to think DP should get himself up in the morning?

[EnoughAlready999]

He sets about 3 alarm his phone but turns them all off and goes back to sleep until I come up and say it's 8 / ten past whatever. He then blames me for him being in a rush, calls me rude/ignorant etc. My daughterlikes to be early for school so we leave at 8.25/8.30 but he adds stress to it all by holding us up and sometimes (like this morning) smoking in the car which DD hates (she knows it's illegal too!)

I've told him I will stop talking to him in the morning as its just upsetting. I don't see why I should be spoken to like that. He says he ddoesn't know why I'm like it as though I'm the rude one.

Yes we're ok thank you although DD did seem a bit subdued this morning. I do feel so guilty for her having such a horrible dad.
'D'P actually got up at 7.40 this morning. I went in to get my bathrobe and he woke up and started verbally abusing me so got himself all angry.
He made a comment in the car that if I earned as much as him then we could afford a £240k house. Not sure
where he plucked that figure from but I suggested he gets together with someone from his work if that's what
he wants. That's just an example of his constant subtle jibes designed to make me feel inadequate and a failure.

OP, I hope you find the strength to leave him, for your own sake and your DD's. You both deserve better than this.

There really are bounds to his twatishness.
Good come back though.
Keep them coming!

Do you work part time?
I can't imagine it getting any better with another baby.
Does he realise this?
God he's an arse!

That's NO bounds!

No I haven't worked since Aug 2013 apart from a temp job before Christmas. He's been moaning about
that for ages but doesn't treat me any better when I am working. If anything
he gets annoyed because he has to help with childcare or housework more then.

He knows it's going to be worse with another baby. He wanted me to get rid of it, even said yesterday that I got pregnant two times too many! He's constantly asking how I could have been so stupid to have got pregnant and then to have not sorted it out.

He knows it's going to be worse with another baby. He wanted me to get rid of it, even said yesterday that I got pregnant two times too many! He's constantly asking how I could have been so stupid to have got pregnant and then to have not sorted it out.

And there it is, the line has been totally crossed, that would be the thing that made me have no doubt the relationship is over and tell him to go.

He knows it's going to be worse with another baby. He wanted me to get rid of it, even said yesterday that I got pregnant two times too many! He's constantly asking how I could have been so stupid to have got pregnant and then to have not sorted it out.

this is truly awful. any man that said that to a woman should expect to be in hospital for the foreseeable having things removed surgically from their arse.

what a See You Nearer Time.

His response after I said about getting together with someone (specific) at work: That's mad. I could do a lot better anyway. Not that I want to either, your the one that cheats. Cheating your way through life. Cheating me and DD. DD is my main concern. She needs protection from your bs.

even said yesterday that I got pregnant two times too many

What an evil piece of shit.

Hi Enough, I can see why you chose the nickname! Hope things went OK this morning and you're alright.

It's a lot to take on board, but please do come back sometime, anytime you need support but use the Relationships topic - AIBU is usually a bunfight!

Now I'm actually speechless and that does not happen often.

Why are you still driving him to work!

Boaty AIBU has been very useful actually. I've only had one LTB but they're right anyway!

I'm so tempted to pack up today but I should probably wait and get him out. I own 15% of this house so why should I go? Plus I hate it at my parents and so does DD.

Seriously, why are you with this dick, and how could you get pregnant a second time - make arrangements to leave, contact Women's Aid if you need support, you are giving your DD a terrible view of relationships by staying with this arsehole.

Your problems are a lot more serious than just getting him up in the morning .

Hold on back that truck up. Why 15%? Why is that all you own?

Ok. All this was said in the car in front of your daughter? No on OP. You have to act. Now.

I put down down the 15% deposit but I'm also a joint owner. As we've just bought it and hardly paid off any mortgage I see it as me owning 15% and him virtually nothing.

No that wasn't all said in car. The later stuff was texting.

Thanks Ragwort you sound just like him. RTFT dimwit

You are in an abusive relationship and I have been there to - but this comment is uncalled for.

Bloody hell, what an absolute shitehawk

Get your affairs in order OP, go to Citizen's Advice, get a half hour's free solicitors advice and see what Women's Aid can offer you (and speak to someone who doesn't advise you to go to Relate with an abuser. Bloody hell).

I'm sorry you're going through such an awful time but you sound as if you know what you need to do.

I feel sorry for your DD listening to all this crap.

Lagunaasked how I could get pregnant a second time just like he keeps on saying. It was unplanned and I was 9 weeks by the time I found out which was too late for a medical abortion. I didn't think I could go through with a surgical one so here we are. I'd choose a baby over that bastard any day.

Enoughalready Im sorry you were upset by something that reminds you of your abusive partner but there are so many threads like yours sadly, people are naturally going to wonder why you are having another baby in an abusive relationship. No-one has said you should have had an abortion. Calling another poster a "dimwit" is horrible though.

Funnily enough for me getting pregnant accidentally like you, was the wake up call I needed to get out for good.