing with you, then. Tell them the extra stuff you thought of.

How are you and DD? If you could wave a magic wand and you were separated and living apart, would you do it?

Did you move to your mum's or speak to a solicitor?

You and NSDP were separated and living apart, I mean, not you and DD, if it sounded like that!

No we're not separated. How would he be able to assault me if we were?

What's NSDP?

No So Darling Partner! I assume?
Do call WA back and let them know about the assault this morning.

You can take small steps with the police.
Just call 101 for now and ask for their DV team and let them know what you are putting up with, what you have put up with, what happened this morning etc..... You don't have to give your name if you don't want to.

I really do hope you get away soon.
He's ramping up and it will get worse!

Not So!!!

How many children do you want to look after??

I didn't say you were separated. I tried (badly) to correct my previous post.

I was trying to ask whether you want to be separated. It's not clear from your posts. A couple of weeks ago you said you told him it was over, but it didn't sound like you meant that.

Oh love, he's starting to escalate. Please please call WA back and tell them he has gotten physical.

Listen to me carefully. You ARE worthy of respect and of being treated with respect. You have the right to make decisions about your life and to have those decisions respected. You have the absolute right to seek help in keeping yourself safe and to effectuate your decisions.

Remember, "You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have the right to be here".

That's exactly the phrase I was going to write....

He's escalating the behaviour.

You haven't done what he wanted after he started in with the EA behaviours. You are talking about leaving and standing up for yourself verbally. And now he's hurting you.

There are those who have got to this point and accepted the small acts of violence and then you read later that something dreadful has happened to them. Dint take that chance.

Call 101. Today. Now. Get the help that you need and the immediate message to him that it's not acceptable and you aren't having it!

Then sit down and start making a serious exit plan for the sake of you, your daughter and her future sibling.

Ah just listening to Exit Music by Radiohead now. Suits my mood. Would quite happily go and lie on the train track near me. It'd be in full view of DP too, that'd hopefully f* him right up which is all he deserves.

Please, Enough, please at least call 101, and do tell them of these latest violent abuses as well as everything else. You are not safe any longer, and you need him to leave, or at least you both need to be living apart.

Best way to annoy your partner is leave him and live a happy life without him.

That would really piss him off.

Get out. Get out now before he REALLY hurts you or your child

Charlotte is right. Living happily is the best revenge.

I hate to sound vulgar or crude, but honestly I think he'd have no reaction whatsoever if you did lie down on the RR tracks. He can't think that far outside himself. So don't even think of that!

Please call someone, anyone. WA, your GP, 101, Samaritans, anyone.

That wouldn't fuck him up.
That would the ultimate to him.
The ultimate control over your life.
He wouldn't be sorry. He'd be very pleased with himself.
Please gat away and so it fast.

Get away and do it fast.
Damn phone.