He picks my clothes . .

[Eyelashinmyeye]

. .or at least tries to. Would you find this controlling? I quite liked it at first, as it felt like he was really paying attention to what suits me etc, but it has started to annoy me, and has almost caused arguments.

I told him I was looking online for new clothes and he made sure he saw them before I ordered. When I said that I was sending something back because I had seen a nicer one in the shops, he said 'can I see it first'?

Just trying to get an idea if this is controlling, or if you would find it a bit annoying/odd?

For what it's worth, just hearing your story and the amazing outcome has made the thread worthwhile !

Aw thanks!

I would have loved to have seen his face when he came home to no microwave, washing machine, fridge, and a distinct lack of Marshall Stack that I used to own. He was a keen guitar player/wanker.

Oh no! Had my suspicions but it still saddens me. That said the advice/other stories on here are awesome so perhaps leave it up as I am sure there are many women in similar situations.

What suspicions?
I didn't pick up on anything.
I feel so naive

Don't worry Jackie it takes ages to develop it. It was only as the thread went on that I suspected. But am not going to detail why as I don't want the OP to get "better" at it!

(I've PM'd you with the signs though)

I wasn't expecting that either!

I'm happy for my posts to remain if it's left up, but there are others who posted more in depth experiences than me so happy also to go with the flow. Some useful advice even if OP is not genuine.

JackieO - I had no suspicions at all either. This happens often enough now that when I post I do it in the knowledge that the OP may not be genuine. My reasons for still posting are two-fold. Other people on the thread may find my post of some use/interest. Also, I would rather assume the OP is genuine and try to help, than potentially ignore someone who is troubled and brave enough to post on here.

Elspeth - could you possibly PM me with what signs you saw, if it's not too much trouble. Thanks.

Forwarded.

Thank you, BeccaMN. It crossed my mind as well (as I generally don't get direct responses to my posts!)

I might be being really dense here but is the OP a journalist? If so I am shocking at judging these things. It wouldn't even occur to me that someone would make up such an elaborate lie and dupe people like that. I'm weirdly angry even though I didn't respond to the OP.

Omg I was getting carried away reading and hoping she had left by the end! Feel a bit stupid now (even though I didn't post)

Did not see any signs

Please can I get a pm too? I'm gobsmacked and confused.

It's a shame these people can't post about their real issue, which I assume is the chronic need for attention, or perhaps to feel superior over others , or possibly trying to fill some other void in their life ?

I've learnt it's the flip side of MN, but mostly it's great here, so ho hum.

elspeth me too, please?
Didn't suspect a thing

Can I get a PM too as I didn't suspect anything! Thanks I would appreciate it. X

Good grief, I missed that one.

Fucker.

Very controlling.

I had my suspicions also. Very sad that someone feels the need to do this.

I've been here for years and mostly just lurk. But even after all these years I'm always surprised by these threads. If anyone would like to pm me with a heads up it would be most appreciated, I always feel like such a fool when I follow and worry about the op and it turns out it was wasted.

I am very disappointed in myself. I have been on mn for years and never posted anything about my exh, but I got sucked in and did so on this thread. Fortunately, mn have deleted my post but I still feel a bit shit about it. Anyone who thinks trolls are harmless are completely wrong.

Even worse when you share some of your personal experiences.

Oh. I had wondered as it all seemed to move pretty quickly but I try to give the benefit of the doubt. At least my trolldar is improving.

Elspeth would you mind sending me the PM as well please? I really need more hobbies... ;)

I've been worrying about OP too. Don't understand why someone would get entertainment from making up such elaborate lies. I wouldn't mind a heads up on what to look out for too please

Wombattoo : I agree that trolls are very harmful. I posted a lot on this thread, and am very disappointed that my good faith has been abused. I'm sorry to see you say you feel disappointed in yourself, only the OP/troll should feel that way. This is the only social media site I have ever used, it has helped me so much I refuse to let weirdos spoil it for me.