DRY 12

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Old thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2584735-DRY-11?

The thread for people who want to kick the booze

This thread moves so fast! So I won't jump in with my two pennies worth, as I'm a bit late!

Just to offer to everyone, regardless of needing them or not, because are great. As are all of you.

I fell asleep again at 8pm last night! Partly due to the 2 hour swim we had, the sunshine, the run around the park, and then the impulsive (and costly) trip to the fairground that had opened as we were trying to leave the park!

Did anyone else notice how tired they are by 8pm in the the early AF days? It feels lovely, a natural tiredness, rather than a wretched end of the day hungover tired. Which I guess it is!

Normally I would have opened wine as soon as I got home, around 3pm (cos I had earned it, right), but I didn't. I made tea, tidied up, let DS go on the Xbox, then sorted out my reading for my dissertation this week. By the time I had done that the urge had passed.

So, here we are, on Day 8.

Morning All
Haven't been around much as dealing with a few issues with DS and my brain is totally focused on that at the minute. Haven't drank though, gifted wine still hiding at work, BBQ and a few other things that I'd definitely of found a way to drink at done sober. Woo!
Feel awful as I'm pretty sure these issues with DS have been here for a long time but with me being hungover most of the bloody time I've not been as observant, or maybe they haven't been and I'm just feeling crap -who knows but I'm glad I have a clear head to deal with them.
Who mentioned weight loss and 100 days? I've lost a little but not as much as I was expecting. Totally disheartened by that actually, what is going on??

Hello newly sober posters sorry can't name check, welcome
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Morning all and well done everyone - inspiring to read success stories

shark I was exhausted for the whole month when I did Dry Jan, I think it's completely normal and your body is beginning to recover.

Spent yesterday oiling doors ready to be re-hung after our recent building projects - a satisfying job but my hand felt crippled afterwards and my nails may never recover! Am now organising stuff for DS1 birthday tomorrow and as I was running through the list realised I have completely forgotten a cake! There's time to sort it out but how could I forget that?!

My own birthday night out is on Saturday - first one sober (apart from being pregnant) but so far am not feeling anxious about it. Think I will re-read all my sober books this week though and write down my thoughts/goals etc so it's all fresh in my mind. Not the sort of preparation I used to make for a night out!

Have a good day all sober warriors

Thank you for your advice yesterday Matron Vxa and Absolute.
It was all fine as it turns out. The first thing they said when we arrived was not to worry as they had settled their previous bill!!!
The evening was fine too, lots of laughs actually.........but the relationship is definitely not the same as it used to be, which is a real shame and because of everything that has happened with DH's daughter and how it was dealt with.

It was interesting sitting back and watching most of them, including DH get more and more pissed as the night went on.

To be fair though, he was a bit stressed as we'd had his DD and her two kids staying with us all weekend. She is very difficult, (understatement) orders him about and speaks to him really terribly most of the time, it's awful.......but he allows her to do so and always has done as long as I've known her, which is 19 years.....she's 31 now.

The kids are lovely but his DD puts conditions on everything and anything. It's pathetic really. However, what's different is that because I'm now AF and with the help of some reading about co-dependency that the wonderful Lucy recommended, I no longer get involved in their relationship side of things. It's his problem, he's 58 and he is old enough to sort it himself. It only serves to muddy the waters if I get involved with either of them and now that I'm handling it like that, I think he's seeing it and hearing exactly what's going on with a lot more clarity.
He doesn't need me to start nagging him too!

Lily how are you feeling today. I hope you have come to a decision that you are happy with.

JoJo that is a great idea to re -read books and blogs. I particularly love to back read the Mummy was a secret drinker blog....She is great. You will have a fabulous night on Saturday and you will be able to remember everything and then have a fantastic Sunday too.
Brilliant

Howbad thank you for your comments yesterday
You seem to have a lot going on a the moment. It feels like you have lots of scenarios playing in through your mind......it really cannot be easy for you but you know what, regardless of all of that, you are completely smashing living AF

Happy Monday ladies!

How are you today lily ?

Welcome Iam - 5 weeks is fantastic

boodles I feel exactly the same about the weight. I have stayed just about the same. I gravitate between being quite upset about it to thinking f?!! it.*

Like* how was last night. I was thinking of you X

Rose how are you today ? Is it Day 14 for you now ??

Love to all the wonderful ladies here xx

vxa hey thanks for being so good at counting my AF days now on Day 14 - had I crumbled on Friday night it would have been Day 3 lol :) really happy that I've made it this far and still reading Allen Carr book, body is tired though and have a killer headache - many a year of drinking for my body to detox!!

Salted Caramel green tea during the day and apple and raspberry sparkling water tonight - no way missing the hangovers that everyone else had on Saturday!!!

Love to you all, [smiley face] remember we are all amazing Sober Warriors :)

Vxa see the post before yours ........and thank you for thinking of me last night, that's a lovely feeling xx

Like happy to hear the evening went well :) And no worries re the book recommendation - so glad it has helped!
Rosewine salted caramel green tea?! Where did you get that? Is it nice & should I run out and get some now?
Sober warrior waves to all

Lucy Twinings Salted Caramel Green Tea currently on offer £2 per pack it's the best tasting green tea I've had and they also do a Cheery Bakewell one which is good too xx

Well done Rose on Day 14. Amazing! Your tea sounds delicious. Where is it from?

Still really struggling with tiredness, which is in direct contrast to how upbeat I feel!

So as soon as DS in bed I'll hit the books for a couple of hours then slope off to bed with my punk rock lavender, oat flower and lime tea.

Salted Caramel and Cherry Bakewell? My two favourite flavours in the whole world Sainsbury's stock yes?

Lucy yes Sainsburys have them offer as well

Here's a pic ☕️

I'm in a state. I have been gifted 3 bottles of my favourite champagne. I will leave it there because the excitement in my life at the moment is getting me off track and I don't want to pass those feelings on to this thread.

I cycled furiously and got muddled in the head and asked for a sign and the clouds looked like they do in the great religious paintings with the shards of sunlight and I thought that is my sign! I came home and the priest was waiting on my doorstep.

I feel unhinged today.

Matron sober treat stat. What have you got in the house? Can you go soak in bath once priest has gone? Nice AF drink to hand? Chocolate is my quick and dirty SOS treat

lucy I just had a whole packet of chocolate fingers. Priest has gone he comes to see DH.

I will try for a bath and early night. I have a few financial things that need doing first.

Are you OK. Matron?

Three bottles is not what you need to receive, as thoughtful a present as it is! Have you left it at work?

shark it's in my house. I no longer feel ill or regretful or like I have an issue with alcohol. It's my pattern. It's this part of the process I need to work through. If I can get over this hump I am convinced it will get easier.

Excellent matron sometimes hiding under the covers is the best option :)

DH just gave me a Becks blue. I got them when I got the AF wine and cider (neither of which I enjoyed). It's a revelation! BB is fantastic stuff and am I reading the calories correctly at 40 for a bottle or have I got that wrong?

Matron My a Fitness Pal has a 275ml bottle at 39 calories.
I also like San Miguel Alcohol free if you can get hold of that. I drank a few of them when I was in Spain in March. If tastes just like San Miguel..

Matron, you've got this

Quite possibly Matron but who cares? It's got less calories than booze and it works for you

x-post Like love San Miguel AF and Tesco's stocks I believe :)

likeaHurricane thank you! 39 calories is good news.

I'm calming down and getting a grip. The next month is a newly sober person's assault course. Party, holiday, reception, numerous catch ups, meet ups etc oh and the business lunches - which strangely I seemed to have nailed and they no longer phase me sober in fact they have improved sober.