Spring has sprung and the sap is rising! It's Dating Thread 104

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Well I got stood up today for second date :( he said we'd meet up for lunch, txt him in the morning to confirm, he said he was running around doing a few jobs as wedding to go to this evening. I even asked if he wanted to reschedule as he's busy but he said no. So I sit around waiting to her from him, what a fool! 14.30 he texts "I'm really sorry about today I just totally run out of time anyone would think I was best man lol. Had to find a new shirt what a stress xx" so I have not replied. So annoyed at wasting my child free day!!!!!

How frustrating Help201602 are you going to give him a chance to redeem himself?

Blimey. Yeah, step away from the apps!! Stick with the

Help I would be severely pissed in your shoes Immature, disorganised time waster. I would not give a second chance. That's just shit.

Oh dear. Only I could start a date with one man and end it in CM's bed. 😳

help what a Gobshite, ignore him completely from now on. He doesn't deserve second chance.

Well third date went great
Lovely meal out, game of pool and chatted for hours.
Lots and lots of kissing.
Really fancy him now. Bit shocked how much actually
Hopefully meeting again Friday

Yey starskey

And oops tanya - I take it Bookkeeper isn't a keeper then...

Bookkeeper was perfectly pleasant, but too into me too quickly, telling me how beautiful I was etc. Some red flaggy comments and behaviour. We did have a laugh and have tons in common, but there was this over-riding sense of "this isn't where I should be". Went to see CM and we've decided to stop dating other people and give this thing a chance to see where it goes.

Bookkeeper sounds like a wrongun... Well done for making a quick decision there.

So CM - yes why not just date him and see what happens, there's obviously a lot of attraction is he just inexperienced in relationships?

Hurray for making decisions!

tanya I don't really know backstory to CM but obviously you have chemistry with him so great to give it a proper go.

Starskey, I was a thread regular but had a lot going on, so went to ground a bit.

Went on a date in early April with CM, we got on brilliantly, but I got a bit panicked and said after that we should just be friends. Our friendship developed over a few weeks and I told him I would like to give it a go, we met up early May for a drink with one of my friends, and ended up kissing. We then had a date a few days later and ended up at his, he was too full on and I didn't cope with it well.

We had a lot of frank chats, and then I spent last Saturday daytime at his, not dtd, but very intense and affectionate.

Last night I was on another date, and realised I was completely with the wrong man. Messaged him to meet, which we did, and again ended up at his flat, lots of talking, still not yet dtd but things hotting up all the time.

He's lovely, we get each other, he's funny, passionate, caring, just great. But he has very little relationship experience, no girlfriend until he was 27, relationships only months long. I have two children and was with my ex over 10 years. He also has a disability that only affects him physically, but does present lifestyle differences. But he's wonderful, and one of my best friends now, and yes, there is amazing chemistry.

Wow, it sounds great Tanya.
Chemistry is so rare to find, I think if it's there then you'd have to see how it plays out.
I wouldn't judge him on his lack of relationship experience, it doesn't happen for everyone, doesn't mean they're not capable of being a great partner.
Plus means he has no serious baggage.

I totally get you getting freaked by him being full on....I'm sorta getting that with new guy. He makes it very obvious he fancies me and I'm all embarrassed.
I've very little experience bar my ex who I was ten years with so very nervous about dtd

Meeting him in an hour aaaarrrrgggghhhh

Good luck :)

Yes, good luck ochristnotagain

Sounds positive Starskey80

I also think it sounds like a good decision to give things a try tanya

Good luck ohchrist enjoy yourself

Hi Everyone,

Not sure if what I'm doing qualifies as "dating" but it's always helpful to have some additional input and perspective.

I moved overseas last summer but when I flew back home at the end of the year, I met someone on Tinder. We had one non date (I was out with friends at a bar and he was there too) and then one proper date before I flew back home. Since then, we've been in contact constantly. In Feb/March this year, he booked tickets for us to go to a concert that we both really want to go to and we're meeting for a drink when I fly back home in a couple of weeks time.

Previously, I've had horrible luck with men and I've made terrible choices in the past but now in my early thirties, I'm incredible clear about what I want/don't want/will accept/won't accept etc. Even more so since I had my DD, her father was a classic example of one of my terrible choices

My biggest thing was, the next time I meet someone worth investing my energy into, I want to get to know them sloooooowly. You can't get much more slowly than long distance really. We don't have incredibly intense conversations or anything (which in some respects is a relief), he just comes across as a very straightforward nice guy.

I guess I don't need advice as such, it's just that I've hit that age where so many of my friends are married, having more children etc etc so it's nice to know that there's this corner of the web where people are having similar experiences :)

Date went really well I think! We had a good laugh and good conversation. We had a drunken kiss at the end and he's been in touch this morning. I think I quite fancy him.

So what now?! Do I wait for him to ask me out again??

ohchrist I'd leave it a couple of days and if he hasn't suggested anything then casually ask him.
I would normally send a, "are you up for meeting up again?" if nothing has been sorted by Wednesday, does the trick.

Starskey...It's okay. He's already asked!

Nice one
All good so

Hi LostQueen, that sounds really really positive. I agree you reach that age where frankly if they aren't ticking 8/10 boxes is rather be single, the way I look at is I rather enjoy dating and enjoy domestic bliss significantly less so the longer spent in the honeymoon period the better if you ask me. I'm in no hurry to wash anyone's socks again !

Hello again

Just wondering what is the 'norm' for them to reply to a text?

I am so used to being with someone who replies immediately to my texts. And I always try to reply immediately to anyone who texts me (where I can) - even if its a reply to say I'm too busy to chat but will get back to them soon.

As it stands with this dude, he's taking ages to reply to my texts (maybe a couple of hours or more)

I am overthinking this arent I?

Can I join please? Have been single for what feels like donkey's years and losing the will to live with online dating....

I think it's a bad sign if they reply to your texts immediately during the working day, haven't they got anything better to do ☺️
I don't play games but if I'm doing something with the kids I don't stop to answer a text from anybody !